Wives or S.O.s - - How Long Does it Take for Sex to Fizzle?

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There are a lot of things that can cause married sex life to fizzle: kids, fatigue from work or other activities, familiarity, boredom, I'm-not-in-the-mood or she's-not-in-the mood, stress, spending too much time together, smoldering, unresolved issues, money worries, going to bed a different times etc....

In my case my wife began to prefer to sleep alone because I snore/move around during my sleep which really annoyed/annoys her. Also, we both realized that a Queen-sized bed isn't particularly big for two people unless both people sleep motionless for 7-8 hours. So I'm now in a sexless marriage (what Dr Phil termed "an epidemic" so I guess I'm not alone) and I sleep in the quest bedroom.

I'm pretty sure I'm not alone here (God I hope not)

I am most interested in the comments or experiences of others. Thanks,

Drooler
 
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drooler said:
There are a lot of things that can cause married sex life to fizzle: kids, fatigue from work or other activities, familiarity, boredom, I'm-not-in-the-mood or she's-not-in-the mood, stress, spending too much time together, smoldering, unresolved issues, money worries, going to bed a different times etc....

In my case my wife began to prefer to sleep alone because I snore/move around during my sleep which really annoyed/annoys her. Also, we both realized that a Queen-sized bed isn't particularly big for two people unless both people sleep motionless for 7-8 hours. So I'm now in a sexless marriage (what Dr Phil termed "an epidemic" so I guess I'm not alone) and I sleep in the quest bedroom.

I'm pretty sure I'm not alone here (God I hope not)

I am most interested in the comments or experiences of others. Thanks,

Drooler
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First suggestion, get to a sleep clinic and get tested for sleep apnea or other sleep disorders.
 
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I can see sleeping in separate beds cuz of the snoring etc. but there's no reason not to have sex together and then go sleep in your own beds. Sounds like a good excuse for her to avoid sex althogether.
 
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drooler said:
There are a lot of things that can cause married sex life to fizzle: kids, fatigue from work or other activities, familiarity, boredom, I'm-not-in-the-mood or she's-not-in-the mood, stress, spending too much time together, smoldering, unresolved issues, money worries, going to bed a different times etc....

In my case my wife began to prefer to sleep alone because I snore/move around during my sleep which really annoyed/annoys her. Also, we both realized that a Queen-sized bed isn't particularly big for two people unless both people sleep motionless for 7-8 hours. So I'm now in a sexless marriage (what Dr Phil termed "an epidemic" so I guess I'm not alone) and I sleep in the quest bedroom.

I'm pretty sure I'm not alone here (God I hope not)

I am most interested in the comments or experiences of others. Thanks,

Drooler
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great, so you get a whole bed to yourself. whats stopping you from sneaking into her bedroom and fucking the shit out of her? kinky no? theres obviously more than your snoring going on
 
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ill tell you how to get your wife to chase after you. start going to work dressing sharp, always wearing cologne etc if you don;t do that already. itll get her thinking there may be a new woman in your life, itll draw her more closer to you and make her want you
 
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msog87 said:
ill tell you how to get your wife to chase after you. start going to work dressing sharp, always wearing cologne etc if you don;t do that already. itll get her thinking there may be a new woman in your life, itll draw her more closer to you and make her want you
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It's always best to play on the insecurities of others ;) (not)

Have you tried telling her how you feel and that you are still interested in her sexually? I would try doing things to make her feel desired.
 
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Have you tried telling her how you feel and that you are still interested in her sexually? I would try doing things to make her feel desired.
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If she doesn't drive you crazy when she's near you and you can't show her your desire with a massive hard-on (even when you are absolutely annoyed and stressed by her), then the problem is you. Sorry to sound harsh, but you need to fuck first and then talk about the issues like a real man.
 
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Thanks for the suggestions everyone, I will take them to heart.

The funny thing is that even though we aren't sleeping together, we have an "uneasy truce" that is actually okay with the situation for the time being. And otherwise it hasn't affected the rest of our relationship -- we function OK as man and wife in our other activities.

I would be interested in the thoughts of others though about the "fizzling" of sex in a married relationship. Picking up on the things I identified in my first paragraph, is this the experience that others have had??
 
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Went thru the same thing for about a year........sleeping in guest bedroom. Finally i called it quits. sexless relationships, whats the point of staying together? One time just to piss her off i jerked off on her face when she was deep asleep only to have her face stuck to the pillow in the morning.
 
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THANK YOU!!!! Your wife is exactly the kind of woman who is open to a fling with slimers like me. NSA sex, just for telling her she's gorgeous and that her husband is a fool for not appreciating her.

I joke, but your wife fits the bill of a woman with other options to help her satisfy her libido. I'd like to say that if she's a good looking woman then "if you're not fucking her, someone else is", but the reality is that even if she's ugly, there is some dude willing to fuck her. You're being played for a fool, I'm afraid. Take control of your marriage, or get a lawyer, or be content with your role as the bill payer while other men keep her happy.
 
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TROOPS<------ said:
Went thru the same thing for about a year........sleeping in guest bedroom. Finally i called it quits. sexless relationships, whats the point of staying together? One time just to piss her off i jerked off on her face when she was deep asleep only to have her face stuck to the pillow in the morning.
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Quite true - if the marriage is sexless, then all you have is a roommate. Unfortunately...it gonna co$t a lot to get rid of her. The perils of marriage - I wonder what's in it for men?
 
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drooler said:
Thanks for the suggestions everyone, I will take them to heart.

The funny thing is that even though we aren't sleeping together, we have an "uneasy truce" that is actually okay with the situation for the time being. And otherwise it hasn't affected the rest of our relationship -- we function OK as man and wife in our other activities.

I would be interested in the thoughts of others though about the "fizzling" of sex in a married relationship. Picking up on the things I identified in my first paragraph, is this the experience that others have had??
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well don't you talk about it? I would think her not wanting sex would be the elephant in the room. why not just one day start with her in the kitchen, put her up on the kitchen table and start eating he rpussy after morning breakfast and see what happens.
 
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wetnose said:
Quite true - if the marriage is sexless, then all you have is a roommate. Unfortunately...it gonna co$t a lot to get rid of her. The perils of marriage - I wonder what's in it for men?
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Yes it cost alot............but worth every penny for my freedom once again.
 
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I my experience, if the relationship is almost purely sexual, less then a year....
 
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