MrsCALoki's weight in gold

[buttercup]

Why is there so much hostility (or sour grapes) from terbites to MrsCALoki, and her story of her (older) hubby giving her the gift of her weight in gold? That strikes me (potentially anyway) as a beautiful gesture.

He wants to show her that he doesn't own her - to show her that he doesn't want to own her.

He wants her to know that he loves her for the woman she is, and not for the woman he wants her to be.
He wnats to show that his love for her does not come with strings attached.

No doubt he can perfectly well imagine that an older guy, with gorgeous young woman, might want to try to bind her to him - e.g with some money thing. He wants to show her that he does not want their relationship to be based on binding ties. He wants her to know she is perfectly free to be what she wants to be (as good-looking women are anyway, no matter how much terbites don't like it.)

Some of our terb heroes seem to have their own set of standards for a relationship, which their partners and wives must measure up to, or they're out. "She's my possession" about sums up their idea of love.

And some girls would have thrown the guy's gesture in his face -- either refused the money on the basis that her moral judgement on gift-giving is superior to his own, or accepted it and caught the next train. I can't see that MrsC is at fault in any way for accepting the gift - joyfully, as it was intended.

If their romance doesn't last for ever, well these things happen - but seeking a long term guarantee that someone will always love you is the ultimate mug's game. You certainly cannot guarantee it with money. The guy's showing that he knows that.

Again, the way I see it is that the guy wants his wife to know that he wants her for the woman she is, and this is his way of saying that in a convincing way.

I don't think a man can pay his lover a greater compliment, than to let her know that she is what he wants, no matter what her faults and foibles. I don't think a woman can pay her lover a greater compliment than to recognize the true reason for such a gift, and to accept it graciously.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

She should check if they are really spray painted lead bars. :eyebrows:

 

[EntertainmentMan2000]

I'm sure he also had it engraved too. Did it come with its own security guard?

 

[Working Girl]

There is a sanctamonious holier than thou attitude possessed by her that reeks of self loathing. She makes it clear that she thinks she is better than the majority of our community. And I am tired of hearing her views that seem geared towards simply educating the masses to why SPs lie to garner more business. I wish her well. I wish she would take up knitting, badminton or perhaps chess so she would have less time to devote to her flame wars. But it is what it is.

WG

 

[Partyman1970]

The story has holes in it. Her actions + much time spent on here & all the responces add up to FAKE! As one or two other people mentioned..... may not even be a woman.

 

[papasmerf]

she is like a slot machine
as long as you keep putting coins in her slot she keeps playing.

If you want her (him) to go away stop feeding coins.

 

[mrsCALoki]

Why is there so much hostility (or sour grapes) from terbites to MrsCALoki, and her story of her (older) hubby giving her the gift of her weight in gold? That strikes me (potentially anyway) as a beautiful gesture.

He wants to show her that he doesn't own her - to show her that he doesn't want to own her.

He wants her to know that he loves her for the woman she is, and not for the woman he wants her to be.
He wnats to show that his love for her does not come with strings attached.

No doubt he can perfectly well imagine that an older guy, with gorgeous young woman, might want to try to bind her to him - e.g with some money thing. He wants to show her that he does not want their relationship to be based on binding ties. He wants her to know she is perfectly free to be what she wants to be (as good-looking women are anyway, no matter how much terbites don't like it.)

Some of our terb heroes seem to have their own set of standards for a relationship, which their partners and wives must measure up to, or they're out. "She's my possession" about sums up their idea of love.

And some girls would have thrown the guy's gesture in his face -- either refused the money on the basis that her moral judgement on gift-giving is superior to his own, or accepted it and caught the next train. I can't see that MrsC is at fault in any way for accepting the gift - joyfully, as it was intended.

If their romance doesn't last for ever, well these things happen - but seeking a long term guarantee that someone will always love you is the ultimate mug's game. You certainly cannot guarantee it with money. The guy's showing that he knows that.

Again, the way I see it is that the guy wants his wife to know that he wants her for the woman she is, and this is his way of saying that in a convincing way.

I don't think a man can pay his lover a greater compliment, than to let her know that she is what he wants, no matter what her faults and foibles. I don't think a woman can pay her lover a greater compliment than to recognize the true reason for such a gift, and to accept it graciously.

I did and do think it was wonderful. I guess I did get gushy over it. I discover every day that we can share things more and more. I even think it is romantic sitting here in the car and reading the posts to him. Even lying on the couch with my feet in his lap, my playing on the lap top, and him reading things on his tablet is a shared experience. I resented him doing his research in the office or even in his big chair, but the sofa experience makes it wonderful.

Romance is not dead, there are great guys out there. I cannot imaging he is the only one.

 

[mrsCALoki]

I'm sure he also had it engraved too. Did it come with its own security guard?

No hun,

The bars were stamped with all kinds of information though. I think pretty much anyone with bullion store it in a bank vault. In our case, he opened his safety deposit boxes, pulled out the inner box, put it on a table, and let me play with one of the bars, then slipped it into my (oh no if I finish typing this I will get teased). We moved a few other items around, and went to the lawyers to do some paper pare work for capital gains. Sort of a motorized bill of sale indicating the market value of gold that day.

No kissing the gold, no sitting me on it. No fancy scales. No carving initials into the bars. Just a man showing he loves his wife.

 

[mrsCALoki]

The story has holes in it. Her actions + much time spent on here & all the responces add up to FAKE! As one or two other people mentioned..... may not even be a woman.

As I pointed out before, given your desire to make your point by providing made up and highly suspect 'facts' and that I called you out on those made up facts and your apparently neurotic fixation on height, I can understand you not liking me, and making silly comments.

I can spend as much time here as I want I am retired. It is not time stolen from my husband, it is a shared time while he does his thing.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

There is a sanctamonious holier than thou attitude possessed by her that reeks of self loathing. She makes it clear that she thinks she is better than the majority of our community. And I am tired of hearing her views that seem geared towards simply educating the masses to why SPs lie to garner more business. i wish her well. I wish she would take up knitting, badminton or perhaps chess so she would have less time to devote to her flame wars. But it is what it is.

WG

I like you!

 

[mrsCALoki]

There is a sanctamonious holier than thou attitude possessed by her that reeks of self loathing. She makes it clear that she thinks she is better than the majority of our community. And I am tired of hearing her views that seem geared towards simply educating the masses to why SPs lie to garner more business. i wish her well. I wish she would take up knitting, badminton or perhaps chess so she would have less time to devote to her flame wars. But it is what it is.

WG

WG,

My husband loves three things above all other: me, making money, and pizza. I hope in that order. I have been trying to get him to adopt a healthier life style and reduce his pizza eating. He has so I think I am more loved than pizza.

He keeps telling me that the only way to make money is to have invested in something before people see it as a good investment. He spends a lot of time reading and surfing the net on his tablet. It is part of the man. I knew it before I married him. I know I will never change that. We are both retired, I am not into cooking, I like being close to him. Playing on my PC is the modern equivalent of knitting.

I have, like a lot of women, demons that haunt me. Some from my Father, some from my youth, some from my more recent past. The first time I flew up to Toronto to be an SP I had my bookings all lined up. I did not know if they were going to be married men, rapists, or whatever. I needed money so I was going to do what I had to do.

Now that I am married, I am horrified that married clients are doing. I can only imagine the pain I would feel if I discovered my husband was cheating on. Maybe I am being preachy. Maybe my words are unpopular, but I think facing up to reality might be a good thing for most men here.

I learn at school that if someone tries to bully you and shut you up you need to stick your face in hers. I think I am doling the equivalent here. Bullying here is different, but seems to be based on the same things and behaviours. I will not be silenced by filling a thread with cooking tips.

 

[EntertainmentMan2000]

ok then, show up to the next event whether it is held by TERB, Muse or whatever just to even prove that you're a she. Prove all of us doubters wrong.

 

[fuji]

It is unnatural for men not to cheat. Women too, really. If you want to talk about "facing up to reality" try that on. The versions of the world in which it isn't true are fake versions promoted by some imaginary religion or philosophy or other conception that differs from the world we actually live in.

 

[whobee]

Putting aside whether or not the story is true I don't think anyone has a problem with the golden gesture or the differing ages of the participants. I think the question some have is whether the recipient is actually worth it. You could say they aren't the one's paying why should they care but since the value of so many things has been debated here it's hardly surprising.

 

[mrsCALoki]

ok then, show up to the next event whether it is held by TERB, Muse or whatever just to even prove that you're a she. Prove all of us doubters wrong.

I might if I am in Toronto and know about it. But I certainly will not fly back there for it, nor will I do it if hubby continues to not want my face exposed again.

Frankly Sir, I would not cross the street to prove anything to you. Find a nice girl, get a life.

 

[Working Girl]

WG,

My husband loves three things above all other: me, making money, and pizza. I hope in that order. I have been trying to get him to adopt a healthier life style and reduce his pizza eating. He has so I think I am more loved than pizza.

He keeps telling me that the only way to make money is to have invested in something before people see it as a good investment. He spends a lot of time reading and surfing the net on his tablet. It is part of the man. I knew it before I married him. I know I will never change that. We are both retired, I am not into cooking, I like being close to him. Playing on my PC is the modern equivalent of knitting.

I have, like a lot of women, demons that haunt me. Some from my Father, some from my youth, some from my more recent past. The first time I flew up to Toronto to be an SP I had my bookings all lined up. I did not know if they were going to be married men, rapists, or whatever. I needed money so I was going to do what I had to do.

Now that I am married, I am horrified that married clients are doing. I can only imagine the pain I would feel if I discovered my husband was cheating on. Maybe I am being preachy. Maybe my words are unpopular, but I think facing up to reality might be a good thing for most men here.

I learn at school that if someone tries to bully you and shut you up you need to stick your face in hers. I think I am doling the equivalent here. Bullying here is different, but seems to be based on the same things and behaviours. I will not be silenced by filling a thread with cooking tips.

One day you may realize an important life lesson: while your life experiences shape your views on the world and make you the woman you are, the world is not a 1 size fits all model. What is right for you may not be right for the next person. You were lucky enough to find a man who loves you for being you. Good for you. Not everyone is so fortunate.

Monogamy is one of your valued core principles. I think it is a bit much to come on this board to chastize married men about their choices to partake in this 'hobby'.

The simple fact is that your relationship will have a better chance of survival the quicker you move away from this world. What seems all encompassing now - how you met, your involvement working as SP and these incessant flame wars are going to define you until you learn to simply walk away and address your issues that are screaming for attention (father issues, self loathing for being an SP, etc ...). But it is much easier to preach/fix everyone else than look inwards isn't it?

WG

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

I think mrsCALoki makes good points about SPs not being allowed to be truly honest about how they feel about hobbyists. And about roaming the net being the new knitting.

Nobody has to prove who they are on here.

 

[Working Girl]

There are some SPs who embrace their decision to work in the industry (usually the ones we see on TERB). And there are some SPs who do the job reluctantly and with emotional baggage. She might one day realize that there is a reason she was able to pay off her debts, a reason there is a need for the existence of this board and a reason that this industry is not going anywhere anytime soon even with her preaching - men pay women for sex. Duh.

WG

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

Working Girl, if you used your working name you wouldn't feel as free to be honest with your opinions about clients because it might hurt business. Isn't mrsCALoki correct on this point?

 

[frankcastle]

No hun,

The bars were stamped with all kinds of information though. I think pretty much anyone with bullion store it in a bank vault. In our case, he opened his safety deposit boxes, pulled out the inner box, put it on a table, and let me play with one of the bars, then slipped it into my (oh no if I finish typing this I will get teased). We moved a few other items around, and went to the lawyers to do some paper pare work for capital gains. Sort of a motorized bill of sale indicating the market value of gold that day.

No kissing the gold, no sitting me on it. No fancy scales. No carving initials into the bars. Just a man showing he loves his wife.

i thought gold bars were heavy such that playing is not feasible.

can anyone confirm or deny that?

how does one store 127 lbs of gold?