Cannot cum through sexual intercourse

Judge_Knoll

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Any other guys out there with this "problem"?

I have never cum through vaginal intercourse. It has always been by oral, tit job or by hand job.

While intercourse feels good it just is not as satisfying as the others.
 

LKD

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I can't cum through intercourse when I want to.. It happens when I don't want it to.
 

mas0

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I have the opposite problem. Only 3-4 times have I actually exploded from oral. Never from a tit job (this actually bores me) and hand job the poor woman must have a lot of patience. But I think it's more psychological than physical. I can get off in 15 seconds if I self stimulate. Another weird thing is... I can't orgasm and feel fulfilled if I didn't get my woman off first. All in my head though. It doesn't make me unhappy.
 

canuck99

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I have the same problem but not to your extent.
I can sometimes come when fucking but I have to pump really hard and deep for a long time.
Plus the pussy has to be fairly tight.
I have a thick cock and find that most condoms are very tight which doesn't help.
I've always had this problem and it's a problem because most women want to feel like they can make you cum when fucking.
Not as satisfying for them when I have to cum from a handjob which is my preference.
 

LKD

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bj, hj, tit job or fuck... its all about the technique... My sensitive areas are on the base of my penis, not the head. Any girl who gets their mouth or hand to the base really gets me going... and there are some who really know how to get a guy to cum quick by doing that and pressing that area between the ass and balls.
 

George The Curious

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the problem is likely psychological. I had same problem before, especially with a girl you've been for a long time. With a new girl, it's more exciting and I cum quicker, especially if I know she is in a relationship - the idea makes me even more excited. i know it's bad, but it's in all of us.
 

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It very likely to be psychological, it's been said to try to think about something else, something relaxing...And that never worked for me.. It's almost impossible, especially when I'm seeing and feeling a hottie :confused:.
 

lenny2

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I was looking into this the other day for some other guys:

When I was in my 30's and 40's I took pride in being able to last until my partner came a couple of times before I came. Now that I'm in my 60's unfortunately it can take an hour or more before I cum.
This sounds like a condition known as "delayed ejaculation". It can have various physical or psychological causes, usually the latter. It can be related to aging, alcohol or tobacco use, medicines, surgeries, stress, blockage of ducts, masurbation, various diseases, being overweight, allergies, etc.

"Delayed ejaculation is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man can achieve orgasm within 5 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse, [1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or cannot have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30–45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation

"Delayed ejaculation — sometimes called impaired ejaculation — is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis (ejaculate). Some men with delayed ejaculation are unable to ejaculate at all.

"Delayed ejaculation can be temporary or a lifelong problem. Possible causes of delayed ejaculation include certain chronic health conditions, surgeries and medications. Treatment for delayed ejaculation depends on the underlying cause.

"It's normal for men to have delayed ejaculation from time to time. Delayed ejaculation is only a problem if it's ongoing or causes stress for you or your partner.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/delayed-ejaculation/DS01174

after taking some vitamin V it is really difficult to finish. I haven't found anything that makes the prong more sensitive (after doing an online search I even tried some african tree sap butter...didn´t work) so I'm stuck in the same situation...

As per the above, I'd recommend seeing a competent doctor. Perhaps vitamin V is the problem & you should consider trying something else:

"There is yet no reliable medication for delayed ejaculation. PDE5 inhibitors such as Viagra have little effect. [10] In fact, Viagra has a delaying effect on ejaculation, possibly through additional effect in the brain or decrease of sensitivity in the head of the penis. [11] Case studies have reported some success with serotonin antagonists (amantadine) and dopaminergic agents (bupropion, buspirone) , though large, controlled studies are lacking, likely due to the rarity of the condition relative to other forms of male sexual dysfunction."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation

"If you have trouble maintaining an erection or reaching orgasm, ask your doctor about medications or other treatments for these problems.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/senior-sex/MC00057/NSECTIONGROUP=2

"the vast majority of men who suffer from delayed ejaculation problems get checked out physically and are told that there is nothing mechanically wrong with them."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1kP5miFRAc

"For some men, stopping or cutting down on the use of alcohol, tobacco, or illegal drugs may improve their ability to control ejaculation."

http://www.healthlinkbc.ca/kb/content/special/tv7761spec.html
 

Judge_Knoll

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Very interesting links there lenny2.

I guess it could be labeled as delayed ejaculation except I can cum any other way. It is just something about intercouse. Another poster mentioned relaxation which I think is a factor. I've never been fully comfortable with intercourse. I guess I just think vaginas are scary.
 

lenny2

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TeasePlease

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the problem is likely psychological. I had same problem before, especially with a girl you've been for a long time. With a new girl, it's more exciting and I cum quicker, especially if I know she is in a relationship - the idea makes me even more excited. i know it's bad, but it's in all of us.
+1. Maybe the OP needs the visual cues (BJ, HJ or TJ). I find it hard to cum by BJ.

I wonder if its a latent phobia about getting a girl preggo? LOL.
 

rhuarc29

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Any other guys out there with this "problem"?

I have never cum through vaginal intercourse. It has always been by oral, tit job or by hand job.

While intercourse feels good it just is not as satisfying as the others.
I'm far from never, but intercourse is the slowest way to get me off. Works out well with most women. Oral takes awhile, but a good HJ can do me in rather quickly. It also depends when my last romp was.

I wouldn't worry too much. Most women will appreciate your stamina, and you can still reach climax through other means.
 

Dev29

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I believe it is mental for me as well. I can only come via intercourse with my regular. Everyone else, only through oral. For any first visits with ladies, I never come at all. Only subsequent ones.
 

TheShadow

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I don't have any problem myself,but sometimes when I'm really loaded,it feels like I cum on the first thrust into my g/f.
A friend once told me to think about something else,and this should make me last so that she will have a chance to get off too!
One day we were smashed again and really horny.At the first opportunity we stripped naked,and I started pounding it to her.I remembered what my friend said,so I stopped thinking about the beautiful pussy I was plunging in and out of,and concentrated on something else.
I imagined I was fucking Jessica Alba.
Didn't work!
Lesson learned-Don't trust what friends tell you.
To this day they won't let us back in Loblaws!

TheShadow
 

legmann

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T.O.
I can only come via intercourse with my regular.
I wish I had a pattern. I've been able to finish with girls I've found repulsive (at least attitude-wise) and times when I've felt drop dead tired; yet, I can walk in prepared for a session with a genuine hottie and not finish at all...
 
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