Dating is so fucked

[GPIDEAL]

I dated a gal from a chat line once.

It was at a busy time of the year for me (she knew what I did for a living).

She was upset that I didn't call her the next day, as this would prove that I had genuine interest for her, even when I told her that I want to take things slow. (It's not like I wasn't attracted to her).

I rolled my eyes when she said that she wasn't interested in me no more, and I was a tad shocked.

However, I said that even though I disagree with her, she should do what makes her comfortable.

This cool response from me must have annoyed her even more, and she said, "Oh well now, don't turn the tables on me".

At this point, I knew she was desperate, and I didn't care for her attitude.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I guess it depends on how you meet them, how old the girl is, and what the girl's past history of dating has been like. Don't not have sex on a first date though, if it happens, it happens. I actually found that other than the easy access to sex, sps are very similar in what they really like and dislike about guys.

Do not give up on civies...Put it this way, there is little chance of an sp seeing you as a unique individual or really truly caring about you. You know at the end of the day the next guy is getting a similar experience. You also know that when the going gets tough so to speak, she will be happy to discard you and vice versa.

I think sp should strictly be for entertaining fantasies. Although I too must admit some sps are amazing at making you "feel" loved temporarily which results in a much more enjoyable session.

Hobbying caveat: It does make us lazy to pursue, if not impatient with, 'civilians'.

 

[explorerzip]

Sounds like the OP is talking about an arranged relationship?

 

[vulcan99]

I dated a gal from a chat line once.

It was at a busy time of the year for me (she knew what I did for a living).

She was upset that I didn't call her the next day, as this would prove that I had genuine interest for her, even when I told her that I want to take things slow. (It's not like I wasn't attracted to her).

I rolled my eyes when she said that she wasn't interested in me no more, and I was a tad shocked.

However, I said that even though I disagree with her, she should do what makes her comfortable.

This cool response from me must have annoyed her even more, and she said, "Oh well now, don't turn the tables on me".

At this point, I knew she was desperate, and I didn't care for her attitude.

you met her on a chatline....and you didn't know she was desperate?

 

[blackrock13]

Hobbying caveat: It does make us lazy to pursue, if not impatient with, 'civilians'.

Much like speed dialling makes us forget other people phone numbers, texting and e-mails makes us forget how to actually talk to people face to face, and MPA's and SPs make you forget how to actually interact with/date civilian females. Isn't modern society wonderful?

 

[basketcase]

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Maybe a separate topic, but after 10 or 15 years of hobbying, is it even possible to go back to civilians? I am starting to think I honestly can't.
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Yes. You just have to know that you're playing in a different ballpark.


One date? Guess we know why she's single.

 

[GrandBlasterK]

Much like speed dialling makes us forget other people phone numbers, texting and e-mails makes us forget how to actually talk to people face to face, and MPA's and SPs make you forget how to actually interact with/date civilian females. Isn't modern society wonderful?

LOL, I agree. And the really fucked up thing is that I can actually act like an SP with civvies who don't interest me. Just tell them I charge $250/hr and they disappear. I'm a lover, not a fighter.

 

[cuttysark]

Much like speed dialling makes us forget other people phone numbers, texting and e-mails makes us forget how to actually talk to people face to face, and MPA's and SPs make you forget how to actually interact with/date civilian females. Isn't modern society wonderful?

Oh, so now you see escorts and you date. Who knew.

 

[hangover13]

A large percentage of terbites seem to keep confusing paying for sex with love and affection.

It's not.

Don't believe me?

Tell your pay for play friend that you have feelings for her and you can tell she has them for you too and so you don't think that you should have to pay her. See how that goes.

As stupid as I am I have done this 4 times and the first one said yes to going out/dating no more money to be exchanged but said she had to continue to work so that one didn't go far. The second one we went out on a few dates, had sex a couple of times no money exchanged and than she disappeared. The third one said no to me but we still talk and have the business side and the fourth one didn't even response and disappeared so it is from my experience it is all misses and be better to just stay quiet, just enjoy the time as much as you can and live out the fantasy.

 

[legmann]

Dating becomes hard if you do not have the "stamina" for what it really takes to get to know someone, and for them to get to know you. The right escort provides companionship, a few laughs, and intimacy...and asks little in return except that we be gentlemen. A date can feel like a marathon

Agreed. Though I don't confuse hobbying with dating, it can be a bit too convenient sometimes to get what I want from an SP rather than go on three (sometimes tedious) dates in the hope for the same.

 

[blackrock13]

Oh, so now you see escorts and you date. Who knew.

Please note the use of the word 'you' not me, us, or I with regards to MPs and SPs. You're trying to hard. So many threads have echoed the problems with relating with civilians after hobbying, even this one. Loosen your grip on your little head once in a while when you read posts, I hear it helps.

 

[wangbang]

I go on one fucking date.

I don't even know this person and we are a couple.

http://www.imdb.com/media/rm2225374976/nm0001491

 

[kaempferrand]

On the subject of confusing hobbying and dating, i've had the following thoughts and experiences:

1) i have met several SPs who are smarter, funnier, more attractive and far more "put together" than women i meet in civilian life;
2) none of those things would change about the SP if we dated;
3) BUT, what would change is the fantasy component of our time together and real life would kick in. Realitywould mean seeing this relationship throught the same lens as a civilian relationship;
4) THEN, everything changes as real life takes over;
5) our chance of being successful and/or long term then becomes the same as any other civilian relationship;
6) that is why i have NEVER confused hobbying with dating...why ruin a good thing?

Totally agree. The money and what is expected in the encounter are what keep things in check and everyone behaves themselves. Everyone puts their best foot forward since we know what to expect. We both know the beginning, the middle and the end. When and if money is not involved and things are left in the open with no understanding of how and when things will end, that is when even the SP if you met her as a civilian woman will become a pain in the ass just as well.

 

[jazzbox]

Awesome!

I met a girl online dating that invited me to be her date to a wedding for our third date. I was set to go until she made some comment like, "my friend is getting married to her groom, I wanted to bring mine".

I decided that it was easier just to stop seeing her than to explain I am already married.

 

[newbler]

There are many civilian women willing to spend the night after a solid first date... It does help if you are in good shape and can carry an interesting conversation, both of which are no longer my strengths. But one thing is for sure, a civie's skills typically do not match up an expert and you have to actually put some effort into the sex and foreplay which is not my forte...

The quality of sex is like a whole new subtopic of pro vs civilian, it will rarely compare. Try telling a girl on the third date you want to start with a BBBJCIMSW, move to DATY while recharging for your 2nd SOG, then want doggy, cowgirl, and mish with a COB finish. lol

 

[kaempferrand]

Or even just simply to ask her to shave her bush?!?!?!?

 

[wangbang]

I always ask civies if they have a no review policy.

 

[newbler]

I always ask civies if they have a no review policy.

When's a good time to ask if they are GFE or PSE?

 

[Teal]

Women have a mobile app where they can review your sexual prowess, whether your cheap or not. I forgot what it was called. It's marketed as a solution to keep women safe

Oh and men have no access to it, they can only take down the profiles women made for you.

 

[youwontknow]

Or even just simply to ask her to shave her bush?!?!?!?

I thought most women shave there bush these days?