27 Year Old Virgin - My Sad Story

[marcobaliey]

I've been a long time lurker of these boards and **********, but first time poster.

As the title says, I'm a 27 year old virgin and not by choice. The reason being? I'm shy, sometimes encounter social anxiety and I lack some self-confidence. A part of it also comes from growing up in a strict, somewhat religious home. I've found it harder and harder to lose my virginity over the years. In fact, I've had very little sexual contact my entire life and I've never had a girlfriend.

When I was 23, I got the feeling a girl I worked with liked me. We hung out a lot, she invited me out weekends, etc. I just really couldn't put the moves and seal the deal as they say. I thought about seeing a SP. Maybe after losing my virginity with a SP, it would of helped build up some courage, but I never did and the relationship went no where.

A year later, my parents went away for a week on vacation and I decided it was a good time to see a SP to finally lose it. At the time, I heard about a popular SP called Gigi on the boards. Don't know if she's around anymore. Again, I chickened out.

When I turned 25, I went out with a friend to a strip club. I got a lap dance, sucked on her tits, some ass grabbing, dry humping, etc. That's probably the furthest I've gotten with a girl. Sad but true. If it wasn't for the friend pushing me to go, I probably wouldn't have went.

I recently turned 27 and it's really getting to me. I feel like I just need to lose it. After, it may help me build some courage, self-coincidence, maybe it will help kill some nerves so I can go further in other parts of my life. I'm not a bad looking guy, just shy.

I'm thinking about finally seeing a SP but I'm afraid that it will be awkward. It probably will be. What's your guys advice? I feel so sexually frustrated all the time. Any good starter SP's to see that might help make me at easy with the whole situation?

Any advice?

 

[fuji]

Seriously take what you just wrote and post it on Plenty of Fish. I bet you get a sympathy fuck out of it. Maybe a girlfriend.

Add a pitch at the bottom with you positive attributes but just post that verbatim.

 

[Insidious Von]

Not that uncommon and not that sad. Are you capable of earning a living?

Never mind the SP. Get a referral from a psychologist to an assertive training group. If you don't someone like myself will burn you to a crisp in the business arena.

 

[Ref]

Gawker should donate part of the $200G's to a night of SP's for you.

Or maybe Fred should set up a special fund for you.

 

[Frosty]

Just do it. Get naked with a SPs and don't even think about it. Fuck her silly.

 

[skidoo64]

Seriously take what you just wrote and post it on Plenty of Fish. I bet you get a sympathy fuck out of it. Maybe a girlfriend.

Add a pitch at the bottom with you positive attributes but just post that verbatim.

What Fuji said!!!!! When you do post this on POF, be sure to report back to the board. You will have so many stories to share. Look for a newly "separated" lady in her mid 30's. She'll know what to do to you.

 

[Curious36]

I say go to a well reviewed sp. Tell her beforehand and it will probably be very fun for both. As for posting on POF, I say do it AFTER you go to SP. Afterall most women on POF lie to some degree within their profiles....so its all good.

 

[marcobaliey]

I've been living on my own the past 3 years and I earn a living. Earlier it was tough because of my tough upbringing. My parents were virgins and married, etc. And they'd preach it, etc. As the years past, I got either lazy, didn't care or it got harder to let go of the nerves. Oddly, I'm fairly confident in my day to day life, with women, I'm a bit timid. It's like this secret that keeps me from moving on.

I'm not sure if I want to do the whole POF thing.

 

[Insidious Von]

What do you do for a living, do you have a professional circle.

Sure go for the SP if it will help. But you'll only be dealing with the symptoms, not the cause. If you don't deal with your shyness problem, you'll be exploited by those more aggressive than yourself. And they won't lose a second of sleep doing it. I used to be shy so I took up Judo, later on I was part of a team that hammered out a collective agreement.

No more shyness.

 

[marcobaliey]

I'd rather not say what I do for a living on a public board. I'm a young professional. Let's leave it at that. Yes, I do have a professional circle, but I have a rule, I'd rather not sleep with a coworker or a friend of a coworker. In fact, I don't like mixing work with my personal life.

 

[skidoo64]

Try out an Sp then to break the seal. I'm sure that there are some ladies on these boards that would be willing to help you out. Maybe you could swing a coffee date with one of them to help you get over your social fears with women.
You may want to contact some of the better indy's to arrange something, I say Indy's because you can speak directly to them. Hopefully you would be able to make some sort of a connection over the phone, someone who you feel more comfortable with. Try Jennifer McQueen out. She seems like a very kind hearted lady, and very comfortable with herself. I'm sure that there are others as well as Jenn out there.
Wish you the best of luck!

 

[Insidious Von]

That's a shame, you must not want a promotion.

Jenn's good.

 

[Laird]

It's only because of feminist/mangina shaming that you feel weird about seeing an sp. Hell, even guys on this board shame us ("You should be able to get it for free at your age derp derp derp"). In Spain, it's considered normal for college aged guys to visit brothels regularly.

Just do it already.

 

[tommmyyy]

I can recommend anabella, works around Erin mills and qew. Very sweet, not intimidating at all. And fortunately for you, if it all goes bad you can still cry on her large Boobs. Just text her before the situation, she will take care of you! She is my atf. Don't be worried about a thing. Just have some naked fun, it's not that heavy a thing.

 

[marcobaliey]

I've gotten a promotion already.

I'm not sure why my job has to do with this. Can you elaborate?

 

[TheHulk]

I bet a lot of women here want your v card now My advice, jerk off before you have sex

 

[HEYHEY]

Ya theres plenty of women out there whom you dont have to pay. Work on that instead of seeing an escort...

Flame away

 

[DanJ]

I've gotten a promotion already.

I'm not sure why my job has to do with this. Can you elaborate?

I think he's insinuating your work career will suffer because of this shyness issue with women. Meaning that if you can't conquer women, then you will be walked on at work too. As if the women are the easy part lol.

 

[bestman007]

I've been a long time lurker of these boards and **********, but first time poster.

As the title says, I'm a 27 year old virgin and not by choice. The reason being? I'm shy, sometimes encounter social anxiety and I lack some self-confidence. A part of it also comes from growing up in a strict, somewhat religious home. I've found it harder and harder to lose my virginity over the years. In fact, I've had very little sexual contact my entire life and I've never had a girlfriend.

When I was 23, I got the feeling a girl I worked with liked me. We hung out a lot, she invited me out weekends, etc. I just really couldn't put the moves and seal the deal as they say. I thought about seeing a SP. Maybe after losing my virginity with a SP, it would of helped build up some courage, but I never did and the relationship went no where.

A year later, my parents went away for a week on vacation and I decided it was a good time to see a SP to finally lose it. At the time, I heard about a popular SP called Gigi on the boards. Don't know if she's around anymore. Again, I chickened out.

When I turned 25, I went out with a friend to a strip club. I got a lap dance, sucked on her tits, some ass grabbing, dry humping, etc. That's probably the furthest I've gotten with a girl. Sad but true. If it wasn't for the friend pushing me to go, I probably wouldn't have went.

I recently turned 27 and it's really getting to me. I feel like I just need to lose it. After, it may help me build some courage, self-coincidence, maybe it will help kill some nerves so I can go further in other parts of my life. I'm not a bad looking guy, just shy.

I'm thinking about finally seeing a SP but I'm afraid that it will be awkward. It probably will be. What's your guys advice? I feel so sexually frustrated all the time. Any good starter SP's to see that might help make me at easy with the whole situation?

Any advice?

Are you free tonight? I know just the guy to pop your cherry but he's a little picky... so please post a picture first!

 

[explorerzip]

Step 1: man the fuck up and stop making excuses for yourself. Step 2: do whatever it takes (courses, self-help books, etc.) to get over your shyness, social awkwardness, and whatever other issues you might have. Better yet, get out and talk with real people instead of being on the computer. The only to way to get over shyness is to talk with people enough times that you get used to and even comfortable with it. No other way around it.