Romance in the Workplace

oldjones

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Same sorta wise rule as never lending money to family, or doing paid work for friends. You and they wind up trying to figure out which of the competing and conflicting ties and motivators you should be listening to; in the rough spots—and there are always rough spots—someone will get it wrong, cause a disaster in the inappropriate side of the relationships. It can be done successfully, but not by everyone.

Company rules are for those too stupid to do the right thing themselves.
 

ICEman72

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Wow, that's disgusting. What kind of person could agree to falsely accuse a fellow co-worker of such a thing, even for a friend?
Welcome to the real world...some guys are douchebags, some women are worthless cunts and far too many people have no idea of the concept of ethics or morals
 

ICEman72

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Company rules are for those too stupid to do the right thing themselves.
Makes one wonder how some people make it through the day. When you consider what is average intelligence, just think of all those people who fall below that mark. Once you see that, you know why companies have rules, lol
 

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There's a training module on this where I work. Right off the bat, it acknowledges that a lot of couples meet at work, so they don't discourage it. They have a couple of guidelines:

- Once you've asked someone out, and she's said No once, that's it. You're not allowed to ask again or otherwise pursue it

- Strongly discourage dating someone that either above or below you in the chain-of-command, or where there the potential that one could become the other's boss. In other words, don't date within your own department. If choose to do so anyway, then you have to notify HR of the relationship.
Do these guidelines apply to gay people as well?
 

ICEman72

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The rules would apply to all....just because the offender/victim may be gay does not change the rules around sexual harassment
 

mmouse

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I once hit on a girl after being at a new job for about 6 months. I then discovered she was engaged to my boss, but they were trying to keep it hush. Not exactly a good career move for me.
 

trod

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It sucks that most of the women you want to date are either already taken or are too stuck up and the women you want to be only friends with develop feelings for you and can't see you as a friend.

Dating in workplace is risky for sure. If you really feel that she has the potential to be your wife, go ahead. If its just a sexual urge, you will be better off seeing an SP instead.
 

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It's so funny what people with no ability will resort to when threatened. People will do all sorts of sketchy stuff instead of playing an honest straight up game. I had multiple run ins with people from work in the past but I've found that they almost always self destruct.
At my old job, when I was just starting out, a co-worker took credit for a project I was working on. Lucky for me, our boss knew better. He then made a point of bringing it up in a meeting and praising my co-worker for the work; just to see how he'd respond, and probably how I'd respond. While my co-worker looked nervous and somewhat guilty, he never spoke up. He summarily got reamed out in front of everyone. lol

Best day of my life. :D
 

ICEman72

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At my old job, when I was just starting out, a co-worker took credit for a project I was working on. Lucky for me, our boss knew better. He then made a point of bringing it up in a meeting and praising my co-worker for the work; just to see how he'd respond, and probably how I'd respond. While my co-worker looked nervous and somewhat guilty, he never spoke up. He summarily got reamed out in front of everyone. lol

Best day of my life. :D
That's AWESOME! Wish I'd been there to witness it. Fortunately, you had a smart boss. Mine, on the other hand, has taken credit for my work and ideas and I got nothing but more work for her to steal.
 

AdamH

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Rule 1: Be attractive
Rule 2: Don't be unattractive.

Otherwise its sexual harrassment.

However if she likes you and you don't hit on her you are a fag and a jerk.

Isn't feminism fun.
Wow.. That's some pretty strong woman hate you got going on.

I've literally never heard of an instance of a man being slapped with the label of "harassment" simply because he asked for a co-worker's phone number (or a date or what not).

I HAVE heard of hundreds of instances of men objectifying women around the office, making comments about short skirts and low cut tops. Then the same dickless losers have the audacity to call these coworkers "frigid" or "a tease" when the lady doesn't swoon at their clumsy advances..
 

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Wow.. That's some pretty strong woman hate you got going on.

I've literally never heard of an instance of a man being slapped with the label of "harassment" simply because he asked for a co-worker's phone number (or a date or what not).

I HAVE heard of hundreds of instances of men objectifying women around the office, making comments about short skirts and low cut tops. Then the same dickless losers have the audacity to call these coworkers "frigid" or "a tease" when the lady doesn't swoon at their clumsy advances..
HAHAHA...well obviously these dudes were God's gift to women and shame on the ladies for not recognizing it!
 

AdamH

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It sucks that most of the women you want to date are either already taken or are too stuck up and the women you want to be only friends with develop feelings for you and can't see you as a friend.
Perhaps you should lower your standards.. Many of these women who want to be more than friends could very easily knock your socks off.. I have had several girlfriends that I initially considered unappealing.. However, after somewhat reluctantly agreeing to go on dates with them (and discovering what kinda sex fiends they could be) I ended up becoming obsessed with them..
 

LKD

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I can't imagine work place romance... Back in uinversity I've been involved in classmate romance.. Trust it becomes really awkward when things go south and you need to spend the next 3-4 years with the same classmates. xD
 
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