What is a fair donation for a weekend trip away?

[swshowtime8]

Hi,

Very interested in thoughts on this from the TERB community…

Let’s say you have been seeing a certain lady for a while and her hourly rate is around the $250 point. The idea of a long-weekend trip away comes up and sounds very appealing to both. She has not really done any such trips before and would be open to a fair arrangement/fee for the weekend. Obviously, I would cover all travel expenses, meals, and activities (likely including some spa treatments and shopping). What do you think would be a fair daily fee or a fixed fee overall for the trip (let’s say 3 full days – like Thursday afternoon to Sunday morning).

I am not interested in low-balling – and just want to be fair. At the end of the day, if the lady does not feel the arrangement is fair and only begrudgingly agrees to it, then neither of us will likely have a good time.

Thanks!
S.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Hi,

Very interested in thoughts on this from the TERB community…

Let’s say you have been seeing a certain lady for a while and her hourly rate is around the $250 point. The idea of a long-weekend trip away comes up and sounds very appealing to both. She has not really done any such trips before and would be open to a fair arrangement/fee for the weekend. Obviously, I would cover all travel expenses, meals, and activities (likely including some spa treatments and shopping). What do you think would be a fair daily fee or a fixed fee overall for the trip (let’s say 3 full days – like Thursday afternoon to Sunday morning).

I am not interested in low-balling – and just want to be fair. At the end of the day, if the lady does not feel the arrangement is fair and only begrudgingly agrees to it, then neither of us will likely have a good time.

Thanks!
S.

Thursday 2.00 till midnight. 10 hours
Friday midnight till midnight Saturday 24 hours
Saturday midnight till 10.00 am 10 hours
Total 44 hours
Times $250.00 per hour $11000

 

[TeeJay]

Obviously, I would cover all travel expenses, meals, and activities (likely including some spa treatments and shopping). What do you think would be a fair daily fee or a fixed fee overall for the trip (let’s say 3 full days – like Thursday afternoon to Sunday morning).

The activities should be more than sufficient...

 

[JuanGoodman]

Thursday 2.00 till midnight. 10 hours
Friday midnight till midnight Saturday 24 hours
Saturday midnight till 10.00 am 10 hours
Total 44 hours
Times $250.00 per hour $11000

I think this is way overpriced. Most girl have travel rates, maybe 1000 to 1500 a day or 3000 to 5000 for the weekend.

But I would agree with TeeJay :"The activities should be more than sufficient... " if I was going on a weekend trip with an escort, it would only be with my regular and we would both treat it as a get away. If I had to pay her to be on a clock for that weekend I would rather use that money to pay for multiple visits than one weakened.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I think this is way overpriced. Most girl have travel rates, maybe 1000 to 1500 a day or 3000 to 5000 for the weekend.

But I would agree with TeeJay :"The activities should be more than sufficient... " if I was going on a weekend trip with an escort, it would only be with my regular and we would both treat it as a get away. If I had to pay her to be on a clock for that weekend I would rather use that money on multiple visits than one weakened.

He said he wasn't interested in low balling.

I am not interested in low-balling –

Thanks!
S.

 

[JuanGoodman]

He said he wasn't interested in low balling.

That's not low-balling, I would simply not go on a weekend trip with an escort that would want me to pay for her time. I would use that money on multiple visits. It's just my preference. A weekend trip with an escort is not something I would do. I would only do it with an escort I know well and we both needed a break and have fun. Strictly personal not business. If it has to be business I would rather spread it over multiple visits.

And I would be the last person to low ball or try to bring her rates down. It would just ruin the weekend even more.

And escorts have trip rates so its not low balling.

 

[shack]

That's not low-balling, I would simply not go on a weekend trip with an escort that would want me to pay for her time.

Then you shouldn't have replied with a useless answer.

$2,000 plus expenses is reasonable.

 

[swshowtime8]

Thanks for the feedback!

Would definitely not agree to calculating it strictly by the hour - but also feel it would only be fair to give a separate donation in addition to the activities. This has been helpful to narrow the fee window to be discussed as the lady does not have any travel rates set.

S.

 

[Ben19]

3-4K a day.

 

[surferboy]

Then you shouldn't have replied with a useless answer.

$2,000 plus expenses is reasonable.

Sounds like a resonable number. I would think it's a sliding scale, the better you get along & the more she like's your company the better the price. Rule number 2 of negotiating, start low...you can always go up! I did a Friday night & Saturday once & by Saturday afternoon I was ready to run

 

[G.D. Gentleman]

Some insight from experience if I may share:

Expectation varies just like it does in their escorting profession. Case in point - the escorts Ben19 typically visits are in the $300-700/hour club (this is well documented and kudos to him for making his budget work for those ladies) so his reply in post #9 of $3-4K/day is based on a working lady of that pricing as an escort.

While I dabble in the $300-700/hr escort club time to time (few times a year) I am in the $250-300/hr club with most of the members here on TERB - thankfully there are countless wonderful ladies who are Indy and of course part of the competing agencies we all enjoy and review here regularly.


The approach I have successfully enjoyed with two SP's previously, one for multiple trips (and the other for just one trip that was still quite amazing) has been:

1 - I was first a regular of hers - at least 10 visits in each case - to know the chemistry is strong between us. Asking an escort you only recently met/just met on a trip doesn't have the built up trust from many visits and little conversations strung together that being a regular of an escort will give you.

2 - Gauge their genuine interest in spending time with you and the destination you want to go to - If you're looking for a non-stop fuckfest, then just book her here locally - don't try to make your trip a fuckfest - at least the first trip with her - if you even have that stamina or think you have that stamina.

3 - Suggest a first over night trip somewhere like Niagara Falls or Montreal by train - as suggested already - before doing a 3-5 day trip away by plan.

Details of the agreement:
-All expenses paid, obviously.
-Discuss and be open to her having a private room (i.e. at the resort) - for me as I used to snore heavily, this was a respect of her sleep as much as respect of her preference to 'sleep' alone.
-Discuss the activities (high level) you would be doing together on the trip - non-bedroom - i.e. beach time, staying out all night partying, etc.
-Review drinking and drug use ahead of time - I avoided a couple ladies I loved seeing as escorts when I found out they would likely be seeking out blow and 'needed' it daily - no disrespect, just not for me.

Finally - agree ahead of time to how much time 'escorting' on the trip they will provide - for me it was 2 x 1 hour sessions a day - morning and night. Every 12 hours we rocked it out was my goal, giving me time to recharge/replenish, lol. For this I simply agreed to her usual $250/hour rate which turned into $1,500 or $2,000 for the 3-4 day trip.

In summary, gauge the $$ expectations of the SP you are considering (what they charge normally for escort work) and think through the structure of the trip you are offering - most of all - feel more than just a sexual desire/fuckfest in mind for the trip if you want it to go well and be memorable - otherwise as said, just spend the money on an overnight here locally paying her donation and discuss ahead of time your expectation of fucking all night.

Cheers Gents

 

[blueray]

Some insight from experience if I may share

...and very excellent insight it is!!!

 

[Don Draper]

Unless both of you have crossed into "FWB" territory and not the transactional (albeit comfortable) traditional arrangement of provider/customer, you're better off inviting a civilian.

I speak from experience on this.

 

[Mr Bret]

Some insight from experience if I may share:

Cheers Gents

...and very excellent insight it is!!!

Ditto bluejay's comment.
Great insights and advice.

 

[sp free]

All expenses plus $100 a day.

 

[FlorenceYi]

2-3k for the 3 days for her.

OR, simply ask her to come up with a number she thinks is fair - and then offer slightly above that. Lay out all the things you are offering to her - expenses paid, give her as detailed of an itinerary as possible, including 'play time' where you want it. That way she has an idea of what to expect, if you haven't spent significantly longer dates together. This will also set the groundwork for her to realize what she is getting out of the deal and so be more in your favour.

Whatever you decide on, there is some psychology behind this if she has never done this before and doesn't have a set price for travelling together. Also, do you want to keep seeing her regularly after the trip? If so, try to make her happy and exceed her expectation. She will have a number in mind - it may or may not be realistic. If you can meet or go above slightly that would make her the most engaging and responsive. Gifts and spa are nice, but the amount paid to her is what will dictate her level of engagement and anticipation on future dates with you.

 

[shack]

2-3k for the 3 days for her.

OR, simply ask her to come up with a number she thinks is fair - and then offer slightly above that. Lay out all the things you are offering to her - expenses paid, give her as detailed of an itinerary as possible, including 'play time' where you want it. That way she has an idea of what to expect, if you haven't spent significantly longer dates together. This will also set the groundwork for her to realize what she is getting out of the deal and so be more in your favour.

Whatever you decide on, there is some psychology behind this if she has never done this before and doesn't have a set price for travelling together. Also, do you want to keep seeing her regularly after the trip? If so, try to make her happy and exceed her expectation. She will have a number in mind - it may or may not be realistic. If you can meet or go above slightly that would make her the most engaging and responsive. Gifts and spa are nice, but the amount paid to her is what will dictate her level of engagement and anticipation on future dates with you.

Good and reasonable perspective from the lady's POV.

 

[G.D. Gentleman]

2-3k for the 3 days for her.

OR, simply ask her to come up with a number she thinks is fair - and then offer slightly above that. Lay out all the things you are offering to her - expenses paid, give her as detailed of an itinerary as possible, including 'play time' where you want it. That way she has an idea of what to expect, if you haven't spent significantly longer dates together. This will also set the groundwork for her to realize what she is getting out of the deal and so be more in your favour.

Whatever you decide on, there is some psychology behind this if she has never done this before and doesn't have a set price for travelling together. Also, do you want to keep seeing her regularly after the trip? If so, try to make her happy and exceed her expectation. She will have a number in mind - it may or may not be realistic. If you can meet or go above slightly that would make her the most engaging and responsive. Gifts and spa are nice, but the amount paid to her is what will dictate her level of engagement and anticipation on future dates with you.

Thank you Florence for your feedback/insight - it's always so appreciated.

If you look at my experience a few posts above, let's say for example you were the lady I choose - the approach would be to visit you regularly (10+ times) to earn each other's trust and mutual agreement of spending time together and then using your posted rates ($500/hour) my suggestion would be $1000/day for 2 x 1 hour fun sessions or - exactly as you suggest - $3k for 3 days plus all expenses.

And if I may say (trying not to gush here) - but to be a regular of yours who takes you away for 3 days as a birthday present to myself each year would make this gentleman happy beyond words.

Everything starts of course with a first visit...and I do confess as I have stated in my post, I only dabble a few times a year with the $300-700/hour ladies - you are my top choice when I do so next.

Cheers

 

[FlorenceYi]

Thank you Florence for your feedback/insight - it's always so appreciated.

If you look at my experience a few posts above, let's say for example you were the lady I choose - the approach would be to visit you regularly (10+ times) to earn each other's trust and mutual agreement of spending time together and then using your posted rates ($500/hour) my suggestion would be $1000/day for 2 x 1 hour fun sessions or - exactly as you suggest - $3k for 3 days plus all expenses.

And if I may say (trying not to gush here) - but to be a regular of yours who takes you away for 3 days as a birthday present to myself each year would make this gentleman happy beyond words.

Everything starts of course with a first visit...and I do confess as I have stated in my post, I only dabble a few times a year with the $300-700/hour ladies - you are my top choice when I do so next.

Cheers

You are too sweet, thank you. But I can guarantee with almost 100% certainty that it would not take 10 sessions for us to build mutual trust with one another.. I get constantly told that I make gentlemen feel right at home. It is not uncommon for my clients who do eventually want longer experiences to go from 1hr straight to overnight on the very next session lol. =]

Also, 10 sessions is quite ambitious! I would encourage 10 sessions split between 3-5 providers, and maybe some of us in the same room at that! I just had the pleasure to meet Violet Lee (Twitter @VioletLee_xo) - she sure is tasty.. I was just telling her how scrumptious it would be to do an overnight with her beside me.. *head spins*

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Just make sure you dont get this one........

Meena Maraj - a Grifter’s Tale
Meena Maraj

aka Bollywood Courtesan (advertised here and Leo summer 2018)

aka Mindy Markle (advertised on Leo in Dec/Jan 2018 and 2019



(so many aka’s hmm?)

I have only posted positive reviews and have never thought I would have to post a negative review. Since there is a large amount of cash that has been stolen from me, here goes:

Fast forward to May 2019

I invited her for a four day weekend away to a resort to do activities together and have plenty of sex while we are away.

Arrived at our destination and I suggested we have sex which was declined citing being tired and she gets 3 hours personal time per her SB rules. A rule I was unaware of that the 3 hour personal time could be used to avoid sex.

Asked about morning sex and was told again that was her 3 hour personal time and she was going to workout. Back to back 3 hour personal times, ok wow. FML.

I mentioned we had booked up the afternoon doing something together. I finally asked 'are we going to have sex on this trip? My expectations are to have sex daily.' Losing her temper as fast as you can snap your fingers is her normal behaviour and she went from normal to full on crazy in 5 microseconds. Clearly she was having no sex by choice and was quite loud conveying it.

Day one, no sex.

We went to our spa activity and chose to get some food before going back to the hotel.

I attempted to get her to clue in again that I'd like to have sex. She quietly said her stomach was upset and needed to relax for a while. Rather than use the 3 hour personal time, she opted for the tummy ache. We had the identical meals at lunch and I was 100% ok. If one is to get an upset stomach, I am usually the first one.

Day two, no sex

The third day we had an awesome time in the great outdoors. After lunch we went back to the hotel. I shaved and showered in anticipation that we would get intimate. I broached the subject and she commented, 'yah in a while' which sounded unenthusiastic and not sincere. Four periods of playoff hockey later I asked again. Once again she totally lost her shit and was so loud neighbours could hear everything she said while sitting outside our room. So much for any client provider discretion that is mutually important. She totally outed ourselves to guests and employees nearby.

Day three, no sex.

Things went totally off the rails at this point and it was hopeless having a mature conversation in an attempt to fix things.

The lack of professionalism should be the main thing anyone who is considering seeing her should be aware of with this escort. Her over the top loud yelling and making crazy statements in front of civilians is quite alarming. I reminded her a few times that several people were nearby and she said she just didn’t care.

Four days away, zero sex - a very expensive lesson learned. Choose an SP who is sincerely wanting to play in the bedroom and do activities together. Just not this particular SP. Unless of course you are wanting the Total Bitch GF Blueballing Experience; she's your girl.


She advertises on Seeking Arrangements and this is intended to warn potential pooners on that site who pay for play with the hope that her talk turns into action. She had no problem taking my money and blueballing me all weekend. I think it gave her some twisted sense of joy to see me all pent up and sexually frustrated.

Sure there may be White Knights around who will chime in saying their interactions with her were great. I used to be in that group too but after seeing her 100 + times, I know her behaviour and have seen the loud ranting raving version who can not dial it down even when civilians are able to hear every word.

Reading this review, one must be wondering why I stuck in it for so long. It's a very good question and here is how her other distinct personality comes through. She can be sweet, vulnerable and manages to wrap you up to be a supportive person while the rest of the world is against her. It's during these times she will coyly ask for the donation to be topped up to help with some of the obstacles she encounters on a regular basis.

So in addition to being blueballed, I would now have a lot of difficulty going back to the resort I have visited numerous times because of her public tantrum about “client, SP, Escort and sex”

If you add all of this up, it shows it was a carefully laid plan to get maximum amount of donation out of me for the weekend and extending the hours I had prepaid.

The total amount Grifted:

Cost of trip: $6K +
Amount of hours I have on credit with her is 18 at $375 hour or $6750. She is ignoring me now and I won’t see the money. By her own rules, if she terminated the arrangement, I would get all money returned to me. Conversely, if I terminated it, there would be no refund. She clearly stated she was “terminating our arrangement”.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

It took me too long to realize this person I was visiting had such a dark side who was quite evil and frightening when I was faced with the anger, contempt and total disrespect she had for me.

If you feel the desire to fill your 'Indian' scorecard, there are three other great South Asian ladies whom I've also visited that advertise on this board. All three I am mentioning are all top providers who maintain their professionalism every time I've seen them. Check my reviews for their names. I didn't want to have their names searchable in this thread.

Caveat Emptor.