To the guys: Why?
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I have John Henry on ignore so I didn't see his post until you quoted. He has a hate on for me
But to answer the question, I just posted a double standard thread about how women treat male strippers vrs men who are better behaved. I ask about both sides. He just sees what he wants.
I think this is a great discussion that people are enjoying.
And like you said, why did he honk? LOL
I didn't think of it that way. As a thanks for adding positivity to his day. Society does seem to teach us that it is a vulgar act. When it may be just like you said.
I think some men are vulgar about it though. Not this guy. It was a quick honk. And if it happened once in a while, it could be flattering but I guess because as women, we are hit on all the time, it becomes tiresome. Then after more time, it becomes annoying. Which may not be fair since the guy is only doing it once. But for us, it is multiple times. Different side of the experience make a big difference in perspective.
Cat calling has probably been going on since horse and buggy days. It may be a trait.
I was once with a driver downtown who literally steered into a cop car because of staring down a girl.
Some can't help themselves.
I was once with a driver downtown who literally steered into a cop car because of staring down a girl.
Some can't help themselves.
Good question / good thread
First of, I admit that I am guilty of doing so (when I was younger). I think every guy has, and if he hasn't, he's either lying or thought about honking.
Second, to answer your question, we do it because it is our nature. Our male brain sees an attractive lady and 90% of it shuts of and the part that is controlled by hormones starts making the decision.
Also, because there is no way for the lady to tell us off, seeing as we are in a car, it makes it easier to "just do what we want". Obviously its a lot less possible in a bar, but when there are no repercussions, boys will be boys.
Sadly, I don't condone this, and I understand your disgust and disdain, but I imagine it is quite common.
You should wear a shirt with words printed on the back saying saying: "If you honk at me while I'm jogging, you're probably a lazy ass".
Regards,
First of, I admit that I am guilty of doing so (when I was younger). I think every guy has, and if he hasn't, he's either lying or thought about honking.
Second, to answer your question, we do it because it is our nature. Our male brain sees an attractive lady and 90% of it shuts of and the part that is controlled by hormones starts making the decision.
Also, because there is no way for the lady to tell us off, seeing as we are in a car, it makes it easier to "just do what we want". Obviously its a lot less possible in a bar, but when there are no repercussions, boys will be boys.
Sadly, I don't condone this, and I understand your disgust and disdain, but I imagine it is quite common.
You should wear a shirt with words printed on the back saying saying: "If you honk at me while I'm jogging, you're probably a lazy ass".
Regards,
A buddy of mine from high school met his wife by honking at her while she was walking down the street. She smiled and waved when he honked so he pulled over, chatted her up for awhile, got her number, and they started dating.
It’s a strategy for meeting women. If you hit on women all the time...everywhere you go...in every situation...you will get turned down a lot but from time to time you hit pay dirt.
Unfortunately, my buddy’s marriage did not last very long...but as he got older he moved away from this strategy because it also tends to create the impression amongst your friends and co-workers that you’re kind of an asshole. In your 20’s that doesn’t bother guys so much but as you get older it’s not a good look. But back in the day my buddy used to get laid all the time and the girls he picked up were always gorgeous.
It’s a strategy for meeting women. If you hit on women all the time...everywhere you go...in every situation...you will get turned down a lot but from time to time you hit pay dirt.
Unfortunately, my buddy’s marriage did not last very long...but as he got older he moved away from this strategy because it also tends to create the impression amongst your friends and co-workers that you’re kind of an asshole. In your 20’s that doesn’t bother guys so much but as you get older it’s not a good look. But back in the day my buddy used to get laid all the time and the girls he picked up were always gorgeous.
I have a hate on you . That is pure nonsense . What I don't like is the way you speak about men . One guy says Hi to you and you think that he wants in your pants . You have posts proving that . I guy honks at you and you think that he is hitting on you . That he wants you to give him a blow job . How is that me seeing what I want . Everything is about sex to you . You seem to think that every guy who does a double look at you wants to get in your pants . That's the furthest thing from the truth .
You have me on ignore because you can't handle the truth when I point out your nonsense
This is not a fun thread . It's another of your male bashing threads . Like I said you have a problem with men . You think they all want to screw you .
You said that 90% of women don't like the attention that they get from men . Where is proof ???? You are stating facts . What survey did you read this in . I beg to differ . If done in polite nice way they love the attention . Maybe you don't see it that way but may women do . I know because of the nice smiles that I get back at me . Not once have I had a women freak out on me for smiling at her or telling her how lovely she looks today or even saying Hi . Not once .
All I'm doing is calling you out in what you are saying . Now if you're afraid to read me calling you out than so be it .
Don't state facts if you can't back them up .
Be thankful that men are still willing to look at you and honk their horn at you . There will come a day when that will no longer happen and that means that you are no longer an attractive lady .
You can do the same if you like . Wouldn't bother me a bit .
Welcome to the White Knight Club . Maybe you'll get a freebee . Just don't honk a horn . LMFAO .
I don't think she can see your comments, Dartz has me on ignore, some people just are like oil and water.
My wife is a civil engineer and she always tells me about working with construction guys, some of them she finds flattering, rare ones do say stupid shit, but she has the construction mouth so knows how to put them in their place. But she is also no hypocrite, her best friend is in the army and her favourite activities when visiting her is to sit on the front porch watching the Male troops working out. If women were honest and admitted that they are just like most men, there be no issue.
Likewise, if men were honest and admitted they were just like women, the issues would go away. But we are not "just like" each other. Not by a long shot.
That's why we long ago came up with ideas like politeness, courtesy and decent behaviour — as well as laws and punishments for those who can't manage that easier stuff — and there'd be no issue if we just stuck with doing those right things, instead of what we think we can get away with 'cause our buddies are doing it too.
I have had that. Was out with Parker for lunch last year, and a guy literally almost walked into my tits because he was staring at them so hard. LOLHailey♥4U;6479896 said:
This is a great answer. Thank you. To be clear, I’m not disgusted. Not at all. Part of my is “ugh” because I know I look like shit in the morning and so I don’t get it. And then I just don’t get the act of it itself. So I asked and you gave a great answer.
Haha, no. At least I don’t think so. But then that brings up another point. There have been times when I just don’t feel sexy or attractive at all, and apparantly, at the time, I am. So I could be covered in sweat and dirt from gardening, feeling like I look like hell and still turning a guy on at the same time.
I think that is part of what makes women go “ugh” because we don’t see it or feel it and you guys do. SO we think you are off the wall. LOL
That is a great story!
I can understand that to. The game of numbers, but then I wonder how many men actually turn around if waved at????? Like how often would this tactic work. I can’t see it being very successful. Especially with how women have expressed their personal upsets by this. The whole #metoo movement brought about awareness to women’s feelings on this. So I can’t see based on that, how this “move” would work well even based on the game of numbers.
But thanks, that is also a good answer
Yes- according to him, I’m the head of the big bad Vagina Corp, here to distroy men around the world. LOL
Honestly, it is just protection. Look at his posting history. He has a hate for all women really. I shouldn’t feel special. LOL
I’m mean no else across 3 boards, took this as a male bashing thread like he has, even when there is no actual bashing of men, because I have not said anything bad about the behaviour or the man or men for doing it, and after I even said it is not male bashing thread. I mean what more can a woman do, LMAO.
Some one else on another board said the same thing. To anxious to speak directly to women so this is how they do it. Which is sad. They have the fear and woman don’t help, I know this. Some women can make it very hard to be approached.
That is just mean. LOL
Which is fine for me because I have never needed a man’s attention to define myself, but for some women, I can see this being an issue. I know a girl who got upset that male strippers in a club didn’t want to talk to her for free. I even said, “Now you know how men feel” LOL
Women are hypocrites. I wrote that in my double standard thread about strippers. Men have to behave, not touch, not make lude comments, etc but women are horrible. Touchy, grabbing, screaming and carrying on.
I really wish more men would call out women on their behaviour, but sadly it is usually women hating men who call out shit that makes no sense instead of focusing on the real issues. Women want equal pay, how about equal parental rights in return. But that is a topic for another day.
So then back to the question of why???? LOL
and sorry but was that suppose to hurt me, I think not. Maybe you should have not wasted your time on me either. LMAO
By the way, Jessica, I really like how you join in on post discussions and post discussion topics. I wish more SPs would do that. It makes this forum 1.5x better. And great answer to hamermill, no idea what that post was going for, but you are so classy and your sense of humor gets a loud 'honk' from me :yo:
I never got it myself. Even if I see a smoking hot 10/10 all done up in a dress and stilettos I'm not gonna honk at her. Not because I'm some hyper male feminist or anything but just because I really don't know what that would accomplish.
I guess if a guy is with their friends (think the stereotypical group of construction workers) it can be a macho thing to do to impress them and that would be the purpose.
But as far as why someone would honk at you while you look like shit (your words not mine), guys are into all sorts of weird shit. Some dudes might prefer the "rougher" look. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yada yada.
I guess if a guy is with their friends (think the stereotypical group of construction workers) it can be a macho thing to do to impress them and that would be the purpose.
But as far as why someone would honk at you while you look like shit (your words not mine), guys are into all sorts of weird shit. Some dudes might prefer the "rougher" look. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yada yada.
That is basically my question as well. What is the purpose? What does it accomplish?
But the responses have given me some ideas. I get the macho thing, I didn't think about the thank you aspect and I can admit that while low in probability it does happen where women do respond on a connection happens.
Side note: I do have to ask, did you really feel the need to make note that I personally said I looked like shit? Meaning, did you feel I was going to attack you for the comments if you didn't remind me they were my words? I would like to try and change some of my posting behaviour if I think it will help explain myself better to others. I find Or I think anyway, that I am misunderstood sometimes. I don't want people to feel they have to do or say something to prevent backlash. Sorry to put you on the spot, but this is the perfect chance for me to ask. PM if you can please. Thanks.
Thanks! It is nice to know some do get me. LOL.
I know some women just can't or don't want to handle the general negative tone that comes across from some members. Also, this is a business for most and they can't risk a business opportunity on personal opinion. I don't have to worry about that and I never worry about the haters period. That is something that is not worth anyone's time.
