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Married men who got into this hobby any regrets?

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Make sure you cover yourself. Beware of phone, text, email and browser history. Invest in a hobby phone(search on here for threads).

Don't change your routines. Always have your story straight. And don't have put the hobby before family commitments. Treat it as a hobby, not a need.
Agree, I also just call ladies, as most want you to call them in the end anyway. The only text me girls are usually working for pimps. I love the MILF's who are Indys and work alone. Not too much traffic and much safer.
 

ElCapitain

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I'm in a slightly different circumstance because I got permission from my wife to get into this initially, we even did a couples thing at one point. But then I had trouble stopping, and that part remains a secret. I don't have an addictive personality for alcohol or drugs, but this is hard to stop. Part of it is because I met a regular once who I absolutely clicked with. And then that stopped but the memory of that "high" is the sort of thing you go after again, trying to find.

No consequences for me yet. But the risk of getting warts or herpes is real though, even you always play safe, and that does worry me a lot sometimes. I stick 90% to MAs, with CBJ at most, and even that rarely, but some MAs will thrust a pussyslide on you and at that moment it's hard to say no. It's like playing Russian roulette.
 

Nesbot

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If you are married and your wife gives you lots of sex, you're crazy to do this for the sake of variety. The only reason a married man should ever consider this is if she doesn't love you, or she won't fuck you. Otherwise you're risking the stability of your home and children for absolutely no reason.

I don't know what else to say except you are luckier than you think you are.
 

likwid

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Agreed, this hobby is potentially addictive and fund draining. There is also something to be said about the negative long term effect of getting instant gratification of one's sexual desires, with putting in zero effort to impress, seduce and attract women or becoming a better man.

Please say, I've just been seeing SPs, am completely single, and have just decided to only see SPs. What are the repercussions?
 

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Please say, I've just been seeing SPs, am completely single, and have just decided to only see SPs. What are the repercussions?
SPs are a pretty good proxy for civilians except they will not bear your children
 

PinotNoir

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Please say, I've just been seeing SPs, am completely single, and have just decided to only see SPs. What are the repercussions?
Never having to worry about divorce or explaining staying out late or going away on a boy's trip on your girlfriend's or wife's birthday.
 

barnacler

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Number 1: it's ADDICTIVE. It is not easy to quit.

Number 2: it may become very expensive

Number3: it may occupy a LOT of your time - not necessarily doing it, but searching through ads - that in itself becomes addictive - LOL looking at reviews on review boards

number 4: It MAY lead to your inability to form a normal lasting relationship because you become accustomed to always looking for something just a bit new, a bit better

Number 5: This to me is a positive - a considerable number of women I have been with in this industry are very nice people and have become friends

Number 6: Also a positive - you will likely become much more confident around normal women, as you don't need them as much so you just become more relaxed around them


Regardless, I really don't think that, laying on your deathbed, super orgasms you have had are going to be on your mind. You are going to care most about the REAL relationships in your life.
 

LisbethNova

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I have met a few clients who tell me the sex with their wives is better after seeing an SP... Some even introduce their wives to me or tell their wives about me and it's kind of a turn on for them. I think it depends on how you manage it. It doesn't have to be a ritual thing. Maybe just a treat once in a while? Why not bring your wife into the mix?
 

frankcastle

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Introducing your wife to the hobby is a mixed thing. I mean the problem to me is that then she starts to wonder what you are doing when you go out without her. Are you really golfing?
 

dirkd101

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You're going to have regrets in life no matter what. You'll regret not buying something because it was a good deal, you'll regret getting married at times and the list goes on. Have fun and stay safe.
 
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From the perspective of a female who has cheated and been cheated on ask yourself this , would you be ok with her paying others for playtime to experience variety ? Also if she is giving you the sex you need imagine how hurtful it will be to her if she does find out . Trust me when I tell you she will not only be hurt but also devestated that she was working hard inside and outside of the bedroom to keep you happy and you betrayed her by being sexual with someone else . Only you can make the decision and remember every guy says they will make sure the partner doesn't find out and yet some do . Think very long and hard about this !

Misty
 

katsrin

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What would kill me is how I feel about my wife & the point that Frank made. "Also keep in mind there will be effects. How much will you want to fuck your wife if she isn't as good looking or wild as your paid sessions?"
Just stick with the (in your opinion) less attractive and poorly reviewed girls.

:)
 

Scorpio Rising

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If your going to do it SP's are a far wiser choice than civilians,who can get really messy.
Who knows you might even get better at it with your wife seeing a few Sps
 

AK-47

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None.Zero.Nada. I'm divorced now anyways, so I dont care anymore.

If you OP are a married guy you will go through a bunch of stages:

1. Terrible guilt feelings. OMG, I cant believe I'm doing this to her.
2. Things become routine. You start to care less.
3. Holy fuck, this feels great. Fuck her, I'm off to my next SP appt.
 

ElCapitain

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From the perspective of a female who has cheated and been cheated on ask yourself this , would you be ok with her paying others for playtime to experience variety ? Also if she is giving you the sex you need imagine how hurtful it will be to her if she does find out . Trust me when I tell you she will not only be hurt but also devestated that she was working hard inside and outside of the bedroom to keep you happy and you betrayed her by being sexual with someone else . Only you can make the decision and remember every guy says they will make sure the partner doesn't find out and yet some do . Think very long and hard about this !
Thank you for your post -- it is helpful and made me think. (That being said, I wouldn't have any issue with her paying others for variety; I'm not possessive. But that isn't the main point of your post.)
 

SchlongConery

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....Also if she is giving you the sex you need imagine how hurtful it will be to her if she does find out . Trust me when I tell you she will not only be hurt but also devestated that she was working hard inside and outside of the bedroom to keep you happy and you betrayed her by being sexual with someone else .

Only you can make the decision and remember every guy says they will make sure the partner doesn't find out and yet some do . Think very long and hard about this !

Misty

Very wise words Misty.

Sounds like you (OP) have a good life, a good wife and would be foolish to risk the incredibly devastating consequences.
 

youngturk

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Yes I have regrets. I wish I had never started this. Imagine what would happen to your family if she or your kids find out. Is it worth it?

Next, imagine you end up catching an STD, and have to tell her so she can get treatment. How is that conversation going to go? Would it still be worth it then?

I stopped hobbying after the last time I got tested. Fortunately I was clean. But the thought of maybe having something was what scared me out of the game, but knowing that I could get the sex I am not having at home with cash is killing me.
 

AK-47

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Yes I have regrets. I wish I had never started this. Imagine what would happen to your family if she or your kids find out. Is it worth it?

Next, imagine you end up catching an STD, and have to tell her so she can get treatment. How is that conversation going to go? Would it still be worth it then?

I stopped hobbying after the last time I got tested. Fortunately I was clean. But the thought of maybe having something was what scared me out of the game, but knowing that I could get the sex I am not having at home with cash is killing me.
Yeah same here, I stopped 6 years ago.


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AK-47

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From the perspective of a female who has cheated and been cheated on ask yourself this , would you be ok with her paying others for playtime to experience variety ? Also if she is giving you the sex you need imagine how hurtful it will be to her if she does find out . Trust me when I tell you she will not only be hurt but also devestated that she was working hard inside and outside of the bedroom to keep you happy and you betrayed her by being sexual with someone else . Only you can make the decision and remember every guy says they will make sure the partner doesn't find out and yet some do . Think very long and hard about this !

Misty
No offense or anything, but can I remind you what message board you are on
 
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