moral dilemma

[schrodeman]

lol@ moral dilemma.

There is nothing moral about what you are doing and yes we are free to judge you every which way we choose.

Seriously buddy if you dont realise what you are doing to all parties you are just in selfish denial.

Bang on brother.....my bad!!!! Now I see the light.

 

[Major Major]

You're already in too deep...Dont tell her (as it would crush her)...but at the same time you cant keep this up. So just slowly fade yourself out of the picture

 

[Major Major]

I understand FULLY.
Having lived with my father for the last 4 years of his life to care for him 24/7 as he died slowly from Huntingtons.
(A genetic fate i also share at this very moment)
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?288718-going-public-on-terb&highlight=

If anyone can make a MORE honest or informed comment on this topic as i can please stand up



edit: I also have my soul mate, and life long friend caring for me , i give him the option to seek out pleasures( emotional or physical )
that we as a couple can no longer share together , Maybe the OP`s wife should be treated more like a person and not so much as an excuse

All of a sudden you get up on your soap box?? I truly am saddened to hear of your condition.... but

1) Just because he sees escorts does not mean he is turning his attention away from his ill wife. You have no idea what is going on in his houselhld and if seeing SPs makes him a better caregiver then you have no place to comment.

2) In as much as you may understand somewhat...I wouldnt say "fully" as you were caring for your father....in his situation its his wife.... similar but ultimately apples and oranges.

 

[GotGusto]

Lol! How many times have you been the 100th guy?

hahahaha

 

[smuddan]

Bravo. Bravo. Attack me, then attempt to defend being dishonest. If you had read my post, nowhere did I refer to you as stupid. Maybe a long look in the mirror should be in your future. I called you selfish. My question to you would be why are you so hell-bent against being honest? It's quite apparent you that you believe it's only you that's important in a relationship. You never made any attemp to argue my point, rather you chose to attack me. Maybe I should have called you stupid. It now seems to fit. Any names you want to call me, go right ahead. Anonymous internet voices don't scare or offend me. Although my gender makes no difference here, I am a man. Go ahead, take your best shot.

To the OP, remember those immortal words from Shakespeare, "This above all, to thyne own self be true."

Attacking You ? Who threw the first punch ? You called me "a selfish fuck" and now you cry like a baby cos you just got punched back ? Geez, if you're a man, you;ve got to be Sean Avery.

Why I didn't answer your question ? IMO two of the most naive questions often asked when these kinds of topics were discussed were "did you talk to you wife...." and "what if your wife does the same....". Only men never went through this kind of situations would ask and I just didn't see any point in answering.

You said "I made a board statement" and "I don't know any better than everyone...", - we're all here to express our opinions, we may agree or disagree but how stupid is it to assume what I know or don't know ? and who's making a board statement ?

I'm done arguing with you and you can have the last say if that'll make you feel victorious. My suggestion is that you should be talking to your church's brothers and sisters if you want to peach about "spiritual needs" or "we shouldn't be lying" etc. etc.

TERB is too sinful for you.

 

[elwoodinontario]

Attacking You ? Who threw the first punch ? You called me "a selfish fuck" and now you cry like a baby cos you just got punched back ? Geez, if you're a man, you;ve got to be Sean Avery.

Why I didn't answer your question ? IMO two of the most naive questions often asked when these kinds of topics were discussed were "did you talk to you wife...." and "what if your wife does the same....". Only men never went through this kind of situations would ask and I just didn't see any point in answering.

You said "I made a board statement" and "I don't know any better than everyone...", - we're all here to express our opinions, we may agree or disagree but how stupid is it to assume what I know or don't know ? and who's making a board statement ?

I'm done arguing with you and you can have the last say if that'll make you feel victorious. My suggestion is that you should be talking to your church's brothers and sisters if you want to peach about "spiritual needs" or "we shouldn't be lying" etc. etc.

TERB is too sinful for you.

Yeah, I called you selfish. Because everything you've said points in that direction.

The bottom line here, is that the OP is cheating on his wife. Fucking around. I posted my opinion, and you took the first shot at me.
Unless you're the OP, you don't know anymore about this situation than anyone else here.

Maybe you've never heard of a polyamourous relationship, where all parties respect and embrace what each of needs to grow. You may be too closed minded to see anything else that a "Leave it to Beaver" family relationship.

You chose to mock me and my opinions. Hope you live a happy and prosperous life in that closet of a mind you own. Any relationship that isn't based on honesty is destined to fail.

 

[amber-jade]

1) Just because he sees escorts does not mean he is turning his attention away from his ill wife. You have no idea what is going on in his houselhld and if seeing SPs makes him a better caregiver then you have no place to comment.

.

Ask me if i care that you don't like my opinion
That comment is like saying you have no voice here as well

OP posted---> If there are any women who read this I would appreciate your feedback . Thanks.

That was my feedback

 

[Major Major]

Ask me if i care that you don't like my opinion
That comment is like saying you have no voice here as well

OP posted---> If there are any women who read this I would appreciate your feedback . Thanks.

That was my feedback

Ok let me rephrase what I said...see the bold

1) Just because he sees escorts does not mean he is turning his attention away from his ill wife. You have no idea what is going on in his houselhld and if seeing SPs makes him a better caregiver then your comment has no merit.

There....happy?

 

[Mervyn]

Ok let me rephrase what I said...see the bold




There....happy?

Since the no one but the OP knows exactly what is going on in that household, all comments in this thread have merit, they may or may not be correct, but they all have merit.

 

[amber-jade]

Since the no one but the OP knows exactly what is going on in that household, all comments in this thread have merit, they may or may not be correct, but they all have merit.

Only with civil minded people