How addictive is this hobby for you? Is it getting worse?

[Herbie]

I realized that my frequency of seeing MP/SPs increased significantly.
I don't know if it's the spring/summer time and all of the juices flowing again or something else, but I came to the point that I have to see an SP almost every week. And if I don't, I become very anxious. I totally feel like a drug addict, seriously.

Curious if anybody else dealt with a similar issue, and how long the "addiction" lasted.
Are we hooked for good, at least until we run out of money, or it's just a phase.
What's your experience?

Cheers,
H.

 

[too2shy]

I realized that my frequency of seeing MP/SPs increased significantly.
I don't know if it's the spring/summer time and all of the juices flowing again or something else, but I came to the point that I have to see an SP almost every week. And if I don't, I become very anxious. I totally feel like a drug addict, seriously.

Curious if anybody else dealt with a similar issue, and how long the "addiction" lasted.
Are we hooked for good, at least until we run out of money, or it's just a phase.
What's your experience?

Cheers,
H.

You're quite on point about it being an addiction. Sex is, and can be a real addiction. Similar to alcohol, porn, drugs, etc. The key difference is that sex naturally occurs in our lives, which makes an addiction more difficult to treat, as you can't generally quit it for life. If I recall you just recently returned to hobbying. As did I, now from my recollection, (it's been almost six-seven years) I didn't see sps/mps as often as I am now. I'm seeing them once or twice a week. Which is fucked, from a monetary perspective most especially.

So I'm with you, I'm not sure if this is just a phase as I'm just returning to the hobby. Or if I'm fucked and right addicted lol.

If you want to piss yourself off, think of the opportunity cost of your hobbying. If you spend 250/session, and have 4 sessions a month. You've spent 1k. Would you rather have had a new 50" TV on your wall for that 1k? Or a new suit, or watch, maybe a trip to cuba. Those items are your opportunity costs.

You may be better off setting out a budget, how much you are willing to spend on hobbying. Now if you've got a large amount of disposable income.. well. This makes for many women, and leaves you back at square one lol. To poon or not to poon.

I personally hope it's a fucking phase.

 

[too2shy]

LOL.. I think what's worse for me is that I can't remember fuck all. I mean barely do I have recollections of the girl I fucked last week. Sure I'd probably recognize her on the street.. but the overall experience.. poof.. stupid memory..

 

[TRman]

I find it has its ups and downs. Generally speaking I don't remember who I saw or not. I often find it sad when talking to an SP or MA. So many had a lot of problems growing up. If you want to stop for a while, go to Columbia, Thailand or the like. There are oh so many and they all want to seriously please. I have stayed away from local agencies for some time. Too many try to upsell (well thats was not included.....).

 

[mido]

sometimes i think i wont be able to STOP !!!!! which is really not a good thing for someone in my age

 

[OnTheWayOut]

I'll be stopping soon, no problem. We all die sometime and I'm getting pretty old LOL

 

[monkot]

i'm still at the denial stage

 

[arejayell]

Yup, still in denial as well. I think I can stop any time I want to, just maybe not quite yet.
I have learned to control other impules like alcohol, binge eating. It would help if I stopped going on line.

 

[Gntlmn]

I'm not at the denial stage ... or maybe I am???

 

[thumper18474]

Interesting..
When I started hobbying..I was balls to the wall(sorry)...2-3 times a week for the first 3-4 months...trying everything on the buffet...milf..spinner, bbw, asian , ebony, latina..some 2-3 times just to make sure what it was i was looking for...then i settled on what it was i wanted ..on a regular basis, then I slowed down to twice a month but increased the duration of the visits, now I'm on a forced hiatus for medical reasons and there is no hobbying at all. atleast til the fall( feel sorry for the first lady that does a BBBJ CIM/COF with me.the load will be EPIC..LOL)
Dont feel the urge, yet, but i keep up to date with this board and the others just to see if new talent has arrived or if any ladies have left or service has gone south!

Addicting..hell yeah...how could ladies like sweetheather or jessica rabbit...or Bianca bailey..NOT be addicting!!!
I guess moderation is the key or maybe not who knows ..we love 'em and keep seeing them..

be safe boys
ladies love ya!!

 

[Ellington]

The only thing that's saving me is that I've become super-selective as time has worn on. I prefer young slender ebonies, a rare commodity. But i will do young slender caucasians in a pinch....and I try not to feel pinched. I've never had Asian addiction....which has no doubt saved me a fortune.

Perhaps a way to ease off rather than go cold turkey is to have a rule that says you only do women who match whatever your ideal is.

 

[monkot]

Don't kid yourself CH, they only do it for the money and only exceptionally will you find one that genuinely wants to spend time with you. Well, at least, over all the other guys she sees and only for the money. Sorry but that's reality.

 

[monkot]

Fair enough CH. I try to treat them as I would like to be treated...with respect and kindness. And you are right, screening usually helps to weed out the "bad/evil situations" as you mentioned.

 

[freestuff]

You should stop if you're fucking SPs and don't even remember/enjoy your time with them.

 

[monkot]

You should stop if you're fucking SPs and don't even remember/enjoy your time with them.

Yep, but I enjoy eating too and sometimes don`t remember what I had for lunch.

 

[too2shy]

Yep, but I enjoy eating too and sometimes don`t remember what I had for lunch.

+1.. exactly. It's instant gratification.

But the cost of the addiction per say, is your time, and money. If you're not doing something that you should be doing, or find that you're constantly on the hunt.. pretty key signs of addiction.

 

[thumper18474]

interesting....I wonder if the ladies would jump in here and give us some reasons for doing what they do?
I would hazard a guess as to think that 95+% would say ,..because of ..out of need......School, broken marriage abusive relationship and she is looking to start a new but she is good at only this ( besides which , it CAN be very lucrative)....I'm sure there are a million reasons why they do it.....but howmany will say..""cus I love to FUCK""

Interesting

 

[monkot]

interesting....I wonder if the ladies would jump in here and give us some reasons for doing what they do?
I would hazard a guess as to think that 95+% would say ,..because of ..out of need......School, broken marriage abusive relationship and she is looking to start a new but she is good at only this ( besides which , it CAN be very lucrative)....I'm sure there are a million reasons why they do it.....but howmany will say..""cus I love to FUCK""

Interesting

I'm not sure you're gonna get a whole lot of honest input. It is all about the illusion of being a sex goddess/nymph that keeps you coming back lol.

 

[thumper18474]

LOL...true!!!

I have talked to a few ...about why...and they were pretty honest about it....although i have yet to hear one say ...cus I love it!!

 

[Catherine St.Claire]

This topic probably needs its own thread but...

When I entered the industry it was out of need. I had a mortgage at 18 and my life plan went left when my dad sold the family business and left me without an income and no backup plan. Over the years I have had other careers but none adequately provided for my financial responsibilities completely so this was always a fall back. I came back full time in my early 30's and that is when the sexual connections started to happen and I was a bit shocked to begin with. When I started to find clients that could ring my bell consistently my entire life outlook changed. I've always been service oriented so that didn't change but my job satisfaction sky rocketed. Since then it seems my body and libido have continued to mature. It is very seldom that I don't enjoy the sexual aspects of an appointment and if I don't enjoy someone, they don't get invited back.

I'm still financially motivated to entertain but if I weren't, I would still keep a client base of my favorites as I don't do well sexually without consistent variety. I don't have a problem being monogamous, I just find that my partners can't keep up as time goes on; it's a huge responsibility for one man to carry. As the frequency of sex decreases, my ass widens. With a widening ass, my libido decreases and then one day I wake up fat, miserable, sexually frustrated with a increasingly bad attitude. I need at least one deep vaginal orgasm a day to prevent the onset of extreme bitchiness. In a way, I guess it could be considered an addiction for me but I've never considered it in that way. I've always looked at great sex simply as very effective personal stress management. I guess I can say "cus I love to FUCK!"...

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