Thinking.
O.k. Here's the thing; you're going to have to lie to her. If you take up this hobby you will have to lie to your wife, to her face, probably more than once. And it will be a lie about you being unfaithful. Think on that. REALLY FUCKING THINK ON THAT. If you're cool with that, then giddy-up. A paramour HAS saved marriages. Truly they have, however, they have also completely destroyed marriages. Next you need to consider if this is a one time thing, or an ongoing thing? If it's a one time thing, can you live with it? If you can,...giddy-up. If you can't, don't do it. Next, if it's an ongoing thing you DO run the risk of caring less and less about your wife. You do. Don't fool yourself. If intimacy fades from a relationship, for men specifically, the relationship has a very strong chance of ending period. It's complicated and I'm not going to get into it here, but it essentially involves our first memory of a woman paying attention to us. And THAT is the real problem here: shes' not paying attention to you anymore. And THAT needs to be fixed if the relationship is to survive. There are other things to consider, what if by chance you contract an STI, even a minor one, what do you do? It can happen even with protection and don't believe the BS that it can't. HPV and HSV can can both be transmitted to areas other than your penis, thus the condom will be meaningless. How do you explain that?
Look you want to have a tryst, for fucks sake, have a tryst, just don't fool yourself that it's meaningless fun. It isn't meaningless.
Work on your marriage...please...seriously, don't fuck it up. My life is a ruin because my marriage ended. Wasn't my doing or fault, but if I could turn back the clock, oh sweet jesus, I would.
O.k. Here's the thing; you're going to have to lie to her. If you take up this hobby you will have to lie to your wife, to her face, probably more than once. And it will be a lie about you being unfaithful. Think on that. REALLY FUCKING THINK ON THAT. If you're cool with that, then giddy-up. A paramour HAS saved marriages. Truly they have, however, they have also completely destroyed marriages. Next you need to consider if this is a one time thing, or an ongoing thing? If it's a one time thing, can you live with it? If you can,...giddy-up. If you can't, don't do it. Next, if it's an ongoing thing you DO run the risk of caring less and less about your wife. You do. Don't fool yourself. If intimacy fades from a relationship, for men specifically, the relationship has a very strong chance of ending period. It's complicated and I'm not going to get into it here, but it essentially involves our first memory of a woman paying attention to us. And THAT is the real problem here: shes' not paying attention to you anymore. And THAT needs to be fixed if the relationship is to survive. There are other things to consider, what if by chance you contract an STI, even a minor one, what do you do? It can happen even with protection and don't believe the BS that it can't. HPV and HSV can can both be transmitted to areas other than your penis, thus the condom will be meaningless. How do you explain that?
Look you want to have a tryst, for fucks sake, have a tryst, just don't fool yourself that it's meaningless fun. It isn't meaningless.
Work on your marriage...please...seriously, don't fuck it up. My life is a ruin because my marriage ended. Wasn't my doing or fault, but if I could turn back the clock, oh sweet jesus, I would.