What makes a man want a sex worker as their significant other?

[Tashki]

I have met some the most beautiful and the most sexiest MPA’s , Strippers and SP’s that I have ever met in my life. I still consider myself fairly new as being a customer of this adult industry because I’m learning new things everyday when I’m out hobbying and reading this forum . What I thought was an interesting phenomenon is that they are MPA’s and Strippers (Not sure about SPs) that are married or have a boyfriend which was hard for me to understand. At first, I’ve always assumed that sex workers are single women that wants to financially provide for themselves independently and that is not interested in monogamy. I know sex and love are two different things but if I had a SO that’s a sex worker, It would bother a lot me knowing that she’s pleasing other guys sexually even if it’s only a job to her. If had a SO, I’d only want her to see me and only me. So what makes a man want a sex worker as their SO? How do they not get bothered that their SO sees men and sexually pleases them for a living?

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

They like the money she brings home.

I have met some the most beautiful and the most sexiest MPA’s , Strippers and SP’s that I have ever met in life. I still consider myself fairly new as being a customer of this adult industry because I’m learning new things everyday when I’m out hobbying and reading this forum . What I thought was an interesting phenomenon is that they are MPA’s and Strippers (Not sure about SPs) that are married or have a boyfriend which was hard for me to understand. At first, I’ve always assumed that sex workers are single women that wants to financially provide for themselves independently and that is not interested in monogamy. I know sex and love are two different things but if I had a SO that’s a sex worker, It would bother a lot me knowing that she’s pleasing other guys sexually even if it’s only a job to her. If had a SO, I’d only want her to see me and only me. So what makes a man want a sex worker as their SO? How do they not get bothered that their SO sees men and sexually pleases them for a living?

 

[sempel]

1) Money
2) Ego - my SO is a SW but she loves me, I please her, others have to pay for what I get for free, etc.
3) Love - you love the SW so you just deal with her profession
4) The sex - chances are a SW are more liberal in bed, more experienced, more open-minded
5) Open relationship
6) You can separate business from personal - she's pretending/acting with her clients but she really loves you - others are just using her body
7) Not every SW has sex with other clients. There are some strippers that are restrictive, some MPA's that are restrictive. The only difference between them and an RMT is nudity and/or HE. Then there's the BDSM crowd.

 

[poorboy]

Successful sp's have an excellent personality.

 

[Smallcock]

They're either pimps by another name or are just ok with open relationships and regularly have threesomes and moresomes due to her and her connections. The reality is that most boyfriends don't remain with these girls for very long. They do end up getting jealous that she is with other men. It's the money and lifestyle that attracts them but it wears thin over time.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

Just like guys hide this from their SO/GF, there are plenty of women who hide this work from men. You assume all the BF's know.

 

[kkelso]

Just like guys hide this from their SO/GF, there are plenty of women who hide this work from men. You assume all the BF's know.

Well noted. The majority of SPs I know have or had SOs who didn't know what they did for a living. It is of course spectacularly dramatic when they do find out.

I've found it amusing that over the years any number of SPs who I've come to know go out of their way to point out that they don't have an SO. As if women of that caliber walk around unattached for any length of time.

KK

 

[Jasmine Raine]

Well noted. The majority of SPs I know have or had SOs who didn't know what they did for a living. It is of course spectacularly dramatic when they do find out.

I've found it amusing that over the years any number of SPs who I've come to know go out of their way to point out that they don't have an SO. As if women of that caliber walk around unattached for any length of time.

KK

I would take some of them at their word. I can promise you I will never be in a relationship again. Single by choice is also not something exclusive to men. :wink:

 

[sempel]

There was one SP who told me she has a fiancé but she does this because she wants to cash in while she can. She's told him she plans on continuing for the next couple of years, even after they are married. He has the choice to accept it or not, and I guess he's accepting it (for the moment).

 

[Smallcock]

Just like guys hide this from their SO/GF, there are plenty of women who hide this work from men. You assume all the BF's know.

This is true, but I thought the OP was specifically referencing why men that know, would want to be with an Sex worker.

As a client, you never know the sex worker's real story anyway. Sex workers frequently lie and say that they do or do not have a man in their life, depending on the situation.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

This is true, but I thought the OP was specifically referencing why men that know, would want to be with an Sex worker.

As a client, you never know the sex worker's real story anyway. Sex workers frequently lie and say that they do or do not have a man in their life, depending on the situation.

I know a married couple where he knows. They both have good main stream jobs, but she is working for retirement. She/they want extra cash for extra things.

Now saying that, it doesn't mean that he is milking her for the money, or anything. It is part time, and they already have an open relationship. They swing, go to clubs, so it is not a reach for her to see men on the side and just happen to leave with some cash in her pocket.

For some it works, for some it doesn't. For some couples the men are able to emotionally separate things in a positive way and respect the women they are with for the choices she decides to make. For some other couples, he is using her to pay the bills so he can sit on his ass. For some couples, he gets off sexually knowing that other men fuck his wife. The answers are endless.

 

[malata]

to have a shoulder to cry on and someone to laugh with. If it's for sex. he'll be very disappointed

 

[Jasmine Raine]

^^^ two great posts Dawn.

 

[bazokajoe]

Not interested in dating a SW.Be it a stripper,escort or MPA.

 

[oil&gas]

Not interested in dating a SW.Be it a stripper,escort or MPA.

Just like a self-respecting civilian woman not interested in
dating a hobbyist.

 

[sempel]

Just like a self-respecting civilian woman not interested in
dating a hobbyist.

True but most guys don't walk around with a sticker or badge identifying themselves...

 

[kkelso]

Not interested in dating a SW.Be it a stripper,escort or MPA.

I used to say that too. Then I met the best (easily) GF I ever had via the business. SPs are just people, the same win/loss ratio applies.

KK

 

[MissCroft]

SPs are just people, the same win/loss ratio applies.

This.

 

[rigel]

Dawn as usual your posts are spot on! I'm super confident with who I am so jealousy is one emotion I have absolutely no time for. If my SO was an SP then I would have no issues with her career choice. I actually love the relationship potential I have with one SP at the moment. Very hard to find that with someone in the civilian world.

Rigel

 

[bazokajoe]

Just like a self-respecting civilian woman not interested in
dating a hobbyist.

And I am very happy with that scenario too.
Single and happy forever!