Do you regret getting married or having children
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That is some righteous shit there bro... :biggrin:
Anybody can have a kid but not everybody should.
Marriage for love is/was a fad nurtured and heavily promoted during the 20th century. For virtually all of human history, it was understood that marriage or pair-bonding involving kids was very much a business transaction. Those that are capable of seeing "love" as a bonus rather than a necessity may have more 'success' in marriage.
I think with an ego as large as yours, you should just marry yourself.
Seriously, you see the main advantage to getting married is to procreate so that you can impart you vast knowledge unto your offspring...?
Hard to imagine why the ladies aren't beating your door down.
I don't regret kids, but perhaps marriage... I wouldn't have my situation if I did not get married.
Kids are amazing and I do not regret having them. My stress level and amount of grey hair have grown and I know I'll die sooner, but once you see those little buggers take their first breath, your perspective changes. You love them, want the best for them and want to be there for them.
I don't have those same feelings for their Mom though... After the kids, marriage and my wife have been another source of frustration and stress. She's a good person, but we just on a different wavelength. I'm sure my wife feels the same way.
I realize that my kids will become adults and in the process they will change. They might tell me to fuck off, die of an overdose or traffic accident, fuck people for cash or become doctors.
Do your best. You'll do even better in your next life.
Kids are amazing and I do not regret having them. My stress level and amount of grey hair have grown and I know I'll die sooner, but once you see those little buggers take their first breath, your perspective changes. You love them, want the best for them and want to be there for them.
I don't have those same feelings for their Mom though... After the kids, marriage and my wife have been another source of frustration and stress. She's a good person, but we just on a different wavelength. I'm sure my wife feels the same way.
I realize that my kids will become adults and in the process they will change. They might tell me to fuck off, die of an overdose or traffic accident, fuck people for cash or become doctors.
Do your best. You'll do even better in your next life.
PS - I still believe in romance and finding a true partner. It is tough to find, but you can have a lot of fun on the way.
Your kids can have that opportunity too.
Your kids can have that opportunity too.
Brutal, brave assessment . . . . . Agree 100%
Sometimes reading posts from some of the guys around here, I'm like . . . . . fuckin gross! These momo's have no idea how much they make some of us gag!
Heads-up, if you're constantly dropping down on your knees sucking the Lady-balls of some of the deeeeeeelusional mofo's on the board, seeking some sort of warped, fucked-up 'validation'. Sorry, you've got issues!
REAL women bring-out the best in us! We naturally respond to their 'POWER'. Our natural primal, animal . . . . . to nourish, to heal, to protect
I don't think I'm alone, totally sure some of us sometimes look around and say to ourselves, WTF???? Where the fuck have the REAL men gone?
'Being a Man'??????
Having the courage to pursue our passion/s with conviction and comittement?
Struggling, slaying our inner demons . . . . . being better brothers to each other? better daddy's to our loved ones?
Helping others discover or re-discover their 'POWER', to help harness and channel it?
Power of the Universe, Our Tribe . . . . . . to push, lift, bring out the best in each other?
. . . . . .. to leave this world better than we found it
mykey
Being a father made me a much better man. Far less selfish, petty, distracted by unimportant things. I get far more joy from the accomplishments of my kids and nieces / nephews than I do mine. I have more “stuff” than I need, I’ve traveled around the world, but to do things with the kids (this March they all learned to dive in HI) was incredible. There is something about helping a kid achieve something that is incredibly fulfilling.
My problem is all the “Kids” are in University or graduating. My daughter just got married, I’m hoping she puts the next team on the field in a couple years. It’s been too long since a baby threw up on me or I stepped on a lego.
My problem is all the “Kids” are in University or graduating. My daughter just got married, I’m hoping she puts the next team on the field in a couple years. It’s been too long since a baby threw up on me or I stepped on a lego.
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implied69
How many men do we have these days that women are afraid to lose? Alpha males are making more than ever but there is not enough of them.
The average man started making less than the father in Canada(when the father was the same age)in 1977 in inflation adjusted dollars.
There are more women than men in university and the majority of union jobs are women working for the government as opposed to men in factories decades ago.
In fact, many women do not even need an alpha male. They may entertain the thought of having one. He could be an asset if she can find one. And she could always conveniently discover he has bad breath after the kids are born.
We reached a stalemate in the west a long time ago.
Great question op. Totally don't regret having kids, amazing creations who give me a meaning in life. On the other hand my SO turns more and more into a cynical, selfish and narcissistic individual... so yeah ironically marriage is a no - Almost a breaking bad situation except I don't own a trailer!!
I have been married for way too long and have more than 2 kids. Have so much fun with my kids but have no feelings for my wife after years and years of marriage, her voice annoys me, face annoys me, personality annoys me, can't stand her but she takes care of the household, is a hard worker and handles the kids better than me so I stay with her and pretend to be happy, if there was a way to have and take care of kids with no wife or girlfriend to worry about I would choose kids over a wife and marriage but unfortunately it does not work that way.
When I get the itch I go out and see an escort and that keeps me happy for a few months but even that is getting boring now, been seeing escorts since the early 1990's when I was in university when there were Now magazine hooker ads, escorts are getting stale now, seen probably 500 escorts in my life, online porn (videos, pictures, live cam websites) is all boring now, seen and done it all in terms of having hot kinky sex with new beautiful women, need a new hobby to keep me happy I guess. Lesson here is don't get married, stay single, happy and free.
When I get the itch I go out and see an escort and that keeps me happy for a few months but even that is getting boring now, been seeing escorts since the early 1990's when I was in university when there were Now magazine hooker ads, escorts are getting stale now, seen probably 500 escorts in my life, online porn (videos, pictures, live cam websites) is all boring now, seen and done it all in terms of having hot kinky sex with new beautiful women, need a new hobby to keep me happy I guess. Lesson here is don't get married, stay single, happy and free.
I sound like the exception. I've been with the same woman for almost 20 years and we're still madly in love. The sex is still great and our relationship works because we have many things in common. I also much prefer free bareback sex with her just about any time I want over paying for expensive covered FS with SPs. We also go to swingers clubs and have FMF and MFM threesomes and play with couples from time to time. So no, no regrets!
