Dating an sp
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True. But the added complexity here is the issue. Can be true of a woman with a broad range of experience as well. The broader range of experience we have creates experience sure, but also confusion and distrust. Otherwise the first one would have been the only relationship. And don't kid yourself one night or years, they are all part of our relationship experience and understanding if the opposite sex.
I agree
I didn't mean to bum anyone out or to speak against dating Ladies in this line of work.
I was curious aboutother Lady's opinions of my past situations.
Personally I think it taught me a lot to have relationships with the aforwmentioned Ladies.
It taught me to think before reacting, to step back from a situation and weigh all the factors, to appreciate everything given and to trust and enjoy every moment shared.
Those relationships ended, but I have such great memories from them that if given the chance I would do it all over again.
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The fun was easier in some cases where we had honesty and she liked her job. But taking money and calling it a job and then being honest and saying she was a human after all and sometimes got turned on, while appreciatedly truthful was a mind fuck. Especially when you are completed involved at every level with the one person.
my concern would be: if you find that a person who is close to your heart became an SP, wouldn't you try to help her with money to get out of this business? And so this responsibility must raise its head at probably some point of your relationship with an SP.
If you refuse to support her so that she would stop working, how can you say that you love her? Arguably it's a test for decency. If you let her continue working as if she was a civilian, don't you fail that test?
If you refuse to support her so that she would stop working, how can you say that you love her? Arguably it's a test for decency. If you let her continue working as if she was a civilian, don't you fail that test?
The way I understand it (and I could be wrong, so any Lady please feel free to correct me), is that the decision to engage in this kind of work is a choice that is THEIRS, for whatever reason.
Trying to "rescue them", is insulting because it implies that these Ladies are helpless/weak. Very much like interacting with someone who is telling you their situation and you jump in with your opinion and "solution" without them having had asked you for it.
These Ladies are working their solution, first is to respect their choice. To lose that part of you that thinks that to be an SP is bad/degrading/evil/etc negative reasons.
I personally respect these Ladies, no one else really understands.
The b**********y to do what they do, and the cleverness and strwngth to deal with detractors at every turn.
Were I in that situation I probably would have stomped on some throats from the word go.
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Speaking form personal experience of having an SO who is an SP. Also, seeing other SP's for dates/ overnights (no monetaray exchange other than dinner/ hotel), while in that relarionship. Other than the obvious ( I'm a real scumbag, lol!), I say fucke'em all. 
I meant you must be prepared to commit if she asks for it (and I've been asked for it).offensive alert
your post borders on offensive for the following reasons...
first, we are not all in this biz for the money, although its a big bonus, it's certainly not the case that we all just need money so we can "get out of this business"
second, if you enter a relationship with an SP, it is not a test of your decency whether or not you talk her out of the biz
third, you don't need to 'let her' continue working. It's not up to you, and she doesn't require your permission.
Otherwise you are just fuck buddies but not even real friends
perhaps I poorly articulated my thought...I obviously understand that some ladies value freedom and other perks of this job and might be happy doing it and it would be a douche move to push them into anything they don't want to dowhich is entirely possible... they are definitely ladies doing just that. My point was that some of us don't want to be talked out of it.
It's also a douche move to assume that they would "want out" at all, and it's a douche+patronizing move to assume that they would be better off (mentally, spiritually, whatever) if they were out of the biz.
I personally have found it difficult to be in a relationship while working in this industry. Not for lack of men who are Willing to accept and love me for who I am and not what I do for a living. It is a personal block that I have because of my job! Go figure!
I agree with you that being an SP is a profession like any other, and that it should not be judged on any stigmas associated with it.offensive alert
your post borders on offensive for the following reasons...
first, we are not all in this biz for the money, although its a big bonus, it's certainly not the case that we all just need money so we can "get out of this business"
second, if you enter a relationship with an SP, it is not a test of your decency whether or not you talk her out of the biz
third, you don't need to 'let her' continue working. It's not up to you, and she doesn't require your permission.
However, when you are in a relationship, your partner's choice of careers affects you and the relationship itself. How many partners of police officers wish their partners did not go out and risk their lives every day? How about airforce test pilots, miners - hell even lawyers and doctors that work 16 hours a day? What about business executives that comes home clinically depressed because of conditions of where they work?
When you are in a relationship with someone your opinions about your partner's career DO MATTER. I am not saying that SP work is more stressful or less noble than other professions, but much like any career it has its pros and cons. And if those factors take a toll on my parter, or if they begin to take a toll on me- regardless of career - I am going to discuss it with them.
I agree with you that it is much more convenient for us to assume that she just naturally likes sucking these old strangers' dicks and is not doing it for money, so there is no need to hint at or offer any help. I've been through that too.
Except that no one else usually excepts those people to change their entire careers they had before the relationship, after the relationship.
Those careers do not have partners "wanting to save you" from the whorish lifestyle, etc.
While your point makes some sense, it is still not as clear cut as the way you imply. Not even close.
It also has an impact in social settings involving family, friends and acquaintances. For example, what happens if you go to a social function and someone asks what does your GF do? Would you really want to say "she is a CRA tax auditor (or SP)"? Not everybody is as open minded as they should be.
+1offensive alert
your post borders on offensive for the following reasons...
first, we are not all in this biz for the money, although its a big bonus, it's certainly not the case that we all just need money so we can "get out of this business"
second, if you enter a relationship with an SP, it is not a test of your decency whether or not you talk her out of the biz
third, you don't need to 'let her' continue working. It's not up to you, and she doesn't require your permission.
There is no "rescuing" in this. I escort in my free time in between family and career as a means of meeting interesting people and having a good time. I don't want someone coming into my life that tries to tell me I need to quit doing one of my hobbies.
Once upon a time, I gave up a life I loved because of a partner's pressure...
I'll never give up the reins on my life again.
Reins...horse...this thread= :deadhorse:
