Need Stripper Dating Advice

[palagi9]

Hi, I'm new to all this, so kind of need some help/advice. I know guys often ask about how to get a stripper's number, but I already got the number, and need advice on that.

So, I went to a Strip Club last night and went to the VIP with a Stripper, we concluded our business, and I went back to the main floor. Later on that night she comes back to me and says hi, has a bit of a chat, and asks me for my number (i didn't ask, nor was I trying to get it). I give it to her, and she immediately texts me so I have her number.

Then, later the same night, after the club is closed, she sends me a Text Message saying it was nice to meet me, to which I reply roughly with a thanks and a likewise... then she responds asking me if I want to meet up today or tomorrow.

The question is, should I respond or not? I know on a base level, this is a lot of guys' dreams, but I know the risks and stigma that can surround these situations outside the strip club (they could be crazy), and I know sometimes this is a way for them to expand their customer base, so I wanna know if you guys think the reward is worth the risk. My gut tells me she's fishing for money, but I made it pretty clear to her last night that I don't have tons of cash to throw around. It's just a bit weird to me that I didn't try at all, and she's being doing all the work.

 

[Rockslinger]

Question has been asked and answered many times. Many threads already, do a search. Bottom line: They usually end badly but you might be the rare exception.

 

[gudnite]

Go for it and see what happens. Never ever loose an opportunity especially if she's hot. If it starts to go south just leave...

 

[palagi9]

Question has been asked and answered many times. Many threads already, do a search. Bottom line: They usually end badly but you might be the rare exception.

Thanks, will do. I was just thrown off cuz most of what i read is guys trying to get the number, and she was pretty pro-active in this case and texted me an hour after i left the club.

 

[Rockslinger]

most of what i read is guys trying to get the number,

It's not difficult at all to get a dancer's phone number/email/Facebook contact. Don't be surprised if you get her voicemail greeting and the name on the greeting is different from her stage name.

 

[I'm not here]

You are getting played. That's her work number which she gives out to all the morons in the club who are smitten with her. She'll text you and let you know when and where she's working. After she has bled you and all the other suckers dry she'll get a new number and find new ones.

 

[legmann]

So, I went to a Strip Club last night and went to the VIP with a Stripper

The real test is how interested a girl is without you having already taken her to VIP.

You are getting played. That's her work number which she gives out to all the morons in the club who are smitten with her.

Likely.

 

[Butler1000]

If she meets you outside the club then maybe good. But if its always "come see me I'm working tonight" then see is doing it to drum up business. Period. That seems to be the concencus of the older and wiser members from previous threads. Don't buy the "I'd feel more comfortable at the club" line. If she is interested she would have no problem meeting you at a public place.

 

[Toronto`s Finest]

IF you do not open your wallet you have nothing to worry about & fast will find out the real deal. Sadly as I see more & more these young girls spend lots of their fast cash on some guy they are hot for ..... the rest of us they try to sucker & hustle!!!

 

[palagi9]

OK cool. This has been helpful and pretty much confirmed my suspicions. Thanks for helping me avoid a potential disaster!

 

[Rockslinger]

OK cool. This has been helpful and pretty much confirmed my suspicions. Thanks for helping me avoid a potential disaster!

The acid test is if she is willing to see you outside the club on her own dime.

 

[raspberries]

It always goes bad in the end, but it is really fun getting there. And if it is more than being a customer to her, can you live with her grinding and groping random guys?

 

[shack]

Thanks, will do. I was just thrown off cuz most of what i read is guys trying to get the number, and she was pretty pro-active in this case and texted me an hour after i left the club.

Call her, chat and during the conversation politely inquire as to the nature of the date, i.e. what she has in mind. Once you know if money is involved or not, you have your answer.

 

[fuji]

I refuse to accept stripper numbers and I tell them I won't accept adds on FB unless I can see mom on her friends list.

Every stripper has a stripper phone full of regular customers. It is good marketing, if she changes clubs she will let you know.

But she will also pretend to be so love struck with you that you absolutely HAVE to come to the club to see her.

As others say, the acid test is whether she will see you if you stop paying her.

 

[fuji]

The real test is how interested a girl is without you having already taken her to VIP.

Whenever a stripper starts in on the relationship/number/attraction games I tell her that she is a lot of fun as a dancer but I would be willing to give that up if she wants to go on a real date, as I don't buy dances from girls I am getting emotionally involved with.

They usually shut up at that point.

 

[bazokajoe]

Keep us informed on how this goes.I suspect its going to be a case of crash and burn.

 

[DELETDrileydaniels]

well it really depends if you meet up for lunch or something and keep it casual. and if things get to a point where she might hint or ask for money that is where you set the boundaries again. I have met one of my ex-boyfriends from working in the club and I guess what made things work for us at the start of our relationship was the fact he had clear boundaries out of relationship.

 

[Jessica S]

Spring is in the air, summer is around the corner. Perfect time for a fling, let loose and have some fun. It does not have to become something serious. Considering the fact you started this post you are wary that she could be looking to get more business (money) out of you. Therefore I am sure you will be able to sense if she is just looking for some summer loving or to build up her bank account. Good luck!

 

[LKD]

hope you've got a fat bank account, or are a runway model but that couldn't be the case because you wouldn't be surfing terb ;P

 

[Smash]

Hit it asap, were a condom and get out.