In the face of of the new Bill C-36 law it's probably best to stay away from this kind of activity. Unless the two parties have total complete trust that has built up over multiple visits.
The Ask-A-Hooker Thread
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I engage in rough body play (the generally accepted term within the kink scene) at the extreme end of the spectrum as both Domme and sub in both my personal life, and (usually lighter) in my professional life. If done with control by someone who is intimately familiar with the safe and fun methods of spanking, slapping, skin torture, punching, kicking and face slapping it's relatively low risk provided both parties know how to handle themselves. Compared with bondage, which runs serious risks of permanent nerve damage, the most you're likely to get with rough body play is sore muscles, some petechia and bruising. Even this requires an intensity of play few people who aren't really into it would tolerate.
I personally both when working as a pro-switch and currently only offered bottoming to such play to individuals I have personally instructed in safety and techniques, or who have been trained by one of two individuals in the scene I trust to teach it. If an individual doesn't meet these criteria, I tend to suggest a session where the first part is sexy skills training, and the second is controlled play. I only do this because of my extensive history of such play in my personal life- I feel comfortable playing teacher while enjoying the activities.
I personally both when working as a pro-switch and currently only offered bottoming to such play to individuals I have personally instructed in safety and techniques, or who have been trained by one of two individuals in the scene I trust to teach it. If an individual doesn't meet these criteria, I tend to suggest a session where the first part is sexy skills training, and the second is controlled play. I only do this because of my extensive history of such play in my personal life- I feel comfortable playing teacher while enjoying the activities.
Same here. When I was younger (before I was an SP) I had a strict rule of three dates. No sex until at least the third date. I now realize how silly that was. lol
Safe words are crucial. I don't do the face slapping because it screws up my sinuses.
When it comes to BDSM I think it depends on what form and flavor it is. Slapping in the face will be relatively rare, spanking sex workers extremely common in my experience with sex workers (hell even most contact strippers all at least light spanking, but still ask first).
I've only gone as far as MPA, haven't done an escort yet, but I plan to.
Luckily for me, I'm more into Psychological BDSM, which I find sex workers are on average more comfortable with then really rough stuff.
I believe the correct term is humiliation play with a forced sex role playing theme to it. I love hearing a beautiful woman call herself a whore, shut, dump cum, my property, sex slave, or dirty talk about rape and stuff. I was shocked at how comfortable so many sex workers have been with this sort of terminology and dirty talk, it's made me really happy. Although I do enjoy giving a spanking too.
My question how comfortable are you ladies in this thread with verbal domination like being called a dirty whore and shut and stuff? Just for comparison with my experiences with MPAs and Strippers.
I remember when I first started going to strip clubs and Massage Parlor and fearing that if I shared these fantasies that I'd upset, scare, or offend someone which as a nice guy I wouldn't want to do, and getting thrown out. That woman I've enjoyed would be so open mind about these fantasies is really cool in my experience.
I've only gone as far as MPA, haven't done an escort yet, but I plan to.
Luckily for me, I'm more into Psychological BDSM, which I find sex workers are on average more comfortable with then really rough stuff.
I believe the correct term is humiliation play with a forced sex role playing theme to it. I love hearing a beautiful woman call herself a whore, shut, dump cum, my property, sex slave, or dirty talk about rape and stuff. I was shocked at how comfortable so many sex workers have been with this sort of terminology and dirty talk, it's made me really happy. Although I do enjoy giving a spanking too.
My question how comfortable are you ladies in this thread with verbal domination like being called a dirty whore and shut and stuff? Just for comparison with my experiences with MPAs and Strippers.
I remember when I first started going to strip clubs and Massage Parlor and fearing that if I shared these fantasies that I'd upset, scare, or offend someone which as a nice guy I wouldn't want to do, and getting thrown out. That woman I've enjoyed would be so open mind about these fantasies is really cool in my experience.
i dont mean to generalize but you know the reason why those girls are so comfy with name calling right ?
I'm personally not comfortable with it at all. It doesn't sit well with me.
I don't look at myself as a "dirty whore" or a "sexy bitch/slut" and it is an immediate turn off for a gentleman to call out those things to me, even in the heat of the moment.
Granted, I think it's only happened a few times, but I am not the type to freeze up or go all lecture mode on him. I just let it slide, but through my eyes, if a gentleman prefers to call a woman these things, he subconsciously has a lesser respect for our line of work. Just how I feel. He wants us to feel degraded, that degradation is a turn-on. He enjoys the inferiority complex. I just can't fake or follow through with those role-plays.
I understand there is a market for it, as well as maybe a time and a place, but regardless of the literal definition of certain terms, I still hold myself to a certain standard of respect, completely void of vulgarity (which is what I consider it to be).
Some may disagree, I'm sure. I know the BDSM community can be one of the utmost respect, but this is how I personally interpret things.
Never mind that BS ?? You bring Joy to men who have no other options, Myself included. I'm an older single guy because of a separation.
There is nothing more therapeutic right now than being with a beautiful woman sexually. And I will always treat them as so "Beautiful"
Funny Titalian and I 100% agreed on why we got into this life, for the very same reasons, and again i totally agree with his comments on the pure joy found nowhere else a nice encounter brings - as a meet with Chloë does, which will be repeated. I adore her and how she makes me feel (thank you Chloë!). Also, part of my real life involves dealing with the very worst of humanity, so this idea that violence or pain or insults during an intimate encounter with someone I adore is beyond revolting to me. But hey, if others are both good with it...and they don't spook the horses...enjoy. But I just don't get it and it will never appeal to me.
Wow - it took me a while to read through the thread.
I've always wondered what SPs thought about laws prohibiting the service. On one hand MPAs will tell me that they don't mind LE as they (are supposed to) keep them safe but I'm more curious of the barrier to entry: surely it makes getting into the business and upkeep more difficult, but I've always thought decriminalization or legalization was better.
#2: Legalization might come with excess baggage like excessive regulation though. Which is a better solution?
I've always wondered what SPs thought about laws prohibiting the service. On one hand MPAs will tell me that they don't mind LE as they (are supposed to) keep them safe but I'm more curious of the barrier to entry: surely it makes getting into the business and upkeep more difficult, but I've always thought decriminalization or legalization was better.
#2: Legalization might come with excess baggage like excessive regulation though. Which is a better solution?
WOW – what an amazing thread! I can’t believe I read and skimmed from beginning to end over the last couple of days. Very fascinating and thank you to the ladies who have provided their excellent insight and experience.
Given your independence, donations/money received and lets face it daily multiple orgasms the days you work each week throughout the year, as an SP how difficult would it be for you to stop cold turkey and retire or completely change careers? I would imagine it would be very difficult to stop completely. If you did stop which would be the hardest thing to give up, the independence, money or constant sex and orgasms?
Given your independence, donations/money received and lets face it daily multiple orgasms the days you work each week throughout the year, as an SP how difficult would it be for you to stop cold turkey and retire or completely change careers? I would imagine it would be very difficult to stop completely. If you did stop which would be the hardest thing to give up, the independence, money or constant sex and orgasms?
Wow, I forgot about this thread. I remember GenInToronto who started it. I Hope she is doing well, I think she was becoming a web graphics designer/programmer.
She used to have a virginator special for the newbies here.
Does giving a CBJ suck even when using flavoured condoms? (is there a polite way to ask) https://www.condomania.com/news/how-to-give-oral-sex-with-condoms.html
Then if progressing to FS how in a polite way to stop and then put a new condom on without being too awkward.(assuming 1 sog guy)
She used to have a virginator special for the newbies here.
Does giving a CBJ suck even when using flavoured condoms? (is there a polite way to ask) https://www.condomania.com/news/how-to-give-oral-sex-with-condoms.html
Then if progressing to FS how in a polite way to stop and then put a new condom on without being too awkward.(assuming 1 sog guy)
When it comes to clients:
1. Is there a difference in the way they act if it's heterosexual or lesbian sessions?
2. Out of all the clients seen, what's the general probability of the following:
- No show
- Shows up, but there is some kind of hassle.... doesn't pay, shortchanges you, asshole personality or anything that's a noticeable hassle
- Shows up, pays and is a normal encounter... nothing special and probably a forgettable meeting
- Shows up, pays and the person you met is a really awesome person (personality, sex, both)
I'm no SP, but I'll take a wild guess.....
10% No show
10% Hassle
70% Normal meeting
10% Awesome meeting
1. Is there a difference in the way they act if it's heterosexual or lesbian sessions?
2. Out of all the clients seen, what's the general probability of the following:
- No show
- Shows up, but there is some kind of hassle.... doesn't pay, shortchanges you, asshole personality or anything that's a noticeable hassle
- Shows up, pays and is a normal encounter... nothing special and probably a forgettable meeting
- Shows up, pays and the person you met is a really awesome person (personality, sex, both)
I'm no SP, but I'll take a wild guess.....
10% No show
10% Hassle
70% Normal meeting
10% Awesome meeting
I have done dom sessions where some have wanted me to dress them as girls and tie them up lol. It was quite the experience. I would say the only difference between bi or lesbian sessions is that they can be very very respectful which can be a change from some of the clients we can get. Not saying all clients are disrespectful but is about 40% of my clientele.
As for your second question
10% no show
20% hassle ( they haggle rates/services)
55 % normal meeting
15% awesome meeting.
It is hard to have an " awesome " meeting because you don't click with everybody or sometimes guys can come in a foul mood just looking for something to make it better. Also guys who are nervous can also make the session go awry because people can feel energy and if you are nervous then it can rub off on us..., There are about 20% of men who try to negotiate prices and services and also try to offer more money for unsafe services. We deal with all of this on a daily . Just the other day this guy made me so uncomfortable I grabbed his money gave it back to him and said have a nice day this isn't working . Please leave. He was in shock and couldn't believe it. I however for my safety was happy to give it back to him. I guess what I'm trying to say gents, is the way the way the session goes depends on YOU. If you treat the girl right , pay her prices, have good hygiene and are respectful then you should have zero problems. If you negotiate and are disrespectful then you should expect to not get the session of your dreams and its more like a "wham, bam, thank you mam" type of thing which I know most guys hate... but I could be wrong???
As for your second question
10% no show
20% hassle ( they haggle rates/services)
55 % normal meeting
15% awesome meeting.
It is hard to have an " awesome " meeting because you don't click with everybody or sometimes guys can come in a foul mood just looking for something to make it better. Also guys who are nervous can also make the session go awry because people can feel energy and if you are nervous then it can rub off on us..., There are about 20% of men who try to negotiate prices and services and also try to offer more money for unsafe services. We deal with all of this on a daily . Just the other day this guy made me so uncomfortable I grabbed his money gave it back to him and said have a nice day this isn't working . Please leave. He was in shock and couldn't believe it. I however for my safety was happy to give it back to him. I guess what I'm trying to say gents, is the way the way the session goes depends on YOU. If you treat the girl right , pay her prices, have good hygiene and are respectful then you should have zero problems. If you negotiate and are disrespectful then you should expect to not get the session of your dreams and its more like a "wham, bam, thank you mam" type of thing which I know most guys hate... but I could be wrong???
