FatOne.... I have played my fair share of table top RPGs and do okay with dating.
For nay sayres about short guys..... I typically date women who are my height or taller
For guys looking to date white girls.... I'm asian and date exclusively white girls
Regarding confidence.... what do you think that looks like? To me that means not stammering, able to carry a conversation, and able to show that you are passionate about something. That's not hard to do.
As for approaching and meeting women....hedge your bets..... I've been a big fan of internet dating. It's a numbers game but it did yield dates usually with GNDs but hey that's fine with me. And while you do have to send out a lot of messages it certainly was cheaper than going out to bars buying drinks. In other words try to meet available women...... the cold call of the hottie on the street is a long shot meant for pros or guys okay with getting shot down.
Look I'm short, asian, 15 lbs over weight, working an under 6 figure job and only interested in white girls. If I can get dates any of you can.
Stop looking for reasons why people won't date you because I'm sure you could find someone.
Perhaps the real issue is ...."are you interested in the type of girl that is at your level?"
Not to be coarse but if all you can get is fugly girl..... is that really the end of the world? Maybe she's interesting, smart, kind, skilled.
On the other hand maybe for some having a hot SP from time to time is enough and that's great. In fact that's not a bad way to live.
But choose that life because you like it not because you think that it's the best you can do.
Keep in mind that this is a biased place to ask this question as you are going to get a lot more pro SP votes than other places.