People who don't take off their shoes...
- Thread starter Azprint
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Azprint,
It is really not an insult either way. In some countries / cultures they always wear footwear in the house. You keep your bed sanitary by never ever putting feet that have touched the floor into it. Asking someone to remove their shoes would be considered rude.
In other countries they always remove their shoes at the door and wear slippers provided by the host. They would find it bizarre that your soaks flushing the floor would be considered more sanitary than touching the inside of slippers.
In other countries and cultures they accept removing shoes and walking in soaks or bare feet is acceptable. (Socks with sandals though is utterly tasteless).
We could go back in time and talk about muddy fields vs the streets of London or Paris but it is immaterial. Few people are what their ancestors were.
It is all based on points of view. And what people convince themselves is normal. Since Canada is a stew pot you almost have to assume that you will experience a wide range of customs.
Which is more sanitary? Depends on the situation and environment. Most make sense in the context of where they originated.
I guess you just have to try and be a good guest and if you are not a "leave the shoes at the door" type..... carry slippers.
In Japan, as in many other Asian countries, it is customary to remove one's shoes at the front entrance or hallway of someone's home, and as someone of partial Asian heritage (and having living in an Asian country), I was brought up to respect this custom (btw, it is also customary to remove one's shoes when entering a Muslim mosque or a Hindu or Buddhist temple).
Whenever I enter someone else's home, I always remove my shoes, because I consider it a sign of respect for another person's home -- after all, think of everything you had stepped on while outdoors. So when I visited my relatives in the US, I was frankly shocked that there were people who walked in their homes with their shoes on.
Whenever I enter someone else's home, I always remove my shoes, because I consider it a sign of respect for another person's home -- after all, think of everything you had stepped on while outdoors. So when I visited my relatives in the US, I was frankly shocked that there were people who walked in their homes with their shoes on.
No hun. It means you grew up in a culture that thinks like that. In most of the world tramping all over ones floors is stockings or barefoot would be insulting, unsanitary, and should be avoided if you ever expect to be allowed in their home again.
If I sounded short perhaps you might consider the possibility that you inist on claiming I am a man. Systemic insults result in contempt.
I so wish you would learn to not try and chat with me.
i don't care about most of the world. i care about where i live. if you come to my house and don't take off your shoes you won't make it past the mud room and i will just assume you are a rude troglodyte and never invite you back.
considering canadian tradition is based on england with that being where we originated i would say we are in good company. japan and china and according to the russian shoes are not worn inside there either.
don't call me hun, i am not your hun and it's disgusting. i have a name, use it or don't put anything.
Considering we live in the nation where snow is common several months of the year, yea it would be common practice to remove ones shoes as a metter of habit. As well to bring your heels to the party after removing your boots. We also have rubber covers for mens dress shoes as well.
How about we go with the old adage. "When in Rome" for this one.
How about we go with the old adage. "When in Rome" for this one.
i too am used to removing my shoes when entering a home. but as more of my friends/ acquintances are telling me to leave it on... i do so. my thought process is this, if they themselves are wearing the dirt from outside back into their home... i sure am not going to remove my shoes so my socks can pick up what they brought home. (for example: the stuff from the stalls at CA..)
Hi again Hun.
You need not worry, I promise never sully your door with my presence. Actually I grew up in England and only the new-middle would ever consider asking one to remove ones stilettos. Willies yes, stilettos not so much
. Except perhaps in Rural Kent. They are odd there about things like that. I suspect that in North America it is far less than 10% who follow that custom.None the less, I did stress already that you have to honor the hosts customs and request, or just not go. Tatami mats piles of shoes at the door are a pretty good indicator what custom is the norm in a home. None the less it is equally important to understand it is just a custom, not some rule cast in stone.
Got it hun? Just a custom in some groups
I keep shoes off in my place, but if I throw a big party (more than ten) then shoes stay on and I consider hiring a steam cleaner to be part of the expense of throwing a party. Women wear heels, toes get stepped on, crumbs get dropped, and enforcing a rule like that in a big crowd of people is a lost cause anyway.
But ordinarily off. My wife and I often lie on the rug in front if the tv to play cards, board games, or whatever. It's important to me to feel it's clean.
But ordinarily off. My wife and I often lie on the rug in front if the tv to play cards, board games, or whatever. It's important to me to feel it's clean.
Your house, your rules. Before we left Canada the main hall and great room had a black polished stone floor. If people walked on it barefoot or in socks you could see foot prints. Our house rule was wear shoes, and if you are coming in from a swim wear flip flops. I am not fond of carpets.
Every person has a right to be the queen of her own home. Now days we are mostly deck shoes or barefoot
.I was rather disgusted the first time I saw how dirty the feet people had going into a temple. I spotted at least a few serious skin conditions on the bare feet. I guess god lets the local administration set the rules for his places.
I agree 100 % . Take your dam shoes off . If your going to someones house for the evening then bring slippers or something that you can wear . I see the ladies that I know doing this all the time . My house is clean as well . I have carpeting and do not want it getting covered with crap that someone has brought in from the outside .Does it bug anyone else lol? But when I enter some body's house first thing I gotta do is take off my shoes. I guess it is just the way I was brought up, but I am surprised at how often I'd get a weird look or a question "Why are you taking off your shoes?". It is just so unnatural to walk around the house in the same footwear that I use outside. And irritates me when people try to keep theirs on when I am hosting them at my place, even though I have no problem to tell them to take it off. Do your feet stink or something? Also keeping the hats on inside...but that's different topic.
Please show some manners and leave your footwear at the door, you're not living on a farm anymore
Sure hard wooden floors and ceramic tile can be cold in the winter months so bring something that you can wear inside .
I , like Simon don't give a crap what is considered Ok in other countries . If people can't respect my home and my rules then don't come in . Stay outside for all I care . I have never had anyone tell me it's OK to walk on their carpet with my street shoes . Not once .
As for fumbling around putting your shoes on when leaving , buy slip ons . Nice and easy to take off and on .
Maybe for some of you renters who don't care because that property is not yours so who cares what happens to the carpeting or hardwood floors . Go out and buy your own home , buy expensive carpeting or expensive hardwood floors and I will be very very happy to walk all over your floors with my street shoes . Free of charge.
Why not politely invite your guest to remove their shoes instead of assuming that? Everyone's customs are different Simon. I still find it different; (different, not strange not weird not rude not gross) that someone would remove their shoes walking in my place. Since we live in a multi ethnic country, city, world and unless you are inviting people whose descents are (whatever the folks who remove their shoes are) simply say "We don't usually wear shoes in the house" and I bet your guest would easily comply. Of course, all bets are off if said shoes are covered in snow or mud.
A very wise and mature behavior. Guests tend to respond if asked politely. And judging others customs as "strange or weird or wrong" is just uninformed
Actually I am uncomfortable with bare feet on carpet because several conditions are not transmitted through shoes or house shoes and are through bare feet. I recently discovered a novel approach to shoe dirt called a door mat. But I am probably being foolish
I hope you wear a hazmat suit when you go out in public, and feed only through a sterilized intravenous tube. Also, don't have sex without a full body condom. Even in a monogamous relationship you cannot be too careful, your partner may have walked barefoot through the locker room at the golf club without telling you!
To everyone that doesn't take off their shoes, what do you do in the winter? Your shoes/boots are dirty and wet and would ruin a person's floor. Making a mess is just being a poor guest and I would never again invite that person into my home. Very odd as I have many friends of varied background and not one of them is ok with wearing outdoor shoes in the house.
Novel idea . Door mats can and will get dirty after the first person has used it . Now with the second person using the door mat you have dirt on dirt .Actually I am uncomfortable with bare feet on carpet because several conditions are not transmitted through shoes or house shoes and are through bare feet. I recently discovered a novel approach to shoe dirt called a door mat. But I am probably being foolish
House shoes . An old novel approach . Been around for years or am I being foolish . :eyebrows:
Street shoes ... Self explanatory . Well maybe not for some . I'll give it a go . Used for walking on dirty streets . :frusty:
