Hate being single!

[Bigdaug]

My ex and i broke up last year. I thought she was it for me but didn t work out. Now almost all my freinds from my 20 s are either married or moved away. The last ten years or so i ve pretty much had a girlfreind and i would always hang out with her. We would do everything together when i wasn t working. Vacations weekends hiking movies long drives fishing hitting the beach in the summer festivals. Tons of sex. Now i ve been single for almost year and its fucking boring. I still have a few people i hang out with buts its like 2 people.

I ve dated quite a bit but there really isnt a whole lot out there. Seems to be getting worse. The girl i went out with was great she had a huge (cousins) family and we d hang out with them. It was always quite entertaining.

Any single people out there how you liking it?

 

[studentjohn]

I would like to get married but I am very happy being single. It's much cheaper being single too.

 

[unassuming]

Love being single, save a lot of money that way.

I don't date anymore, when I want to get laid, I just call up my regular SP.

We also love hanging out with one another as we do the "dinner and a movie thing " pretty much weekly, we split the cost for food/movie.

Also it gives my ego a boost being seen in public with a pretty young lady (she's 1/2 my age) as we hold hands and kiss!

 

[J.A. Prufrock]

Wife left me several years ago, after we'd been together 19 years. I doubt I'll ever get over it. I haven't dated since, in part because I don't want to risk being burned again, but also because I feel my options are limited in my mid-50s.
Virtually all of my friends are married, some with kids, so we don't hang out much. I spend a lot of time in coffee shops (like right now, reading sites like this) and usually have a couple of beers and some wings at a local BWW once a week.
I am committed to physical fitness and spend two hours a day at the gym. I'm in great shape, especially for my age. It's probably the only thing that makes me feel good about myself. And I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say it might have saved my life (that and living for my kids) because I've experienced many dark days.
I hate being alone, but I haven't given up hope that things will get better.

 

[Grimnul]

Personally, I see it as a grass is always greener scenario. When you’re in a relationship, you get companionship, regular sex, a partner in life, and you get consistency. On the other hand, when you’re single, you have more freedom, more money, a more flexible schedule, you can have sex with as many people as you want (or can, I suppose). There are benefits and drawbacks either way. I enjoy being single, I enjoy being in a relationship. I see it as a lateral move. One is not better than the other, they’re just different.

Just my take, I suppose it depends on what you want out of life. For some people, one may be preferable to the other.

 

[bazokajoe]

I'm 55 and never been married and no need to get married. Haven't dated for years and don't see the need to.
Get some hobbies.
You haven't found things to do in your free time.That's why you think being single sucks.

 

[RZG]

You sound like you`re very down, I suspect you are young-ish too. I`m likely twice your age and here`s some hard to swallow truthful advice. Do not ever count on a woman to make you happy or feel fulfilled with yourself. I second the recommendation to get to a gym, 100% feel better mentally and physically in short order. How about taking a riding course and buying a motorcycle? Right now I`m looking at a Recreational Pilots License.. ever think about that? Get out to some concerts, do the CN tower edge walk, go for a ride in a tank at the Oshawa armor regiment, go to Vegas and fire machine guns. Go to San Francisco, grab a car and drive the PCH south. There is a shit ton of fun out there to be had, get out there. I`m familiar with feeling down and wondering WTF about things. Do your absolute best to practice active coping,... accept, adapt, engage problems head on and make plans and follow up on them. Practice radical acceptance...see things or women as they are, not what you wish they were, not as you think they should be and not as you are afraid they might be. Shake things up hard for yourself. Being single is a challenge sometimes, as I`ve mentioned before I have a number of married and common law friends, all these guys have said "I wish I was in your shoes" lotsa` times. Finally..FWIW, we are on Terb, go have some fun with any of the lovely women here. Remember. .keep your life fun, keep it light... Van Halen!!!

 

[J.A. Prufrock]

Great advice, RZG, that even us older guys can take.
I had many rough days after my marriage failed (it’s really bad when you’re looking up suicide methods on the Internet), but I’ve since found much motivation to keep me going. Like I said in my previous post, exercising has been incredibly therapeutic and I can’t recommend it enough. Wish I would have started sooner. I’ve lost a lot of weight, get complimented often and it’s increased my self-esteem and self-confidence exponentially. When you look better and can outwork guys half your age, people notice.
I would tell the OP to seek out that one thing in life that makes him feel better about himself, that he looks forward to doing on a regular basis, and focus on that.

 

[kastoric]

All the guys that said they're happy and content being single are full of shit. They wouldn't be here if they were.

 

[superstar_88]

I am committed to physical fitness and spend two hours a day at the gym. I'm in great shape, especially for my age.

2 hrs a day at the gym you better be in good shape otherwise you're doing it all wrong and wasting your time.

 

[superstar_88]

Personally, I see it as a grass is always greener scenario. When you’re in a relationship, you get companionship, regular sex, a partner in life, and you get consistency. On the other hand, when you’re single, you have more freedom, more money, a more flexible schedule, you can have sex with as many people as you want (or can, I suppose). There are benefits and drawbacks either way. I enjoy being single, I enjoy being in a relationship. I see it as a lateral move. One is not better than the other, they’re just different.

Just my take, I suppose it depends on what you want out of life. For some people, one may be preferable to the other.

Same, except it's not more freedom. It's total freedom. Have to answer to no one. Go as one pleases. Of course where you're going no one is going with you.

 

[superstar_88]

I'm 55 and never been married and no need to get married. Haven't dated for years and don't see the need to.
Get some hobbies.
You haven't found things to do in your free time.That's why you think being single sucks.

You are a wise man for your age.

 

[Smallcock]

Relationships are like going to a party. After a few hours at the party, I regret going (9 times out of 10). The same BS, with the same personalities, only the faces change. That leaves 10% for exceptions.

 

[superstar_88]

You sound like you`re very down, I suspect you are young-ish too. I`m likely twice your age and here`s some hard to swallow truthful advice. Do not ever count on a woman to make you happy or feel fulfilled with yourself. I second the recommendation to get to a gym, 100% feel better mentally and physically in short order. How about taking a riding course and buying a motorcycle? Right now I`m looking at a Recreational Pilots License.. ever think about that? Get out to some concerts, do the CN tower edge walk, go for a ride in a tank at the Oshawa armor regiment, go to Vegas and fire machine guns. Go to San Francisco, grab a car and drive the PCH south. There is a shit ton of fun out there to be had, get out there. I`m familiar with feeling down and wondering WTF about things. Do your absolute best to practice active coping,... accept, adapt, engage problems head on and make plans and follow up on them. Practice radical acceptance...see things or women as they are, not what you wish they were, not as you think they should be and not as you are afraid they might be. Shake things up hard for yourself. Being single is a challenge sometimes, as I`ve mentioned before I have a number of married and common law friends, all these guys have said "I wish I was in your shoes" lotsa` times. Finally..FWIW, we are on Terb, go have some fun with any of the lovely women here. Remember. .keep your life fun, keep it light... Van Halen!!!

So much wisdom provided to the youngans.

 

[superstar_88]

All the guys that said they're happy and content being single are full of shit. They wouldn't be here if they were.

How about all the guys who say they are happy and content being married? You make it sound like only unhappy and bitter people are on Terb. You also sound young. You have a lot to learn in life.

 

[Grimnul]

All the guys that said they're happy and content being single are full of shit. They wouldn't be here if they were.

This is stupid on many, many levels.

 

[Insidious Von]

All the guys that said they're happy and content being single are full of shit. They wouldn't be here if they were.

It's all relative kastoric.

I've been single all my life, happiness is over-rated. Went to a social last week and a woman showed interest in me. Not wanting to lead her on I told her about myself. I was forced to retire early due to a car accident, my health is not where I want it to be. She lost interest, if she can't accept me as I am, I'm not going to lose sleep over her.

When your single this is the most important item!

 

[jcpro]

All the guys that said they're happy and content being single are full of shit. They wouldn't be here if they were.

The are two kinds of single- by choice and by necessity. The trick to being single and happy is to like yourself, it's as simple as that. We, single and not single, are here for variety of reasons. Wanting more relationship is not one of them.

 

[hamermill]

Op order a bride or groom from Philippines.

 

[black booty lover]

Like some others have said, I'm in my mid 40's, single with no kids and fucking love it. I will admit I've heartbroken a few times to the point where I thought I wouldn't be able to go without the women that dumped me, but time heals and also changes the way you view things. I have this very simple life with no responsibilities, and total independence. Whenever I need some love I call my regular SP.

Having that said, I feel like when I'm in my late 50's I'll hopefully meet a single women that I can hang out in Florida with while I wear my white shorts...lol.