Married men who got into this hobby any regrets?

[mynameisearl11]

Regrets?
1. Not having a Joint bank account
2. Too much free time with...too much money..lol!
3. Listen to my dick too much!
Lastly,signed up with Terb and stuck!

 

[Misty4me]

No offense or anything, but can I remind you what message board you are on

I know very well what message board I'm on and I have no idea what that has to do with the OP he was asking for opinions ? advice ? I gave him mine it's his choice to take it to heart or not ! I fail to see your point please explain ......
Misty

 

[Sugar-D]

I know very well what message board I'm on and I have no idea what that has to do with the OP he was asking for opinions ? advice ? I gave him mine it's his choice to take it to heart or not ! I fail to see your point please explain ......
Misty

Well pardon me AK47 for stepping in here. But I think he is wondering why you are on a board where the main topic is speaking about paying for sex from women, when it "seems" that you don't agree with or approve of paying for sex.

 

[Sugar-D]

Number 1: it's ADDICTIVE. It is not easy to quit.

Number 2: it may become very expensive

Number3: it may occupy a LOT of your time - not necessarily doing it, but searching through ads - that in itself becomes addictive - LOL looking at reviews on review boards

number 4: It MAY lead to your inability to form a normal lasting relationship because you become accustomed to always looking for something just a bit new, a bit better

Number 5: This to me is a positive - a considerable number of women I have been with in this industry are very nice people and have become friends

Number 6: Also a positive - you will likely become much more confident around normal women, as you don't need them as much so you just become more relaxed around them


Regardless, I really don't think that, laying on your deathbed, super orgasms you have had are going to be on your mind. You are going to care most about the REAL relationships in your life.

^THESE

Really consider the effect of the above. Especially the addiction and the money. Those are too very real things to consider.

My only regret was seeing lots of high-volume low price ladies in my early years. I've had way more fun seeing the higher end courtesans on a less frequent basis.

 

[D-Fens]

Life is too uncertain to have regrets.

 

[Misty4me]

Well pardon me AK47 for stepping in here. But I think he is wondering why you are on a board where the main topic is speaking about paying for sex from women, when it "seems" that you don't agree with or approve of paying for sex.

Perhaps you should read my original post , no where in that post do I mention or " seem " to allude that I disagree with the paid for play relationship . Who am I to judge especially after I admit in this forum , in that post that I have cheated . Don't assume others are pointing fingers , the OP asked for advice and I thought he would appreciate the female perspective .

This is why I'm confused as to why someone would think I need to be reminded of what board I am on . I'm not ignorant or stupid , I'm on this board willingly with full knowledge as to its content and how ridiculous is it that a condescending attitude should even exsist here is beyond me . Were all on the same board for the same or similar reasons not 1 of us should ever question anyone's intentions for being here .

Misty

 

[humanneeds]

quick question: what's MA ?

 

[Allejandro2011]

I'm just about ready to get into this, been happily married for 11 years have 3 kids, have lots of sex at home as wife is willing.

My reason for wanting to do this is because I never had the experience of sleeping with a lot of women and I really have the desire to do it. Given the opportunity I would cheat on her and have before
but I'm thinking it's smarter to do it this way as there are no strings attached.

Wow, 11 years and you're still worried. WTF? Man, obviously, something is missing in your sex life if you want to have sex with other women.
Most definitely you didn't marry your wife for sex either. Plus as you said you didn't have many women before so obviously you never lived for yourself even a little bit.

Obviously it is smarter as everybody else does it. Therefore, the biggest risk you face if your wife finds out about it and will give you the biggest dramatic tragedy in your life of what a devil you are. However, is she a child? Do you belong to her or to yourself? Are you going to live 25 lives? Like you're both adults and people who really connected and love each other can understand that or not... depends on people too. Everyone is different... and as people say (and I feel it too) sometimes when you hobby you actually have more energy for your own wife or gf who only soak energy of many men all the time and maybe that is why you want to hobby, to feel young and carefree again, to be enjoying the charm and lust of yonger/more sexual/more open minded and non demanding women.

But on the other hand, women are total parasites these days. So the moment she may find out about it be prepared she might divorce you, say that you cheated to your kids and make you feel like really-really bad (however imho the wise woman would not to destroy the family and leave kids without their father if she is really wise and can accept just absolutely nothing changing fling though she might be really-really hurt too if she really-really loves you).

Although, maybe you have a third route but also super risky one but who knows what it might lead too haha Talk to your wife about it. Like both you go out for a date and tell her that "Honestly but I don't know what to do as I want to have sex with other women and I want to work it out with you.... as I don't want to betray you" (Be prepared though that she might say "Hey, what would be your reaction if I told you the same"). Thus, I think this strategy might only work with super exceptional people who will see this as opportunity not to break something but try to find common grounds to go to a new level, perhaps make relationship with your wife going to next spiritual level if she understands it and make sex truly different or maybe you will both accept that it is ok to sex life with others sometimes too.. It might just lead to divorce by the way altogether if you both realize that you're totally different people and it is better to separate (although, again kids issue is completely different matter here as well).

In any case, Good luck man! Tell us how it work out at the end (would be really interesting to see lol)

 

[WantToSee]

For those of you that are wondering, I have decided to not go through with it. Thank you all for helping me make this decision fucking A a bunch of strangers but a great bunch

 

[desigambler]

I have been married for 8 years and I have no regrets. Actually, it makes sex with wifey a lot steamy after seeing an mpa or sp. I hobby occasionally and only see mpas and sps from reputable establishments. The only thing that sometimes worry me is catching and passing an std to my wife. We get tested regularly and so far we have been clean though.

 

[Sexucator]

For those of you that are wondering, I have decided to not go through with it. Thank you all for helping me make this decision fucking A a bunch of strangers but a great bunch

I think you are not your typical hobbyist. Most of the married guys seeing sp's are from dead beadrooms and are frustrated with their current sex lives. If you, as you say, are married w/ 3 kids and having all the sex you want, consider yourself very very lucky as you are in a very small minority. Be thankful for the sex, and keep doing what you have been doing.

 

[youngturk]

Young Turk, your last post makes no sense. If you're not getting any sex at home you don't have to worry about passing anything on to your wife. (The toilet seat theory has been discredited). Take your cash and go have fun.

Sex twice a year, so not anywhere near what I want or need, but enough to worry me about passing something on.

 

[trippingwalker]

Any guys out there who have sex on a regular basis @ home bust still choose to be involved with this hobby? What kind of effect has it had on your life @ home?

I guess every situation is different... My wife is hot, we've been married for a few years. She takes care of herself, she takes care of me, we do everything together, we're renovating a home together, thoroughly enjoying all the time and effort into picking and doing the floors, kitchen, paint, etc etc. But i fucking love sloppy wet "porn star level" blowjobs. And my wife absolutely doesn't like giving blowjobs. I'm very well groomed and my hygiene is impeccable. As soon as I get home I shower and we usually fuck anyway from 5-7 times per week. I'll put my thumb in her butt while we do doggy, she rims me, i fuck her really hard and sweat... Seriously, we have a great thing.

However... When I've got a raging hard-on and I unzip my pants and grab my cock, the urge to receive oral sex is outrageous. I must be one of those guys that likes blowjobs more than sex. I love it. I had a girlfriend back in the day would give me head to completion because she enjoyed it I've had other girls who enjoying giving head, but not like that one girl; she could impress every single one of us, guaranteed.

So my current wife is amazing. But she'll give me head for 30 seconds and then "complain" about gagging or wanting to fuck... she'll rim me a little, do some BLS, and make love to my Love Pump.... but it'll NEVER be for more than 30 seconds to a minute because she just hates sucking dick and she's always gagging. WHATEVER lol... so that's how it started. I hobby maybe 4-6 times per year and it used to only oral. 30 min blowjobs to completion is all i did at first. However, some of these girls are so fucking hot and good at what they do you can't help but stick your tongue in their ass or fuck them so it's a steady progression.

I'm still happily married and looking forward to fucking my wife but next time she's working on a saturday and i have time to myself i may feel inclined to see who is available for an epic blowjob. That's basically my situation... It's just getting harder and harder to make the time/find the time to hobby

 

[Cobra Enorme]

im married 10 years, 3 kids. i do it cause the wife doesnt give me sex. if she did i wouldnt do this. im just so damn horny all the time and she doesnt ever want to have sex.

 

[AK-47]

im married 10 years, 3 kids. i do it cause the wife doesnt give me sex. if she did i wouldnt do this. im just so damn horny all the time and she doesnt ever want to have sex

I feel your pain, bro.

Luckily I'm divorced, so its all good

 

[Bostonmass]

im married 10 years, 3 kids. i do it cause the wife doesnt give me sex. if she did i wouldnt do this. im just so damn horny all the time and she doesnt ever want to have sex.

Your preaching to the choir, evolution has unfortunately only given men the ever lasting urge, in order to propagate the species.

 

[OldNerd]

Same person, same sex for 20-30 years is getting boring even if it's great. it's trill to treat yourself with something not trivial. I am not doing it too often. It's not always a good experience but it's memorable nevertheless.
Doesn't chance my everyday life, just creating a parallel one.

 

[MindJohn]

For those of you that are wondering, I have decided to not go through with it. Thank you all for helping me make this decision fucking A a bunch of strangers but a great bunch

Wow, I'm relieved to sense that the more traditional finer things in life were enough to sway somebody (into realizing he has them).

 

[desert monk]

I guess every situation is different... My wife is hot, we've been married for a few years. She takes care of herself, she takes care of me, we do everything together, we're renovating a home together, thoroughly enjoying all the time and effort into picking and doing the floors, kitchen, paint, etc etc. But i fucking love sloppy wet "porn star level" blowjobs. And my wife absolutely doesn't like giving blowjobs. I'm very well groomed and my hygiene is impeccable. As soon as I get home I shower and we usually fuck anyway from 5-7 times per week. I'll put my thumb in her butt while we do doggy, she rims me, i fuck her really hard and sweat... Seriously, we have a great thing.

However... When I've got a raging hard-on and I unzip my pants and grab my cock, the urge to receive oral sex is outrageous. I must be one of those guys that likes blowjobs more than sex. I love it. I had a girlfriend back in the day would give me head to completion because she enjoyed it I've had other girls who enjoying giving head, but not like that one girl; she could impress every single one of us, guaranteed.

So my current wife is amazing. But she'll give me head for 30 seconds and then "complain" about gagging or wanting to fuck... she'll rim me a little, do some BLS, and make love to my Love Pump.... but it'll NEVER be for more than 30 seconds to a minute because she just hates sucking dick and she's always gagging. WHATEVER lol... so that's how it started. I hobby maybe 4-6 times per year and it used to only oral. 30 min blowjobs to completion is all i did at first. However, some of these girls are so fucking hot and good at what they do you can't help but stick your tongue in their ass or fuck them so it's a steady progression.

I'm still happily married and looking forward to fucking my wife but next time she's working on a saturday and i have time to myself i may feel inclined to see who is available for an epic blowjob. That's basically my situation... It's just getting harder and harder to make the time/find the time to hobby

Love always finds a way.

 

[eddie1]

I have been married for 8 years and I have no regrets. Actually, it makes sex with wifey a lot steamy after seeing an mpa or sp.

I agree. Sometimes, I save money by watching porn then having sex with my wife.

We get tested regularly and so far we have been clean though.

How do you get your wife to get tested for STDs?