Who says I have no concern for my wife? Every marriage has it's own unique circumstances and it's presumptious of you to make that comment.
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Very true when it's business. But once they let down their guard and let you in, the expectations can be tremendous.
Best advice you can get.
No I'm saying my wife unfortunately suffers from physical and psychological conditions and requires constant care from me. The fantasy helps me cope.
So its a fantasy.....that you pay for......
Not sure why you posted her SChroiederman.......
Basically you like your SP..she likes your cash....
Oh she will string you along...eat the dinners you buy her...with the hint of free sex...
BUT come on...both the guys and SP's on here know better!!!
Not mush the rest of us can add!
Good luck!!
Not sure why you posted her SChroiederman.......
Basically you like your SP..she likes your cash....
Oh she will string you along...eat the dinners you buy her...with the hint of free sex...
BUT come on...both the guys and SP's on here know better!!!
Not mush the rest of us can add!
Good luck!!
Oh i get it now.
You are suffering because your wife is handicapped , how sweet of you to turn your attention away from her
What did you really expect?Cap 'Crunch.....
Its not that he is being judged......we all fuck SP for our own reasons......
Its just that he is all over the ice about his SP and the dilemma he finds himself in having to 'PAY' her
and surprisingly SHE (The SP) wants FREE SEX...
FREE SEX?????
Duh....
Its not that he is being judged......we all fuck SP for our own reasons......
Its just that he is all over the ice about his SP and the dilemma he finds himself in having to 'PAY' her
and surprisingly SHE (The SP) wants FREE SEX...
FREE SEX?????
Duh....
You've placed her into what is essentially a "fake" world for the purposes of escaping proplems in your own "real" world. You are not coping at all, what you are doing is avoiding your problems by dragging someone else unknowingly into them.
You say you are afraid of hurting her , by lying you already have , the fact she is not aware of the lie yet doesn't matter, you have hurt this woman, your wife, and yourself for that matter, and there is no moral dilema here at all, as I believe you have already decided what you have done is wrong, otherwise you would never have posted this thread to begin with.
Your not looking for an answer what to do, what you're looking for right now is the courage to do what you know is right. So dig down deep and find it.
Not much digging to do Mervyn....do like the rest of us and stop going to or seeing the SP....
Pick another one for 'coping'
Pick another one for 'coping'
I understand FULLY.
Having lived with my father for the last 4 years of his life to care for him 24/7 as he died slowly from Huntingtons.
(A genetic fate i also share at this very moment)
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If anyone can make a MORE honest or informed comment on this topic as i can please stand up
edit: I also have my soul mate, and life long friend caring for me , i give him the option to seek out pleasures( emotional or physical )
that we as a couple can no longer share together , Maybe the OP`s wife should be treated more like a person and not so much as an excuse
I agree Amber. He`s lucky his wife is suffering from physical and mental problems. Maybe she won`t find out. But I`ve been there and done that. To date I`m out $500,000.00. Was it worth it ???? No.......
BS
My question to the OP is, have you had an open, frank discussion about your needs with your wife? We all have needs. Not just sex. If you're taking care of her needs and hiding your own, you are doing both your wife and yourself a great disservice. The longer this goes on, the harder it will get for all parties involved.
Why not? As ladies in the biz, we definitely have some insight into what she may be thinking. I agree with Fuji - you don't necessarily have to tell the woman that you're married (though I also suspect she might already know) but you do have to let her know that you're not interested in a relationship beyond occasional casual sex. If she has developed any feelings for you, it's much better that you tell her sooner rather than later.
I'm not going to comment on the wife as I obviously don't know any of the details.
Regardless of the reasons, no married woman would understand and accept that her husband is having sex with another woman (unless she is cheating as well). They may talk differently if it us someone else's husband.
To tell her the truth would only add undue emotional stress and though she may already have suspicions , the truth will hurt her more, especially in her current physical and mental state.
As for the other woman, I agree with those who say that likely she already knows you're married. Just be careful she's not stringing you along for some agenda. Usually the longer this kind of relationship goes on, the harder and painful the breakup will be.
Thanks for your answer. I just thought that because the relationship is predicated on a fantasy, both parties (customer and provider) should be aware. When we gaze into each others eyes and have great chemistry, quite frankly I'm thinking she must be prepared for any situation and know this is a fantasy. She's the pro. Doesn't she leave herself open for disappointment the same way customer do when they are "falling" for a dancer etc?
Maybe so but if it gets to the point where you are not paying her then it's no longer a 'customer and provider' relationship.
