You have no idea how scary this shit is. Never in a million years would I have ever saw it coming. I'm living it along with one of the more popular SP's on this site.
SPs jealous?
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It's unbelievable how many disrespectful people there are out there. I cannot imagine expecting a SP to provide a reference without talking to her about it first.
Outside of this world, I've had that happen as an employer as well. It always catches me off guard, never sounds legitimate even if I try to rescue the situation, and only makes us both look bad. If I haven't been contacted in advance, my answer is now "I'm sorry, I am unprepared to provide a reference for so-and-so".
That happened to me a few weeks ago! It was definitely an awkward conversation and without any notice I was being grilled and didn't enjoy the experience at all. For those unsolicited reference checks I will reply the same we you do. Thank you for that!
Wow! Who would have thought that ant SP had the gull to think they had dibs on their customers?!? Go back and see her and let her know all the things the other girl lets you do! Maybe she'll become more self aware!?!
Hobbyist are faithful to SP's because of the service they provide. When I find someone who ticks every box, I usually stay with the lady because I know it's a sure thing and I will walk away completely satisfied every time! Sometimes you need to change it up but you'll always go back to your stable of tried and true ladies! If they start thinking that t hey own you, then its time to say bend over baby or its asta la vista baby !!
I don't even feel like seeing her again, I had seen her umpteen times to the point where she didn't even have to ask me what I like or how I like to finish off, it is very unfortunate.Thats insane! Why would SPs be jealous of other SPs?! We all have something unique to offer, different looks etc.
That isn't right. A hobbyist has the right to choose whichever SP he would like to see without any SP feeling jealous etc. Thats so petty!!! Some people make me laugh
Y'all need to start screening your ladies the same way we screen you. The thought of workers lacking this level of professionalism and acting like teenage girls is ridiculous.
Suggestion: start screening for MATURITY in your providers. Any sign of insecurity and drama should start raising red flags. Check their websites, forum posts, Twitter etc. for signs of their behaviour (Twitter is REALLY good at showing you people's personalities). Also most important: trust your lovely ol' gut
Some people can really get stuck in 15-year-old girl insecure mentalities. I'm bummed out because one provider behaving abhorrently (breaking confidentiality to be petty, or stalking a client WTF?) looks bad on all of us.
Suggestion: start screening for MATURITY in your providers. Any sign of insecurity and drama should start raising red flags. Check their websites, forum posts, Twitter etc. for signs of their behaviour (Twitter is REALLY good at showing you people's personalities). Also most important: trust your lovely ol' gut
Some people can really get stuck in 15-year-old girl insecure mentalities. I'm bummed out because one provider behaving abhorrently (breaking confidentiality to be petty, or stalking a client WTF?) looks bad on all of us.
Sure it is but that doesn't mean it happens. I ask for that but some newer hobbyist don't know. He learned to ask the SP before hand for future but now he will just use me as reference and won't have that problem. And I personally don't care if they check with me first. Not at all.
Point is a mistake from a client who didn't know it is respectful to ask first but not law should not out weigh the attempt at calling "dibs" on a client because you don't want him spending money on another escort. One is a mistake the other is unprofessional. In my opinion anyway.
The warning signs were all there. She was so jelous of another SP that I used to see. She would notice everything. I made so many mistakes that if I were to list them all you’d probaby ask wtf was i thinking. All I can say is that my judgement was definitely clouded.
The costant threats of suicide everytime I didnt give the attention she expected of me. I was so out of my depth to try and help some one with serious mental health issues.
And to make things worse she educated my wife on the Sp that I used to see. Of course I didnt deny it.
Being honest if I had it all over to do again I would never have ever shared my true identity with anyone in this industry.
I'm not judging you. You didnt know better. No one goes into things expecting someone to do something so disgusting.
Girls causing drama in a job where we literally get paid to NOT be that annoying, nagging gf is like going to a restaurant and your waiter verbally abusing you. That is NOT how you behave! Chances are youd fire that waiter or ask for a new one.
You also can't get jaded to the point you believe every SP has it in her to do something like that. You trusted the wrong person. It happens. We have all done a mistake like that. But you know better now and can act more wisely when it comes to that kind of thing in the future. Such as... if an SP shows such intense signs of instability you get away from that situation (doesnt have to be a big confrontation if you have reason to believe she wouldn't take it well).
I'm actually looking into the legality of NDAs and if they can be upheld for clients like you who are way too hesistant to give out real information. That's something you could look into too
While I appreciate the formality of an NDA, entering into one with someone would be an anxious nightmare for me. You either have to use a pseudonym or risk your real identity and written permanent record of your actual identity entering into a relationship with someone you'd like to keep secret. Seeking damages against an NDA would be equally as horrifying - you can't get blood from a stone, and the parties at greatest risk probably don't have large sums of liquid cash laying around for lawsuits.I'm not judging you. You didnt know better. No one goes into things expecting someone to do something so disgusting.
Girls causing drama in a job where we literally get paid to NOT be that annoying, nagging gf is like going to a restaurant and your waiter verbally abusing you. That is NOT how you behave! Chances are youd fire that waiter or ask for a new one.
You also can't get jaded to the point you believe every SP has it in her to do something like that. You trusted the wrong person. It happens. We have all done a mistake like that. But you know better now and can act more wisely when it comes to that kind of thing in the future. Such as... if an SP shows such intense signs of instability you get away from that situation (doesnt have to be a big confrontation if you have reason to believe she wouldn't take it well).
I'm actually looking into the legality of NDAs and if they can be upheld for clients like you who are way too hesistant to give out real information. That's something you could look into too
Screening a provider in advance if privacy is at risk is super important, and limiting exposure. When you find that gem, I don't see value in continuing to increase exposure (but that's because I value privacy more than I value new experience).
Everyone's scenario is different. The one described by OP is giving me the sweats.
I appreciate Ana Maria’s suggestions but you defintely raise some vailid points.
From my perspective everything i do or dont do is al about minimizing the damage.
You see i do know the SP’s real name.
Once my wife found out the SP tweeted that if anyone that knows her real identity, she wanted to let everyone know that her family and friends know what she does for a living. Maybe it was a coincidental post. Or maybe she anticipated i would respond accordingly. Truth is i would never do that. Their is enough hurt in this mess without me adding to it.
The worst was when my wife sent me a text with a screenshot of my secret social media account. Imagine being unaware as your wife is reading your posts. Once she sent me a text with a screenshot with my secret profile i knew i was fucked. Nowhere to run or hide.
Wow...that'll leave a mark. Sorry to hear mate. However, I wonder how many of you ladies new clients who ask for NDA's will be named David Dennison...lol
Once the damage is done it cannot be "undone" NDA or not - unfortunately.
I'm actually looking into the legality of NDAs and if they can be upheld for clients like you who are way too hesistant to give out real information. That's something you could look into too
Point of NDA is not to "undo" the damage - it is to make a person realize there are consequences to their actions. Make someone think twice before outing someone in that manner. Our criminal justice system does not exist to undo crimes committed by people - it is there to deter people from committing crimes in the first place because there is a price to be paid for such choices.
I use NDAs in my line of work - my point is that even though people sign NDAs they still do stupid things and in our context the damage done would be horrendous and irreparable - the consequences to the guilty party will not help the victim. It is no different than people committing crimes, they know there is a certain chance they will get caught but they still do it.
Sooo it's been a week. Any further development? Has she reached out to you? :beguiled:
Its jealousy of the other escort getting her buisness. It has nothing to do with you. These girls dont care about us, they dont even respect us. Women don't respect a man who pays for something that is free in life. They certainly are not going to get jealous over us. Its only that some other broad is getting her money. Thats all.
Yeah, escorts aren't really sentient persons at all, are they? I mean, how could they actually like a guy or care if he hooks up with her again.
Women just want money and creeps like you and I are so disgusting and cheap and such grovelling losers that we have to pay for sex.
Thanks for brightening up this thread, pal.
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