The ten solitudes of Toronto dating

[fuji]

So recently I met a woman who is living in Toronto on an employer-specific work visa. She's from a developing country. She seems literally desperate to hook up with a local boyfriend and make some connection. In fact, I had kind of an off night, I wasn't very talkative, I didn't have much energy, I most definitely did not have "game" last night. In fact I tried to send her home when we finished our date. I was actually taking her there, when she insisted she didn't want to go home...

Awhile back I had a similar situation with a woman who was here on a student visa. Again similar story--there was just about nothing I could do wrong, more like she picked me up, than the other way around.

So these two I met kind of randomly, and I guess life can go on that way, but here is the question:

These women are obviously desperate to meat local guys, and I'd love to meet them. The trouble is we can't seem to find each other. They don't know where to look for local boyfriends. I don't know where to meet immigrant girls looking for local boyfriends. They don't use the same dating sites I use, they don't go to the places I go, they don't know my friends.

Where to meet more of these girls?

I call this the "10 solitudes" because I figure there are a lot of isolated little immigrant communities full of women wanting to meet local guys but not knowing how to bridge the gap and do it.

Thoughts?

 

[Aardvark154]

1) Ok I know this is TERB, but you are married, they are looking for someone interested in marrying them! 2) If you really were interested in them, you would be trying to set them up with suitable men you know.
3) I agree it is sad.
4) if you really want to be depressed try trying to help (Immigration Law) a few such folks!

 

[Captain Fantastic]

Start your own website business for this exact purpose. Put lots of money into marketing on Omni TV and the various multicultural media outlets.

 

[fuji]

I didn't bother mentioning to her that i'm married aardvark.

 

[Aardvark154]

I didn't bother mentioning to her that i'm married aardvark.

That's why SPs are better.

 

[LateComer]

I would be very interested in finding local immigrants looking for a boyfriend. I think fuji makes a good point. These girls are out there but never the twain shall meet. (I'm single if that matters LOL)

 

[DigitallyYours]

I seem to notice a lot of immigrants at

1. the public library
2. in front of the language school at University/Dundas.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

Where to meet more of these girls?

So, what you are looking for, is a convenient way to meet immigrant women who are openly (and honestly) seeking a Canadian partner so that you can string them along, use them for free sex, and the dump them (because you can't offer them what they are looking for).

It's one thing to see an SP and consensually exchange money for services. It's another to take advantage of desperate people for your own personal sexual benefit. Not only that, this thread basically is you asking us to help you find more victims.

Ironically, you also display your total ignorance by even asking the question (which any thinking person could easily answer). However, since you are clearly planning to abuse the situation should you find yourself in it, I'm keeping my knowledge to myself on this one.

 

[LancsLad]

I seem to notice a lot of immigrants at

1. the public library
2. in front of the language school at University/Dundas.

3. Federal government buildings
4. Provincial government buildings
5. Municipal government buildings

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[LancsLad]

Oh boy, I could so go politically incorrect by adding to this list, but I'll leave it to someone with more courage than I.

You can thank me later. ( Big grin ). I have more I could list but I'm waiting to see if any other brave souls venture forth.

I farkin hate polical correctness.

 

[CUTTERBUCK]

I have more I could list but I'm waiting to see if any other brave souls venture forth.

The unemployment office?

 

[alex4you2]

Oh boy, I could so go politically incorrect by adding to this list, but I'll leave it to someone with more courage than I.

c'mon where is the pussy? where is the pussy?... lol

 

[LancsLad]

6. YYZ airport security counters.

 

[danmand]

There are South Korea and North Korea. (ask a korean girl, if you don't know what that means)

 

[fuji]

I love how people on an escort review board feel entitled to judge me, i'm pretty sure that I took that girl our for one of the best nights of her life last night and no I don't feel bad about it. Well, at least we went to all the fun things--I wasn't really energized enough to make it the best, but that was the idea at least. I felt bad--and bailed out--on the other thread when the girl was a 19 year old virgin but this was a 30 year old woman with past relationships. She's old enough to look after herself.

Not only will she be ok, she'll be better for having known me, even though it won't work out the way she may be hoping. I certainly didn't tell her I would marry her, nor at this point have I even given the impression that I would be willing to be her boyfriend.

In fact I think my moral compass is straighter than most of my critics. She was smashed drunk by the end of the night but I didn't take advantage of that. I tucked her in and let her sleep. I fucked her all morning the next day, sober. I bet most of you criticizing me would have fucked her half passed out.

 

[fuji]

That's why SPs are better.

I disagree. With an SP I get nothing but sex for an hour or half an hour. For the same money I took this girl out for the whole evening, slept with her overnight, and had sex all morning. Actually in this case she insisted on paying for dinner, though I paid the rest of the evening (which was more). It's a different experience.

Nothing wrong with SP's, I like them too.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I fucked her all morning the next day, sober.

She may have been sober but perhaps still in a slumber. (Just kidding).

As for what Blue-Spheroid said, I tend to agree with him. It's too exploitive, but then again, those immigrants may feign love just to get married.

Everybody can still be judged on an escort review board, just not openly.

 

[fuji]

I really don't think it's all that exploitative. She has a work permit, she's employed, and she's going to eventually acquire permanent resident status on her own. She doesn't really NEED to get married. What she wants is to build a support network here in Toronto, and in that respect I am a very helpful person for her to know, even though I won't marry her.

Sure she would probably bail if she knew that I was married, and she probably DOES want to find a husband, just because most women want that. I think what she really wants is a combination of a support network--she's completely alone here, and I think that makes her nervous--and also partly a chance to fuck some guys outside her culture. Honestly knowing me is probably a good move in her support network / security sense, I probably can and would help her out if she got into trouble. If one of her boyfriend ends up marrying her she would probably like that, but it's not her only priority. OK, some girl here on a student visa or something might be looking for a husband so she can stay in the country, but both the girls I met already had status that would presumably lead to permanent residence and eventually citizenship just on their own merits. They STILL wanted to make connections with "real" canadians, though, and were very obviously interested in dating outside their culture, and very obviously weren't finding that easy to do.

Actually I met a third girl like that a few weeks ago, too, same situation, also on a track that would lead to PR on its own, who was pretty interested to meet me--but I didn't follow through with her because I didn't think she was attractive enough.

 

[S.C. Joe]

I disagree. With an SP I get nothing but sex for an hour or half an hour. For the same money I took this girl out for the whole evening, slept with her overnight, and had sex all morning. Actually in this case she insisted on paying for dinner, though I paid the rest of the evening (which was more). It's a different experience.



Nothing wrong with SP's, I like them too.

Oh yeah, wait until the child support payments are due, LOL

 

[GPIDEAL]

I really don't think it's all that exploitative. She has a work permit, she's employed, and she's going to eventually acquire permanent resident status on her own. She doesn't really NEED to get married. What she wants is to build a support network here in Toronto, and in that respect I am a very helpful person for her to know, even though I won't marry her.

Sure she would probably bail if she knew that I was married, and she probably DOES want to find a husband, just because most women want that. I think what she really wants is a combination of a support network--she's completely alone here, and I think that makes her nervous--and also partly a chance to fuck some guys outside her culture. Honestly knowing me is probably a good move in her support network / security sense, I probably can and would help her out if she got into trouble. If one of her boyfriend ends up marrying her she would probably like that, but it's not her only priority. OK, some girl here on a student visa or something might be looking for a husband so she can stay in the country, but both the girls I met already had status that would presumably lead to permanent residence and eventually citizenship just on their own merits. They STILL wanted to make connections with "real" canadians, though, and were very obviously interested in dating outside their culture, and very obviously weren't finding that easy to do.

Actually I met a third girl like that a few weeks ago, too, same situation, also on a track that would lead to PR on its own, who was pretty interested to meet me--but I didn't follow through with her because I didn't think she was attractive enough.

So you're telling me that I don't have to go to Cuba?