What does it mean when a woman says "Let's just be friends"
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So because it is not your experience, it cant happen? ALL of my best friends are dudes I have fucked. Some I still do, others we have moved on from that part, and most have been in my life for a decade, or more.
You need to stop viewing women as being oh so different from you. We really aren't all that different.
So because it is not your experience, it cant happen? ALL of my best friends are dudes I have fucked. Some I still do, others we have moved on from that part, and most have been in my life for a decade, or more.
You need to stop viewing women as being oh so different from you. We really aren't all that different.
Some you're still having sex with? That is your answer. The others are probably still hopeful there'll be banging.
Men and women are different. Why would a man want to hear stories of all the men she's banging and he's not getting any.
Men and women are different. Why would a man want to hear stories of all the men she's banging and he's not getting any.
Interesting that ALL of your best friends have sampled the honey pot . Is that how you acquire male fiends by having them have a taste of the honey pot . You can't find a male friend with out having sex with them first . You know , hanging around with each other because you both each enjoy each others company .
It just goes to prove that you use sex to attract men .
Your best friends are hanging around to get a piece once in awhile . The others may have moved on but are hanging around just incase the honey pot is opened to them .
Men don't use sex to find lady friends . Men want lady friends to get sex . You think you know men but you really don't .
Cut off all of these buddies who you are having sex with and see what happens . See if they say anything , like what's going on here . See if they still have an interest in seeing you . I'll bet most of them will say see you later honey .
See exactly the point most guys make on here proven even though you pretend it’s different with you.
We get conditioned to act like this.
Best relationships with women are as fuck buddies playing the game.
Women are not interested in plutonic friendships unless they gain something out of it.
We get conditioned to act like this.
Best relationships with women are as fuck buddies playing the game.
Women are not interested in plutonic friendships unless they gain something out of it.
LOL. So silly. I have cut dudes off, and we are still awesome friends. Because I know to vet a decent person who isn't hung up on pussy like it's a drug. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but if you can't enjoy some awesome down time with a person as well, what's the fucking point?
And nice job on the slut shaming. Eye roll. I am poly, all my dudes know about each other, most get off on the idea. Others we just avoid talking details and focus on us time when we are together.
It's amazing what being open minded and mature will do for a person!
I also have a few female besties I have fucked as well. They also didn't take a hike if/when it ended. Because most people value having people in their life who do not judge them and who make them happy. It's all about how you treat people.
I am blessed to have so many good ones around me.
And nice job on the slut shaming. Eye roll. I am poly, all my dudes know about each other, most get off on the idea. Others we just avoid talking details and focus on us time when we are together.
It's amazing what being open minded and mature will do for a person!
I also have a few female besties I have fucked as well. They also didn't take a hike if/when it ended. Because most people value having people in their life who do not judge them and who make them happy. It's all about how you treat people.
I am blessed to have so many good ones around me.
This guy understands what women want in a man and he starts off by saying never listen to a woman about what she wants in a man lol and I can’t agree more with this ...there is what they say vs what they actually mean and want. Someone who actually really get’s it.
"Don't listen to a woman about what she wants" also "You have to look at it from a womans perspective"
SMH. But in general he isn't wrong.
It's realllly not that complicated. But instead of asking "What can I get?" more people should probably be asking, "What do I have to offer that sets me apart?"
SMH. But in general he isn't wrong.
It's realllly not that complicated. But instead of asking "What can I get?" more people should probably be asking, "What do I have to offer that sets me apart?"
It means I'll hang out with you if there is nothing on Netflix I want to watch or there's no Raptors / Jays/ Leafs game on or the guys are all busy with their SO. Really you are my fall back plan only if I'm not sleepy
I wouldn't say that's true. I have several platonic female friends. It's not something material we get out of it, but more of a kinship.
HOWEVER, I think it's extremely rare to go from a romantic relationship to a successful platonic one. Once that cat's out of the bag, it's nearly impossible to put it back in. Every platonic female friend I have started out that way to begin with.
my most recent ex of almost 5 years told me to "Let's Just Be friends" near the start too after hooking up a few times. So I kind of ghosted her for about a week or so and she got a little lonely I guess and we became exclusive after another few dates, and then a very nice relationship that made me almost propose.
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Awesome stuff, therapist's cream-dream thread topic for sures. :biggrin:
'Mindset' up until about 5 yrs ago......any chick who played the pussy-card to get/keep 'male buddies' around reeked of desperation! Used to think these chicks operated at the absolute very lowest denominator Delusional. Pathetic.
Flash-forward, these days, I actually have experienced that are some very cool chicks out there, that have a natural commanding presence, powerful energy that we can't help but to be drawn to them. Spark.....sexual-sensuous-spiritual synergy.
These women bring a helluva lot to the game . . . . . edgy, curious, adventurous, open, free, smart, strong, sexy ---- fragile, vulnerable, soft, sweet, girlie
Women who own their shit, who don't have to rely on tossing their pussies around like frisbee's have r-e-a-l confidence that the 'male pals' in their lives are for r-e-a-l.
I wouldn't disagree. It definitely took work to get here in my particular case, both from myself and the men in my life. We all had to get honest about what we wanted, and what actually works for us. Those arent always the same thing. In fact, rarely is it!
Hence why these particular relationships have taken years to develop to this point. And it wasn't always pretty, even if I joke and talk light about it now, it took blood, sweat, and tears and a real commitment to figuring it out.
Hence why these particular relationships have taken years to develop to this point. And it wasn't always pretty, even if I joke and talk light about it now, it took blood, sweat, and tears and a real commitment to figuring it out.
Sorry but I beg to differ . Jasmin clearly admits to fucking her best male friends first . She offered her honey pot to them . She didn't own her own shit . She used her pussy to catch these guys . In other words her honey pot became a Frisbee which was tossed around . Not once did she say that she befriended a guy and he became a best friend with out fucking him first . Get my point .
Why not just meet a guy . See that he's a nice guy and become good friends with that person . In her case that never happened . It was let's fuck and see what happens .
You did a good job reading things into my post that aren't there. I never said that I wasn't friends with some (most) of these men first. In fact, I was either friends with them first OR in a couple cases, they were/are ex boyfriends that became friends some time after the breakups and THEN the sex happened. In one case with a particular ex, we were platonic friends for an entire year before we crossed the sex line again. Like I said above, it took serious work and dedication on both parts, no one was deceived or tricked or lead on.
I am not saying I am not guilty of using my snatch as a weapon/reward with men many moons ago, but I can tell you those relationships did not end in closeness. Maybe a few very casual friends that I never actually talk to anymore, we just sorta cross facebook paths now and again.
I am not saying I am not guilty of using my snatch as a weapon/reward with men many moons ago, but I can tell you those relationships did not end in closeness. Maybe a few very casual friends that I never actually talk to anymore, we just sorta cross facebook paths now and again.
'In other words her honey pot became a Frisbee which was tossed around' :biggrin:
Toss'd up quotes because I thought it was interesting how Jasmina's comments evoked responses with entirely different P.O.V.'s
For the record, my comments are a stand-alone (solo).
For some of us, if chicks bring nothing else to the game, woman's pussy has no r-e-a-l power! If a woman tries to bait n' switch or dangle the proverbial 'carrot' (honey pot), we're like.....'get over yourself babe, really not that into you'.
In a very real way, rejection makes some women cream themselves. Dudes owning their shit makes women wet. Twisted, but true.
Sometimes the best relationships/friendships with the wildest dynamics are the ones with all the hot crazy sexual-tension and . . . . . you're NOT fucking!
I see two variant. The first one is she wants you to tell her about your feelings as she also likes you. The second one is she likes you like a friend, wants to spend time with you, but doesn't want to hurt you.
