Unfortunately, my father passed away today. This is the first time I have to plan a funeral. My father had said the already bought the coffin and services from the funeral home as in transportation. Where to you buy the head stone? How does one chose the burial site? thanks
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Any good Funeral Home will be able to give you all the information you need. You don't need to rush yourself, wait till the shock wears off and you can give it some thought.
I am very sorry for your loss. HUG
I am very sorry for your loss. HUG
I am sorry for your loss. Funeral Homes usually help with the head stone, but this website might also be helpful http://basicfunerals.ca/
My very, very sincere condolences.
Truly.
I've put both my parents to rest much too early.
I hope this assists you. They were very dignified and helpful:
http://www.wardfuneralhome.com/
Please keep this in mind:
Truly.
I've put both my parents to rest much too early.
I hope this assists you. They were very dignified and helpful:
http://www.wardfuneralhome.com/
Please keep this in mind:
[SIZE=+2]
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die. [/SIZE]
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die. [/SIZE]
Thank you all, its funny how theres more caring from people on an online forum. We were all there at his bedside and watched him take his final breath. Ever body cried except my oldest brother. Still hasn't dropped one tear and pretends my father never existed.
Sorry to hear about your loss pokergod.
This is something that I dread having to go through but it is the reality of life that we must eventually face, if we are lucky.
If your dad did not make his burial wishes known, the first thing I would consider is putting him to rest with his parents.
If that is not possible, maybe with some other relatives or start a family plot.
This is something that I dread having to go through but it is the reality of life that we must eventually face, if we are lucky.
If your dad did not make his burial wishes known, the first thing I would consider is putting him to rest with his parents.
If that is not possible, maybe with some other relatives or start a family plot.
I have zero experience when it comes to funeral arrangements but still want to give you my condolences and make a comment about your brother's reaction to this loss. Although I do not know him and what his relationship with your dad was, I do know we all have different ways to show our feelings, maybe he is in denial? Do not overthink it, in the end the way others feel about it will not change anything.
Unfortunately, my brother doesn't grieve. My father had been very sick for the past year battling this disease and everything my brother did was try to piss him off. He did nothing to help my father try and beat the disease or even try to allow him to enjoy whatever time he had left in his life. I had to be always be there when he was with my father because he would just piss him off with his comments and actions.
With my fathers eyes rolled back to his head, non responsive and on his way to death, my brother decided to stick his waving hand in front of his face and repeatedly said "hello" in a childish voice.
With my fathers eyes rolled back to his head, non responsive and on his way to death, my brother decided to stick his waving hand in front of his face and repeatedly said "hello" in a childish voice.
Good advice - choose the cemetary first. If your mother is still alive ask if they want to be together so you can buy two lots side by side. Headstones take time.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Everyone feels their pain differently. I am sorry for yours. It's a tough time to be practical, but most people you deal with will be sincerely helpful and kind. Just keep an eye open for the few who chose their line of work because their customers are vulnerable. The folks at the funeral home should have all the knowledge you need but not necessarily at your price points. Don't let them, or anyone else, rush you into anything that's wrong for you or your Dad.
Just on the headstones/graves thing: That's what the Yellow Pages are for, online or on paper. Look under 'cemeteries, monuments'. Cemeteries (another source of referrals and vice-versa) don't want monuments too soon, because the ground has to settle, and the ones I've dealt with don't actually care whether there ever is a stone. You can take your time, and do it right. If there was a family plot your Dad was counting on but didn't pre-arrange, the cemetery folks will want the paperwork that proves you're now the owner. Again, the funeral home knows, but you may need a copy of the will, and you will be amazed how many people want copies of the death certificate.
Don't let it get you down; it's all just stuff. And other people do that. This is a time for the loved ones that you still have here. Be good to each other.
Wandering a bit off topic........
http://www.lifegem.com/
Would this be an option to keep someone close to you after they passed over?
http://www.lifegem.com/
Would this be an option to keep someone close to you after they passed over?
I've buried both my parents way before their time. It's a humbling experience.
With respect to the headstone, you have time. They can't install it for several months after the grave is closed I was told. There is a headstone place on Weston Road around Gunns Road I have seen on the east side of Weston Road.
With respect to your father's death, the one piece of advice that I will give you is to watch out for greedy relatives. In my case, they came out of the woodwork looking for freebies. Seriously. Had 2 of them come up to me before my mom was even in the ground asking if they could have this or that. Fortunately, my dad was there at the time and he shut that shit down. When he passed away, 1 of the 2 and 1 new relative were looking for estate goodies. (You can't make this shit up.) Do not make any decisions about this sort of thing in the midst of the funeral. You have time to regain your wits because in my case, my wits had deserted me.
With respect to the headstone, you have time. They can't install it for several months after the grave is closed I was told. There is a headstone place on Weston Road around Gunns Road I have seen on the east side of Weston Road.
With respect to your father's death, the one piece of advice that I will give you is to watch out for greedy relatives. In my case, they came out of the woodwork looking for freebies. Seriously. Had 2 of them come up to me before my mom was even in the ground asking if they could have this or that. Fortunately, my dad was there at the time and he shut that shit down. When he passed away, 1 of the 2 and 1 new relative were looking for estate goodies. (You can't make this shit up.) Do not make any decisions about this sort of thing in the midst of the funeral. You have time to regain your wits because in my case, my wits had deserted me.
I am in the middle of trying to create my will. Our lawyer advised me to create a list of things I want individuals to have and attach it to the will. If it is part of the will it gets complicated, but as an attached page I can update it often. I do not have much, but some things are special. I want to be cremated, and am thinking of having part of me turned into a jem stone for my husband. I guess I need to ask him about it. I do not want it to be uncomfortable for him, but I love the idea of giving myself to him.
I think having wills and living wills are important for those you love.
