Stopped Seeing Escorts

[wangbang]

Like I really couldn't care less but they keep venting about how this guy is weird, or how another guy is cheap, or how they think the guys job sucks, or how he's really nice but they need a guy more driven, he is too short, he's fun but not my type physically, basically all sorts of excuses. Sometimes I hear them tell me stuff like "I only date lawyers, doctors, or really successful guys in business"

My thoughts on why they're single: their standards are impossibly too high.

I have a very good female friend who is 15 years and 60 pounds past her prime. Her face which was once, at best, cute is now fat and bloated. She has no real interest or desire to work and is, frankly, a sponge. She suffers from massive depression because she "can't find a man good enough for her". Weekly she vents to a psychiatrist about how unhappy she is about this lack of suitable males.

One day, she told me what her minimum standards for a man are and let me say that I doubt there is even one man who meets this ideal in all of Canada. Simply ridiculous.

Someone posted a great youtube clip in another thread and the lady in that video made a comment along the lines of "at the same time that age, time and gravity are taking their toll women seem to be ramping up their standards to ever higher levels".

 

[Curious36]

One thing I have noticed lately is that are there ever a lot of sexually starved women in their 30's 40's and 50's. And aggressive. I guess they have to be so because we all have been seeing SP's and ignoring them LOL.

And there are a lot of marriages where both partners just don't seem to have interest in each other - and that frees up a lot of partners out there.

This is what I found when I was separated from first wife and was on those dating websites. Never went with any 40 or 50 year olds but lots in mid 30's and younger I "hobbied" a bit during those periods as well but a) didnt enjoy the whole paying for it with a stranger deal to be what i enjoyed b) was getting a lot from different ladies through the sites and love the chase/game.
Maybe someday I will partake again....who knows....havent had the urge for years though. I suspect if I went again to see an escort it would remind me of why I stopped seeing them in the first place.

 

[lazysausage]

 

[Mikehorn]

"Why? What are you bringing to the table to match that?" I get the dirty looks and the convo usually stops.

Hilarious. The answer is, a really good divorce lawyer who is standing by before the marriage even takes place.

 

[Mikehorn]

Weekly she vents to a psychiatrist about how unhappy she is about this lack of suitable males.

I'm happy for the psychiatrist. Ka-ching. I guess that's the single middle aged woman equivalent of hobbying.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Ladies don't say that to me anymore. I am like the opposite of you I guess. They get mad at me. When a woman says that I always ask the same question

"Why? What are you bringing to the table to match that?" I get the dirty looks and the convo usually stops.

Good for you. Thanks.

 

[Serpent]

lol. we have one girl just like this in our office. she's late 30s, completely out of shape, nice person, but always complaining about how life is unfair and how every guy she likes is taken. if she's not telling me about it she's talking to her single friends who are much more attractive than her but have the same issues. she showed me her online dating profile and how she uses a 5 year old picture. lol. the other ladies showed me their online profiles. omfg, it's like a laundry list of requirements. lol. i don't know i am too nice sometimes, i just sit there and listen to their bullshit but try to divert the conversation by talking about Xmen, godzilla, or something else they have no interest in.

Welcome to my old life. That's why i killed my online profile. I realized that their unrealistic expectations were making me question my self worth.

 

[Serpent]

"Why? What are you bringing to the table to match that?" I get the dirty looks and the convo usually stops.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I don't know what it is in the culture of Toronto where women feel so entitled to swing way over their actual "worth". It'd be like me cooking up my list of wish list items where my perfect woman ends up somewhere a mix of Kate Upton, Danica Patrick, Mother Teresa, a yogi and a couple of other things.

Why are chicks here so deluded? Please help me out so i can devise an effective dating pool segmentation strategy?

 

[Serpent]

I think I'd be doing you a favour but not introducing you

Only for me to shag 'em. These are not relationship material - who wants a lifetime of stress and entitled partner who has nothing to contribute? Yeah....I know that variety quite well now, unfortunately.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

complete entitlement. there are guys out there with more money than common sense who will give women everything they ask for that promotes this type of behavior and attitude. funny enough these guys don't know that being a doormat gets you no real respect. most mature sane women will not take advantage of guys but the ones who think they're hot shit and have questionable morals will see men as suckers with unlimited expense accounts or think they are on some sort of paid spousal search.

The other problem with this is that they end up ruining it for the mature, sane ones like myself. I'm tired of hearing what a B**** their ex was, how she used them, how they'll never ever get married again, etc. When I hear bitterness like that coming from a guys mouth I run the other way. I'm not paying for some other woman's real/perceived mistakes.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I don't know what it is in the culture of Toronto where women feel so entitled to swing way over their actual "worth". It'd be like me cooking up my list of wish list items where my perfect woman ends up somewhere a mix of Kate Upton, Danica Patrick, Mother Teresa, a yogi and a couple of other things.

Why are chicks here so deluded? Please help me out so i can devise an effective dating pool segmentation strategy?

I can tell you there are men like that. Except with most men it is the physical aspects. Why do you think women feel the need to be a size 0 with DD breasts, blonde hair and weight a 105lbs? It is a two way street. I have seen plenty of guys complain about being single but they won't bother to look at the women who are interested because they don't "look good enough"

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

The other problem with this is that they end up ruining it for the mature, sane ones like myself. I'm tired of hearing what a B**** their ex was, how she used them, how they'll never ever get married again, etc. When I hear bitterness like that coming from a guys mouth I run the other way. I'm not paying for some other woman's real/perceived mistakes.

^^^^^ 100%%%%%% bang on. I am sure this can be said for men as well. There are a lot of women who have been scarred by an ex and the current man has hoops to jump through to get her to trust and feel secure.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

^^^^^ 100%%%%%% bang on. I am sure this can be said for men as well. There are a lot of women who have been scarred by an ex and the current man has hoops to jump through to get her to trust and feel secure.

Truthfully, there is nothing wrong with either a man or woman explaining to a current, potential partner that they have been hurt in the past and need to take things slow. It let's the other party know where they stand and gives them a chance to determine if they want to put in some extra effort and patience or not. The real problem is the lack of communication in the beginning until whamo, the issues start surfacing in a very negative way.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

Truthfully, there is nothing wrong with either a man or woman explaining to a current, potential partner that they have been hurt in the past and need to take things slow. It let's the other party know where they stand and gives them a chance to determine if they want to put in some extra effort and patience or not. The problem is the lack of communication in the beginning until whamo, the issues start surfacing in a very negative way.

True but sometimes, I would even say most times, people are just truly not aware of the damage done by past relationships until they are knee deep in another one.

 

[pablice]

Truthfully, there is nothing wrong with either a man or woman explaining to a current, potential partner that they have been hurt in the past and need to take things slow. It let's the other party know where they stand and gives them a chance to determine if they want to put in some extra effort and patience or not. The real problem is the lack of communication in the beginning until whamo, the issues start surfacing in a very negative way.

Is it just me or do I feel a song coming out of this...

 

[Curious36]

lol. we have one girl just like this in our office. she's late 30s, completely out of shape, nice person, but always complaining about how life is unfair and how every guy she likes is taken. if she's not telling me about it she's talking to her single friends who are much more attractive than her but have the same issues. she showed me her online dating profile and how she uses a 5 year old picture. lol. the other ladies showed me their online profiles. omfg, it's like a laundry list of requirements. lol. i don't know i am too nice sometimes, i just sit there and listen to their bullshit but try to divert the conversation by talking about Xmen, godzilla, or something else they have no interest in.

Welcome to my old life. That's why i killed my online profile. I realized that their unrealistic expectations were making me question my self worth.

In my experiences it is the younger women up to about age 30 that have these sort of unrealistic expectations (not all, but many).....life teaches them that those expectations are unreal over time. As such, most by their thirties are looking for a nice guy who isnt a dick head.

 

[DB123]

In my experiences it is the younger women up to about age 30 that have these sort of unrealistic expectations (not all, but many).....life teaches them that those expectations are unreal over time. As such, most by their thirties are looking for a nice guy who isnt a dick head.

Really, I find it only gets worse. Once they pass a certain age, you run into a mindset of 'well, I've held out this long for Mr. Perfect, I won't "settle" now'. fast forward a couple years and teh bitterness is setting in big time and the expectations are getting even crazier. Now its like they want in guy in their 40s who is successful, charming, blah blah blah, but also can't have kids or even be divorced.

 

[Mikehorn]

Really, I find it only gets worse. Once they pass a certain age, you run into a mindset of 'well, I've held out this long for Mr. Perfect, I won't "settle" now'. fast forward a couple years and teh bitterness is setting in big time and the expectations are getting even crazier. Now its like they want in guy in their 40s who is successful, charming, blah blah blah, but also can't have kids or even be divorced.

Then they'd be grilling him about why he never married.

 

[DB123]

Then they'd be grilling him about why he never married.

Yup. Tell it to your cats, Lady.

That's why I close the door to my office (that and, you know, terb )

 

[mynameisearl11]

I'm in here and I thought that I'm reading Ann Landers letters!