I am sooo PISSED off right now....I'm going to SNAP !!!
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I'm pretty much on side with Plan B. I think your response should depend on whether you have another appointment or not. If you didn't, then why wouldn't you have him in, scold him gently, then take his money. So you lost 25 minutes of your life... is your time really that valuable.
On the other hand, if you had another appointment, and couldn't see him, then perhaps open the door a crack and say you're sorry, but you have another appointment and please call to reschedule. As Plan B said, in the business world, people are late for meetings all the time. And yes, he was inconsiderate not to call. But since you didn't speak with him, you don't know why he was late... traffic, a dead cell battery... 20 or 25 minutes isn't very long. It can take that long to find a parking spot in lots of places.
It's your right to call it however you wish, but the way I see it, you chose not to see a client, so you didn't make any money, and you probably pissed him off so he'll never call again. Had you seen him, you would have his money, and you'd have another happy customer who might repeat or recommend you.
So you tell us, which is the "winning" move?
As an aside, if something this minor gets you so pissed off, you're "going to snap", then I respectfully suggest you take up yoga or something. Clearly you need to learn the fine art of "chilling"...
On the other hand, if you had another appointment, and couldn't see him, then perhaps open the door a crack and say you're sorry, but you have another appointment and please call to reschedule. As Plan B said, in the business world, people are late for meetings all the time. And yes, he was inconsiderate not to call. But since you didn't speak with him, you don't know why he was late... traffic, a dead cell battery... 20 or 25 minutes isn't very long. It can take that long to find a parking spot in lots of places.
It's your right to call it however you wish, but the way I see it, you chose not to see a client, so you didn't make any money, and you probably pissed him off so he'll never call again. Had you seen him, you would have his money, and you'd have another happy customer who might repeat or recommend you.
So you tell us, which is the "winning" move?
As an aside, if something this minor gets you so pissed off, you're "going to snap", then I respectfully suggest you take up yoga or something. Clearly you need to learn the fine art of "chilling"...
I have been stood up by about 10 sp's within the last 2 years. I'd arrive at their place and call them and they wouldn't answer. I'd pay for 1hr parking all for nothing. That's why I'd I usually have a plan B sp to go to if the first one fails.
Back 2 years ago that chick Andrea (Danforth/ Dawes rd) stood me up 3 times in 1 month.
Back 2 years ago that chick Andrea (Danforth/ Dawes rd) stood me up 3 times in 1 month.
Unless she could swallow my dick while pocketing my balls in her mouth for $1.75, I would never have made the 3rd attempt.
I know what you mean. Some of those girl guide cookie sellers can be very persistent. I use pocket mace under the door to get rid of them.
There were at least 2 bad signs...him not answering or turning his phone off...and coming in and knocking on the door. And at 25 minutes late for a 30 minute appointment one would have to be a bit self absorbed to not realize you had probably lost his spot on the calendar. I would say this is a (potential) client that you don't want. Ever. It's your life and your safety....there are lots of great gentlemen out there who will treat you with respect and consideration.
Depends.... If it was those chocolate mint ones... I'd buy them anyway! I can't say no to them! :frusty:
Unless....
It was Ms. Jessica selling them! I can't say no to her and her cookie either! :eyebrows:
I've seen her about a dozen times prior to the stand up's with no problem. Great value at $40. hh bj. She was always nice with great oral skills thats why I kept seeing her at her apartment/incall.
Towards the end she seemed angry, maybe she hated her work or some of the clients that came by. Then at the end she would confirm our app then when I would arrive and call her from the lobby she wouldn't answer.
Like I said great value at 40 bones but kinda a head case chick
I agree that you did the right thing, but I have a hypothetical question. Let's say he didn't knock on your door but called you instead. If you didn't have another appointment, might you have seen him for his half-hour?
For myself, If I do not hear from the client 15min before the scheduled time I send a polite hint type text asking how close they are; if there is no reply, I try again at the scheduled time. If by then still no call,text,email I send an email and a text saying a small blurb indicating how I understand their time is of value, but mine needs to be respected as well and If I do not hear some sort of explanation I allow 15minutes after the scheduled time, then follow with an email stating the session has been cancelled.
Sometimes things happen, and often clients are quite apologetic when unable to make it -but quite often give advanced notice; truly it depends on your comfort and how much you value your time and what you're willing to deal with. As a note, location wise I only give the major intersection and closest parking, and insist they call me when at that location and from there give exact details; in my experience this has helped with having scenarios exactly like yours happen. If you're not careful you can have individuals show up hours later which can become a real problem if working in a hotel environment.
You may want to revise your screening process etc. but most importantly follow your instincts when dealing with any situation, if you're not okay with a situation,client etc. then you're not okay and anyone will respect that; if not then that's probably not the type of client you want anyway.
Food for thought the image you project may not always attract the type of client you'd like; something to factor in when marketing and advertising. This business has its ups and downs like any other, and requires a few extra layers of skin to stay strong and focused. Revise your business model if your current isn't achieving what you desire (in terms of clients etc.)
Hope this helps also, be sure to stay connected and check out The Blacklist and other sites for bad client experiences from other ladies.
Stay happy, Stay healthy, Stay safe!
Candice xo
PS. Regardess, if I was still at my location at that time I would have answered the door either way and not left someone knocking for any period of time- as soon as he did start knocking if you were not unavailable you should have answered period and a. have listened to the explination and either decided to reschedule or b.simply explain that due to their lack of respect you are no longer willing to see them.
Sometimes things happen, and often clients are quite apologetic when unable to make it -but quite often give advanced notice; truly it depends on your comfort and how much you value your time and what you're willing to deal with. As a note, location wise I only give the major intersection and closest parking, and insist they call me when at that location and from there give exact details; in my experience this has helped with having scenarios exactly like yours happen. If you're not careful you can have individuals show up hours later which can become a real problem if working in a hotel environment.
You may want to revise your screening process etc. but most importantly follow your instincts when dealing with any situation, if you're not okay with a situation,client etc. then you're not okay and anyone will respect that; if not then that's probably not the type of client you want anyway.
Food for thought the image you project may not always attract the type of client you'd like; something to factor in when marketing and advertising. This business has its ups and downs like any other, and requires a few extra layers of skin to stay strong and focused. Revise your business model if your current isn't achieving what you desire (in terms of clients etc.)
Hope this helps
also, be sure to stay connected and check out The Blacklist and other sites for bad client experiences from other ladies.Stay happy, Stay healthy, Stay safe!
Candice xo
PS. Regardess, if I was still at my location at that time I would have answered the door either way and not left someone knocking for any period of time- as soon as he did start knocking if you were not unavailable you should have answered period and a. have listened to the explination and either decided to reschedule or b.simply explain that due to their lack of respect you are no longer willing to see them.
Yes....most definately. I am very, very easy going and understand that things happen. All he had to do was give me a quick little call or text.
As for Plan B & Stoo.......obviously they don't get it at all. I wasn't pissed about my time or the money. It was the knocking on my door without my knowledge.
And Candice.......thanks for "your" insight but my marketing, booking process and clientelle is totally just fine, honey. LOL
Okay, cool.
Sweet Petite Jessica has one of the best asses in the industry. I can go to town on that.
What if buddies problem was that his phone ran out of batteries?
Then he would have to knock.
What if his directions were on the phone?
I have no idea if that's likely, but you just never know unless you talk to them.
That said, any SP who is even remotely worried for their safety should do what they need to to keep safe.
Then he would have to knock.
What if his directions were on the phone?
I have no idea if that's likely, but you just never know unless you talk to them.
That said, any SP who is even remotely worried for their safety should do what they need to to keep safe.
