Do I need a lawyer, or just contact police?

[Klute]

I think if you contacted the police they would give her a warning. And that should be enough to keep her out of your way.

 

[red]

I can't give you advice on how to handle this but I can advise others and use this post as a warning:

Do not give out your real name, address, job, board handle(s) or park your car anywhere that would expose your lic. plate. This is supposed to be an anonymous business and I wish guys would get with the program! I'm single with a SO but even being single I never book without covering my ass.

i agree. also never give your SO your real name or address

 

[wangbang]

Oh, I also bought her a $5000 eternity diamond ring. That might have helped ease the pain

Rob? Rob Ford????

I'd negotiate if it were a small sum, say $1000, however...

Once you pay a dollar you are done.

I say ignore and deny, deny and deny some more.

 

[great bear]

Dosn't look like a clear case of extortion to me.

Aardie, you have verbally assaulted me and caused me anguish during the last many years. I would like you to send me $500 so I can have a fresh start in life. I hope that you will send me the money by february 15.

If Ardie owes you only $500.00 just think what num nuts Blackcock owes you.

 

[FlorenceYi]

This is a very disappointing situation for us SPs, and a horrifying one for you I'm sure. Yes, for preventative measures, it is always good to safeguard one's identity when possible but in your case having known her for years as well as travelling with her, knowing each other on a real first name basis seems natural if there was that trust. (Sometimes customs can really investigate your relationship with your travel buddy too). It does seem that this lady is suffering through some kind of mental health deterioration and a lot of pain, who knows exactly from what. It's unfortunate she chose to take it out on you. I don't think her threat is real, but I wouldn't rule it out totally. I would be concerned that after being unsuccessful with lashing out on others that she may lash out on herself (contemplate suicide, typical pattern).. she needs support. I would suggest a first step is to reply back with a tone of conern and sincerity, and see what are her real intentions and problems.. that may help hopefully!! Good luck and please let us know what happens!!

 

[mandrill]

That certainly meets the common law elements of Blackmail/Extortion and more importantly of § 346 of the Criminal Code.


§ 346. (1) Every one commits extortion who, without reasonable justification or excuse and with intent to obtain anything, by threats, accusations, menaces or violence induces or attempts to induce any person, whether or not he is the person threatened, accused or menaced or to whom violence is shown, to do anything or cause anything to be done. . . .

Certainly you should contact police, the problem, however, is the 'ticking time bomb' aspect, I leave it to my learned friends of the Upper Canada Bar whether you need to simultaneously explore a civil suppression order/injunction or whether the crown will move rapidly enough to take care of that.

He contacts the cops right away. They wire him and he sets up a meeting w her. Her attendance at the meeting confirms her participation in the extortion scam. The cops nab her at the meeting. She is held for a bail hearing where she is either detained or agrees to not contact anyone with the subject matter of the extortion threat. A gag order is placed on the case.

She is found guilty and sent to jail. End of story.

 

[danmand]

He contacts the cops right away. They wire him and he sets up a meeting w her. Her attendance at the meeting confirms her participation in the extortion scam. The cops nab her at the meeting. She is held for a bail hearing where she is either detained or agrees to not contact anyone with the subject matter of the extortion threat. A gag order is placed on the case.

She is found guilty and sent to jail. End of story.

And Oagre will win the Oscar for best screenwriting next year.

 

[DB123]

And Oagre will win the Oscar for best screenwriting next year.

+1 My thoughts exactly

 

[givemebrain]

And for sure, deny deny deny. I agree that you may want to mention something to your wife about some crazy email you've been getting, and tip her off ONLY IF you feel the psycho will actually spill the beans. Wait until the last minute, but wifey should hear it from you first. No one likes surprises. (My wife found my Ashley Madison account on her own, and she was pissed... took a lot of explaining to get out of that one)

 

[GameBoy27]

I wonder how many other guys she's sent that email to? You could be one of many.

 

[afterhours]

He contacts the cops right away. They wire him and he sets up a meeting w her. Her attendance at the meeting confirms her participation in the extortion scam. The cops nab her at the meeting. She is held for a bail hearing where she is either detained or agrees to not contact anyone with the subject matter of the extortion threat. A gag order is placed on the case.

She is found guilty and sent to jail. End of story.

If only he had guts to contact police. And it's a big if.

 

[TeasePlease]

And assuming the cops will actually act in a timely manner, which is no guarantee....

 

[GPIDEAL]

Wow! sorry to hear this. Obviously a very delicate situation. More facts are needed, like the background of your relationship,were you strictly professional or did it get personal, what you may or may not have told her, etc. I'd try talking to her first. Be reasonable.

On the surface, it sounds like extortion. She hasn't carried out her threat. So, the police can do something about (investigate and lay charges). A lawyer can't do anything really (other than write a stern letter, which will cost you $).

Note that once you file a complaint with the police, it's largely out of your hands.

For example, if they decide to lay charges against her, what would she have to lose by going ahead with her threat anyways?

Wise words. It definitely is extortion.

Before the OP calls the police, perhaps he should email her and educate her by quoting or providing a link to the Criminal Code. Tell her that if she should rat on him, he will call the police and prosecute accordingly to the fullest extent of the law, and that she will face a prison term of four years.

Then he can ask why she'd doing this and what's going on in her life. Maybe she's in a desperate situation, so she might be open to advice or help. However, he has to be practical and explain that he can't 'save her'.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Don't applaud me... I was an idiot and left it on my laptop. I should have been crucified by her, honestly. She's not good with computers, but somehow pressed "reopen last closed window" and found my page

With pure luck, and alot of explaining and convincing, she's let the issue drop. I've never done anything remotely unfaithful that she knows of, so my record was clean. We don't have kids, so that's another plus. I deleted the account right in front of her, she saw me push the button. Promised never to do it again. And, honestly there was a magazine article about Ashley Madison that came out a few months prior, so I showed it to her and tried to convince her I was just being curious and that nothing "happened". She seemed to get that most of the girls postings were fake anyway. She still brings it up when we fight, she calls it the time when I cheated on her...

Oh, I also bought her a $5000 eternity diamond ring. That might have helped ease the pain

Jesus, is this another example that it's cheaper to hobby?

 

[GPIDEAL]

I doubt it is a real case of extortion. If it was, she would not have left a paper (email) trail. I would assume it is a request for payment for services, with hints of bad consequences if the payment is not forthcoming.

Of course, I may very well be completely wrong.

What did she do for $10,000? Was he on a credit payment plan?

 

[danmand]

What did she do for $10,000?

That is a $6.40 question. Use your imagination.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I can't give you advice on how to handle this but I can advise others and use this post as a warning:

Do not give out your real name, address, job, board handle(s) or park your car anywhere that would expose your lic. plate. This is supposed to be an anonymous business and I wish guys would get with the program! I'm single with a SO but even being single I never book without covering my ass.

How are you 'single' when you have an S.O.? You mean you're attached but not married. Good advice nonetheless.

 

[GPIDEAL]

That is a $6.40 question. Use your imagination.

I think it's YOU who has a big imagination to suggest that it's for services rendered instead of a blackmail threat.

 

[DB123]

I think it's YOU who has a big imagination to suggest that it's for services rendered instead of a blackmail threat.

To be fair, given the implied consequences, that amounts to the same thing.

 

[afterhours]

And assuming the cops will actually act in a timely manner, which is no guarantee....

well if they act (which is likely) they will squash her like a bug.

And if they don't act they would tell OP that they don't feel they have enough, and then he'll have to go and record a convo with her confirming that she won't contact his family if he pays $10K, and THEN they will act.

The bitch seems volatile and unstable, I would not trust that she has mental capacity to understand how much shit she is in, even if it was explained to her by the best lawyer. This is the matter for the cops.