So far Evil has stopped responding to me and I'm pretty sure Partyman has as well. So I'm probably talking to no one.
But take a look at their behaviour. When questioned or met with someone with a conflicting belief they choose to ignore it. And let's be fair I have been far from mean or rude by terb or general social conventions.
These guys spend so much time telling themselves that their position is hopeless that they can't believe anything else anymore. This thread has gone on for quite some time with many men and some women all offering support rather than put downs and they still can't get over it.
Heard an interesting fictitious story recently here's the jist.......
an old man is in serious debt. an ugly old woman offers him to pay for the debt but his son must marry her. the woman offers them a choice
a) draw from a bag with a white pebble and a black pebble.
-if a white pebble is drawn she will pay the debt and leave them alone
-if a black pebble is drawn she will pay the debt but the som must marry her
b) not draw from the bag and the father will go to jail for defaulting on his debts
the woman bends down and picks up two pebble to place in the bag. what she doesn't realize is that hte son sees that she has purposely pickd up two black pebbles.
now the boy has a dilemna.
he coolly reaches into the bag and draws a pebble but "accidentally" drops it on the ground where it is mixed with all the other rocks and pebbles on the ground.
he then says "oh well if you look into the bag you will see that a black stone remains, therefore I drew the white stone."
the woman not wanting to admit that the tried to cheat them paid the debt and left.
Moral of the story: even an unbeatable situtaiton can have a solution..... you just have to think outside the box.
The guys who have given up. If they are happy that's awesome. You don't have to date if you are cool with your life. But for those who have put up barriers and excuses you need to think outside the box.
There are plenty of guys here who do okay and aren\t that much different from you. In fact probably more similar than different.
This is one case where being unhappy is a choice because even if you fail at dating you don't have to look at the situation and be unhappy about getting out there and giving it a try.
