Who knows, could be anything...Jessica, I still believe a child should grow up in a loving marriage...it's the only commitment and obligation that a man and woman ought to promise each other. People seem to expect this notion that the partner they seek in marriage is supposed to be the perfect companion, but the reality is that the kids suffer when they see their parents fight or get divorced (even if you don't see it). A man and a woman will never be perfect for each other, but they may be perfect for their kids as long as they can deal with their differences and tolerate things that get on each other's nerves....that's where great chemistry and frequent sex work wonders!
Well that can be true if he was abusive to the child, but a man who cares about his wife cannot be abusive to his children (no matter how much she gets on his nerves), other than the occasional slap to the bum or hand. I'm not trying to be judgmental or pry into your personal life, but speaking in general terms, young girls typically fall for the wrong guy based on the "butterfly feeling" and then grab him by the balls to force a commitment. Trust me, I've dated a girl who told me this exact story, lost her virginity to the guy in high school, but broke off an engagement after a 5 year relationship. In retrospect, it was not the right guy for her, so what I told her was that the right guy will move mountains to find her and will be crazy about her (but not psychotic lol)....enough to care about marrying her for the right reasons.....unfortunately, I then admitted that I wasn't that guy either (but we had civvy sex anyway).
Really? I'm not Brad Pitt but my experience has been that they take about as well as Glenn Close.
Have you ever seen a picture of her without her makeup? Even Sofia Vergara doesn't look like Sofia Vergara.
let's be real here for a moment. If you won $50 mil jackpot you wouldn't be on this board long enough to make 1000+ posts because you would have been busy fucking civilian women throwing themselves at you. You are just as much a victim of vagina power as we all here are.
I agree, but would go further.
smart and good-looking, huh?thanks for starting this interesting thread wetnose
have to ask why gender really matters here?
i know many men we could say the same thing about. late 30s, early 40s, who also say they are "holding out" or whatever.
am sure most of us could have partnered with that proverbial mate and had offspring with. maybe some people are looking for a connection that resonates more deeply. maybe some have not had a deeper sense of what that means til they are more mature.
kkelso - not sexist at all! your assertion is very supported by research etc etc. women are more susceptible to media and it seems there is a cause and effect thing here.
regardless, is it gender or the seeking of a deeper connection?
just sayin!.........
Women rarely initiate, so they tend to face rejection much more rarely then men. But when they do they tend to be more psycho. Rejection is never a fun thing for either sex though. But the fact is, women in Canada, on the whole, tend to feel pretty entitled to a man that will make them happy and meets their "dream guy" image. So when they end up in middle age, with their fertility gone and their dream of motherhood over, it's hard to feel a great deal of pity for them. Women have also fought in the courts to impose ever greater obligations on fathers. As such, fatherhood is a SHITTY DEAL. Of course everything is fine if the family stays together, but that is less then a 50/50 possibility. And when it does not work out it is often hellish and financially disastrous. Since the desire to procreate is less in men, more and more men simply are not wanting to be fathers. Why risk misery for the sake of hardship sprinkled with a few happy moments?
I'm involved in a business mentoring group, the constituents are mostly 25-30 year old guys. I am astounded by the level of awareness they have surrounding the current state of family law, repercussions, options, etc. (All I can remember from 26 was thinking how marriage meant free and easy sex).
Yes, the word is out. An analogy is union jobs. It was great for workers for a while, but eventually factory owners figured out what a raw deal they were getting and started to do whatever it takes to avoid opening a factory here.
I think both sexes are guilty of the "holding-out" syndrome, but it appears quite a few women are unprepared/unaware for the steep drop in fertility. And there is no way to turn back the clock.thanks for starting this interesting thread wetnose
have to ask why gender really matters here?
i know many men we could say the same thing about. late 30s, early 40s, who also say they are "holding out" or whatever.
just sayin!.........
