I have to let this out. I have too much pride to talk to anyone in my civie life.

[GPIDEAL]

Stephen Hawking is really full of shit. He's one of the nutjob physicists.

It's all relative.

 

[red]

Spacealien2, if you're looking for a GFE in an MPA, it might be hard to connect with one that you like to see over and over again (although, some of my closest associations, have been with MPAs).

However, if you can afford longer sessions with SPs that offer GFE, and you are sincerely a decent and generous person, who can engage in conversation easily, it might make an otherwise lonely life bearable from time to time.

However, I agree that you should try dating lines or websites as well to increase your odds with respect to meeting a woman that might find you interesting to spend time with.

I agree with this but also set up something with an sp- do it by email- get her to help you practice asking women out, get her to give you feedback (there are a lot of very nice and very normal SP's here who I am sure would help (yes as long ass you are paying for their time- but nothing wrong with that)

Also do you have any friend who could be your wingman?

 

[red]

HAHAHAHAHAHA So true!

And I DO have a PhD in theoretical physics.....

Have you tried dating female physicists? Or engineers?

 

[Titalian]

I have convinced myself that the solution is a poly relationship! But as a single man, the chance of that happening is really, really low.

The more you disbelieve, the more you will stay in you state of mind.

Here read this, its very informing.

https://www.morethantwo.com/polytips.html

 

[waynward]

You have to love yourself before someone else can love you.

I'm sick of being alone. No matter what I do, I always succumb to the phobia of letting anyone know how I really feel and what I truly want. I'm pretty sure I can count the number of real dates I have had on my hands. It is extremely difficult for me to ask anyone out even if they seem to show interest. I have never felt loved my entire life. It's kind of a vicious cycle. And I have never felt anyone genuinely attracted to me, probably because I have never learned how to be loved.
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[waynward]

I think I fit the solitary existence category.

Done the long term relationship thing and ejected out that voluntarily. Prefer sexual variety and freedom over that.

This is not a story of your life, just a part you have not mastered, yet. The professional ladies are just a stop gap, if one has an inclination toward a real relationship. A stop gap that becomes a serious obstacle from developing such relationship. This activity is only for people who are cheaters or comfortable in a solitary existence. Any feelings here are an illusion. Stop paying for sex and have a friend or an acquaintance set you up on a date, ASAP(if you can't manage it yourself). There are literally thousands of women in this city that are ripe for picking. All that is required is a bit of neatness and politeness. There're so many assholes out there, I guarantee it, you'll be a breath of fresh air.

 

[oil&gas]

Have you tried dating female physicists? Or engineers?

A lot of them are man-like and unfaminine.

 

[Spacealien2]

A lot of them are man-like and unfaminine.

Yep. I actually avoid them. Thanks for the suggestion tho red.

 

[Thunderballs]

Wholly fuck. I have the exact opposite problem. Every one always wants to be with me. My wife, my kids, friends at work, strangers tell me their whole life story. I've have several women in the last few years attempt to puck me up. Of course I'd never accept cause it would be more aggravation. When I got to mpa's I keep a super low key and don't attempt any personal Connection.
My problem is I can't get any solitude. I'm never alone.
I crave solitude. And I'll probably never get it.
What a crazy world this is.

I have the same problem. We should start the Fuck Off and Leave Me Alone Club. Meetings would be held never and if you greet another member in public you are automatically kicked out of the club.

 

[red]

A lot of them are man-like and unfaminine.

Well at least they aren't hungry then and a dinner date would be cheap

 

[frankcastle]

Say what you will about Hawkings but dude has game.

If he can get dates so can you.

I think there are some issues tou need to deal with.

Hi have trouble finding one woman. So how is finding multiple women your solution.

If sounds like you need to work on your social skills and how you see yourself and the world. If you dont deal with that the rest won't work.

Dont be so black and white about things keep trying to date, keep hobbying, start working on yourself. Just live life with a open plan instead of this narrow linear path you want things to go.

 

[red]

Yep. I actually avoid them. Thanks for the suggestion tho red.

Don't give up my friend

 

[Spacealien2]

Hi have trouble finding one woman. So how is finding multiple women your solution.

If sounds like you need to work on your social skills and how you see yourself and the world. If you dont deal with that the rest won't work.

Dont be so black and white about things keep trying to date, keep hobbying, start working on yourself. Just live life with a open plan instead of this narrow linear path you want things to go.

I'm not saying about dating multiple women, I'm saying that I want to find someone who is open to an open relationship.

I've been acting dumb so I could get along with people. Maybe I should start acting sociable. Something to work on

 

[GPIDEAL]

I agree with this but also set up something with an sp- do it by email- get her to help you practice asking women out, get her to give you feedback (there are a lot of very nice and very normal SP's here who I am sure would help (yes as long ass you are paying for their time- but nothing wrong with that)

Also do you have any friend who could be your wingman?

Talking to an SP about a woman's POV wrt dating might be a good idea. In fact, it's a bone fide way to spend, paid time with an SP without committing a crime under Bill C-36.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I'm not saying about dating multiple women, I'm saying that I want to find someone who is open to an open relationship.

I've been acting dumb so I could get along with people. Maybe I should start acting sociable. Something to work on

How about trying to meet someone at a swingers club? There are many female swingers who are members of so called swingers clubs that register online for which you can perhaps befriend.

 

[jcpro]

I'm not saying about dating multiple women, I'm saying that I want to find someone who is open to an open relationship.

I've been acting dumb so I could get along with people. Maybe I should start acting sociable. Something to work on

Oh, good luck with that.

 

[SchlongConery]

I'm not saying about dating multiple women, I'm saying that I want to find someone who is open to an open relationship.

I've been acting dumb so I could get along with people. Maybe I should start acting sociable. Something to work on

I've held off on this for some time but I thought I might be able to help.

So here goes.

If you're going to "act", learn to act sociable. With everyone, not just women. Nobody cares how smart or dumb you are. People mostly care how you make them feel and that you are interested in THEM. The best way you can make someone find you interesting and attractive is to be interested in them, first..

Read this short Lifehacker article on Emotional Intelligence to start.

Then consider seeing your Dr about trying Lexapro, if you are even slightly depressed. It is a great, safe, mood booster than has helped several people I know. When you feel good, people find you more attractive.

And forget the advice to get dating lessons from an SP. No offence to them but I don't generally look to them for advice on how to live my life, especially not with women.

And forget bars and street pickups.

Study how to be effective with online dating. There is a skill and art to being successful and once you learn it you will have more women than you want to deal with.

And finally, you will have to change your expectations that are likely way out of reality from both watching porn and seeing hot young P4P women. You are not a pizza deliveryman so get it out of your head. If you think that you "deserve" a physically hot women, realize that SHE wants the same level of attractiveness. In fact, she may like you but if you aren't hot or rich or famous, she may not be with you because of what her friends might say or she thinks they might think.

Hope this helps

 

[Spacealien2]

How about trying to meet someone at a swingers club? There are many female swingers who are members of so called swingers clubs that register online for which you can perhaps befriend.

Well I just tried. I was just at a poly meetup. I just ordered my meal, finished it and left. Social anxiety. It was bad! Trying again next time.

Also thanks schlong for the link.. I'll take a look at it.

 

[radius]

Hope this helps

This is by far the best post on the thread so far.

However, OP, I have to say that your posts read selfish to me. You say you are yearning for love, yet you yourself can't love others (in a love your neighbour sense):

...and she turned out to be a batshit crazy pseudo-activist of everything.

It's only fat chicks who talk to me. Like, what the fuck, I'm too good for that.

I have tried the neckbeard thing. I. can't. stand. them.

Have you tried dating female physicists? Or engineers?

A lot of them are man-like and unfaminine.

Yep. I actually avoid them. Thanks for the suggestion tho red.

Not only that, you've shown a high amount of negativity towards human relationships in general:

I'm not ever going into a long term relationship or marriage. I don't see the point (I'm atheist) of sticking to the same person after being bored with her anyway.

I've been acting dumb so I could get along with people.

In your shoes, I wouldn't focus on sexual or romantic relationships. Work more on loving everyone and you will attract the kind of attention you want. And getting better at personal relationships in general can only help you sustain romantic relationships down the line.

If nothing else, it will widen the circle of women who will want to set you up and take you off the market.

And yes, being lonely can really suck; sometimes pro relationships do work out and feel great. Hope the support you got in this thread makes you feel better.

 

[Despo]

In the opening line you said you had way to much pride. Don't confuse pride or confidence with ego. Your ego is not your amigo.