SPs jealous?

[mandrill]

It can be both, depending if she really likes you based on past quality time spent with her.

One MPA slapped me in the face because I was enjoying her friend in a duo too much. (No, it wasn't a fetish act lol).

I haven't had that. I did do a duo with a regular and her bestie-in-the-biz once many years ago, where the bestie disappeared as soon as the sex was over and left the regular and I to chat. It seemed a "turf" thing that the girls had arranged beforehand. I "belonged" to Girl #1 and the friend was there to spice up the sex, but was not to chat with me or get to know me afterwards.

 

[Athe2]

hint: if you're paying to see her, it's for your money.

Thanks Dawn, pretty logical conclusion I have to admit...

And what if there is 50% discount?
To be precise: I pay for one session and get the second one free, it is personal offer - not public promotion, and I didn't promise any Tiffany gifts.
Is it still 100% my money or something else is here?
For the record, I am worried after reading this thread, I don't want and don't need "something else"

 

[JaimeWolf]

It can be both, depending if she really likes you based on past quality time spent with her.

One MPA slapped me in the face because I was enjoying her friend in a duo too much. (No, it wasn't a fetish act lol).

I find some MPAs more likely to get jealous than SPs. Maybe it's just the environment of many girls working in one spa vs. at most 3-4 at an incall apartment. With walk-in clients at a spa, the girls are literally being compared against each other in a lineup. Sometimes it also makes a difference if the girls are just besties-in-the-business vs. best friends in their personal lives.

 

[Parker@TDL]

Maybe you would like an extra big load to go with that?

Big enough to fill my mouth please!!!!

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

Big enough to fill my mouth please!!!!

You just made my day!

 

[JordanR]

I think females have this thing in their nature. They get jealous of each other no matter what field they are working in or the reason of jealousy.

 

[essguy_]

I think females have this thing in their nature. They get jealous of each other no matter what field they are working in or the reason of jealousy.

I think it's more human nature than just female nature. Driven ultimately by our primitive and innate drive to pass on our genes.... LOL! Not to derail the thread - but you could argue that men are genetically pre-disposed to be MORE jealous since we can impregnate any number of females in short order - so one competing male is a real danger to the survival of the bloodline. Polyandry is rarer because females of most species can only get pregnant once at a time.

On these forums you can see jealously from guys in many different forms. Eg: the weird phenomena of the "White Knight" who will come on to attack any and all criticism of an SP. I could make an argument that this is fundamentally driven by jealousy - the White Knight is offended that one of his favourites is being criticized (even though opinions are just that - opinions) but deep down - the real offence is the brutal realization that they are nothing special in their favourite's eyes. Some criticism is unfair but the white knight attacks any and ALL criticism. So they leap to the defence in an attempt to ingratiate themselves and rise above the typical client.

 

[Ana Maria]

I've dealt with jealousy from other girls to almost the point of harassment and find it astounding... it is a sign of immaturity and insecurity to me.

I never have and never will feel threatened if a client wants to see other providers. Hell, I am happy to SUGGEST some to you. I am happy to be a REFERENCE for you. I am happy to even HEAR about it (if that's something you're into). You had a great time?? YES! I am HAPPY for you! Let's try to setup a duo??

Please do not misconstruct jealousy as a sign of "human nature." It is not.

People are not posessions. And in this hobby, of course you guys want variety. This is why you're in this hobby to begin with! It is mind boggling to me for girls to get possessive over their clients, especially in this kind o industry. It is almost certainly a sign of insecurity ("Is he going to like her better than me?!") and nothing to do with the guy.

 

[Ana Maria]

I guess I should also throw in I too practice non-monogamy even in my normal life so the escort world is not that different to me. My personal philosophy is people should be fucking more people at all points in their life lolllllll

 

[Ana Maria]

I've never understood this! I practice non-monogamy in my persona life, and I have always said that one person cannot be your be all end all.
You need many fulfilling sexual and romantic relationships in your life. I can only provide so much to the clients in my life, and it excites me to give a reference or help facilitate an experience with someone else. When it comes down to it, if my client is happy, I'm happy. I can't ever imagine being upset because my client or my partner gets on with someone else. The concept is so foreign to me. I've seen it happen, or even in reverse, where my clients make a point to try and assure me they aren't seeing other providers. Why not? People aren't property! Jealousy just isn't an emotion I have very often, and it always pains me to see situations like this, ESPECIALLY in a provider/client relationship! One of the reasons you're paying us is to avoid drama like that. I think it's unprofessional from a provider standpoint, on top of my other points.

For once, I agree with something Dawn's said: "but i would never make a client feel bad for seeing other escorts or women. ever. it's manipulative and petty, and i'm disappointed to see how commonly this tactic is used in this industry. the sad thing is that it works, really well. and it really makes me lose respect for the men that it works on." Bang on! It's just super gross all around. I couldn't imagine working within an industry where my job is to make people feel GOOD, and turn it around and make it such a negative point.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this and I wish you luck!

Well Jane nailed down all my feelings even better than I could word them.

 

[Parker@TDL]

I think females have this thing in their nature. They get jealous of each other no matter what field they are working in or the reason of jealousy.

Lol!!! It's certainly not a female thing. Both genders feel and display jealousy. Both compete with others of their own gender. Jealousy is a completely normal feeling to have, and it's not a big deal to have it. How one deals with and acts on those feelings is what matters, and people of both genders do it poorly.

 

[Tempted Monk]

...Hell, I am happy to SUGGEST some to you...

I used to have a regular Lady, who suggested to me from time to time to go and see someone else. And she even recommended the girls who would be the best for me (knowing me well she could do this).
When it happened third time, I asked her to say honestly why she did this. The answer was: "I want you to be sure that I am the best!" Lol

 

[kherg007]

our closest primate cousins, the bonobos, have matriarchal societies and practice non-monogamy.

https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Bonobo#/Sociosexual_behaviour

As a bonobo-australian I take exception! Mrs bonobo and i have been monogamous for 25 years! Lol....
Back to the topic...I felt awkward that way ...the now defunct naughty nuru had a contest that for each hour booking you could have them put your handle into a drawing for a free hour with a lady...thus i tried to book as often as i could in the month...had an overnight trip in toronto so booked the atf and a temporary lady who offered greek (and hadn't done that in a bit) so booked them on consecutive days...then on day 1 heading into condo to see temp lady and get me some greek... out of lift walks the atf and the owner...we had a nice albeit brief convo but i felt super awkward like i was caught cheating on atf....she seemed ok....saw her the next day, and it was clear i felt much more awkward than her...bless her...so i told her that i felt that way... but then i said "but i also heard a rumour you've been seeing other blokes whilst i was gone" and we both had a good laugh and we were off to the races like nothing happened.

 

[Ana Maria]

I used to have a regular Lady, who suggested to me from time to time to go and see someone else. And she even recommended the girls who would be the best for me (knowing me well she could do this).
When it happened third time, I asked her to say honestly why she did this. The answer was: "I want you to be sure that I am the best!" Lol

Lol! That's a sweet sentiment. Did you take her up on the offer?

 

[kherg007]

There are some uber classy ladies out here...I've had more than one lady contact me saying "you should see this woman some time"...which i appreciate. Or if they are not free theyll suggest someone...or even one time there was a fave whom I asked about a Saturday or Sunday date...she said only free on Saturday, so I booked her then booked a duo w her colleagues for Sunday. Then later that saturday night first lady texted back saying she was now free on sunday ...but i told her I booked someone already, and she was so classy about saying how I'll have a blast and, and that she appreciated the fact that I wasn't going to jerk around the ladies I booked and honour my commitment to them...and she herself did not once try to suggest i drop that booking...impressed me so much with that classy behaviour toward her colleagues...

 

[SexB]

(T)he weird phenomena of the "White Knight" who will come on to attack any and all criticism of an SP. I could make an argument that this is fundamentally driven by jealousy - the White Knight is offended that one of his favourites is being criticized (even though opinions are just that - opinions) but deep down - the real offence is the brutal realization that they are nothing special in their favourite's eyes. Some criticism is unfair but the white knight attacks any and ALL criticism. So they leap to the defence in an attempt to ingratiate themselves and rise above the typical client.

While that may be the case a lot of the time, I've seen more than a few times where the "white knighting" is nothing but an attempt at trolling.

There was one member on another board who would leap to the defense of ladies with very well-deserved bad reputations. This wasn't a case of sticking up for ladies no one else would, this was nothing more than this individual being a shit-disturbing troll.

 

[Tempted Monk]

Lol! That's a sweet sentiment. Did you take her up on the offer?

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Yes, I did. And what is interesting: she was so confident that she recommended really the best girls, I can wauch for this.

 

[Ana Maria]

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Yes, I did. And what is interesting: she was so confident that she recommended really the best girls, I can wauch for this.

That sounds like something I'd do myself lol. Not in a sense of trying to be "the best" because I don't believe in that - my philosophy is we are all our own separate individuals with something unique to offer. None of us can ever truly appeal to the entire world - but we can appeal to the people who'd like us just for who we are. If someone likes another provider over me, it says NOTHING about me - it just means she met his individual needs better than I could. Best of luck to him and to her. I am happy he found what he was looking for. I find it a waste of energy to try to twist yourself like a pretzel to become someone you are not to please someone who did not accept you just the way you are.

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

Exactly, this is a "hobby" and just the way that I like Ferraris, I also like Lamborghinis and so on...I want to try all of them and enjoy!!!

That sounds like something I'd do myself lol. Not in a sense of trying to be "the best" because I don't believe in that - my philosophy is we are all our own separate individuals with something unique to offer. None of us can ever truly appeal to the entire world - but we can appeal to the people who'd like us just for who we are. If someone likes another provider over me, it says NOTHING about me - it just means she met his individual needs better than I could. Best of luck to him and to her. I am happy he found what he was looking for. I find it a waste of energy to try to twist yourself like a pretzel to become someone you are not to please someone who did not accept you just the way you are.

 

[Ana Maria]

Exactly, this is a "hobby" and just the way that I like Ferraris, I also like Lamborghinis and so on...I want to try all of them and enjoy!!!

Keep that mentality. Sorry that you've ran into providers whose personal insecurities interfere with your hobby. Steer clear of those kind of people. Has drama written all over it.