Your reference has to be a well-known or well-reviewed lady, someone who is established and has a good reputation.
A girl that changes names and numbers all the time does not count, no matter how many times you've seen her.
Maybe you should think about getting an account on Preferred411.com... You can accumulate Okays from different girls.
When I ask for references, I use them as pointers, not as the almighty truth. Same for reviews, some are true, some are false. The same way a guy can give a bad review because he's disappointed at a lady for whatever reason, a lady can give a bad reference for whatever reason too.
I have no problem seeing gentlemen without any references. There are many other ways for me to screen and be safe.
You've been around since 2004 and have over 1000 posts here... I'm sure ladies can read your posting history and make up their mind about your personality. Though it might not be enough for some...