I know that..but the options are not great and "going for coffee" seems to be the new cliche like "dinner and a movie"...seems lazy
Coffee for first date appropriate?
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Are you coming at this from the perspective that it may turn into a long-term relationship? If so, not at all necessary to go "a lot fancier" next time, unless you want the quality of your relationship to be based on how much you spend on her. Slippery slope... just go somewhere that you will both enjoy and have fun.
If you're looking for some quick short-term fun... then do whatever works.
If you go for coffee, make it a place they come to your table and serve you. Go for dessert as well.
It seems cheap to line up for something in a paper cup with a plastic lid.
It seems cheap to line up for something in a paper cup with a plastic lid.
Yes I am looking for a LTR I'm a little rusty when it comes to the dating scene these days I don't even know if the fancier restaurant would even impress her. I just want her to have a good time.
Personally.... This place is one of my fave "go to" places for first dates:
http://www.symposiumcafe.com/ontariocanadarestaurants.html
Coffee, glass of wine, maybe an appetizer.... and if things go well...
http://www.symposiumcafe.com/ontariocanadarestaurants.html
Coffee, glass of wine, maybe an appetizer.... and if things go well...
all depends on the type of girl she is. some are just dumb enough to allow you over to her place or will come over to your place for the first date
You did notice he doesn't drink wine?
there's nothing with coffee and light food. Not everyone expects surf and turf and the best Amaronne. The coffee date is a good neutral and allows for a quick bail out for either party, if the encounter is a train wreck.
Demetre's is a good choice with four of them in all corners throughout the city with a light menu. They can be loud in peak hours, but hey.
Try again. Many people find them a perfect first dates as you can call it off/bail, if it's just not working. It also shows to many people you like the simple things and it not just money, money, money.
reminds me of my first date with a reasonably hot EE chick...I brought her to a nice patisserie which happened to be adjacent to a very expensive restaurant. She tried really hard to convince me to go to that restaurant instead. I didn't even call or text her since.
http://www.symposiumcafe.com/ontario...staurants.html seem like a nice place little on the farther side but will consider it as a second date if things goes well.
Nothing wrong with a coffee date. Just make sure you can find a nice quiet booth/seat so there's no distractions from other customers.
I would also suggest bringing them to an community event. That gives you a nice walk to chat and if you run into trouble, you can use the event as a discussion topic.
I would also suggest bringing them to an community event. That gives you a nice walk to chat and if you run into trouble, you can use the event as a discussion topic.
No! Coffee date is one of the worst ideas out there! Here's why:
1. It's a boring / everyday location. People associate coffee more with work, not pleasure. Pick a more exciting venue, one that hits as many sense as possible: visual, aural, touch, taste, smell, etc. You have to excite her sense...which will excite her sexuality. Coffee shop ain't gonna do it.
2. Coffee makes people alert. That's bad. You want your date to relax and put her guard down...alcohol is much better.
There's a reason women get going at bars / clubs. All the elements are there: alcohol, lights, sounds, scents. Problem with those is that the quality of the women is suspect and the competition too stiff (literally in some cases).
A desserts place is more appropriate, dimly lit with audible music. One that also serves alcohol preferably. Or a nice bar / pub.
With coffee you've basically already committed date suicide.
1. It's a boring / everyday location. People associate coffee more with work, not pleasure. Pick a more exciting venue, one that hits as many sense as possible: visual, aural, touch, taste, smell, etc. You have to excite her sense...which will excite her sexuality. Coffee shop ain't gonna do it.
2. Coffee makes people alert. That's bad. You want your date to relax and put her guard down...alcohol is much better.
There's a reason women get going at bars / clubs. All the elements are there: alcohol, lights, sounds, scents. Problem with those is that the quality of the women is suspect and the competition too stiff (literally in some cases).
A desserts place is more appropriate, dimly lit with audible music. One that also serves alcohol preferably. Or a nice bar / pub.
With coffee you've basically already committed date suicide.
Oh Geez, yo are joking, right?
It's been a long time since I dated, but even in High School, I knew it was the right thing to do to buy a girl dinner.
Please, everybody's got to eat, it's really not that big a deal, is it?
It's boring? I guess you're not much of a foodie. Maybe what is boring is you. To coffee people, and there are a number of them, nothing is more pleasant that a good cuppa and if it's with someone interesting, even better. You have to excite someone 'sexually' on a first date? All those senses you listed are in full gear if you go to a place that roasts their own beans and bakes their own food. You say coffee ain't going to do it? Apparently a number of members on TERB disagree. Alcohol is going to do it? You did read where the OP said he wasn't into drinking alcohol? Something tells me you didn't read most the posts in this thread.
So your plan is to take her to a dark place, to hide the circles under your eyes, your drool, and your pale complexion, ply her with booze and stare at her tits while you talk dirty to her, hoping to end the night boffing her brains out. Date much?
