WTF
How is having an idiot for a friend costly?
In what way do your expenses increase?
Is my friend in trouble??
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How is having an idiot for a friend costly?
In what way do your expenses increase?
What I'm going to say may not be politically correct but chinese women are all about the money. So that would be a major red flag for me, is your friend chinese. I have read quite a few articles lately about men bringing chinese women over and it ending in disaster. Yes i know they are not the only culture guilty of this.
who can you realistically bring over? Latinas, EE and Chinese...
if they didn't like money, they'd be fucking their paisans back home
not sure why it matters
if she is not putting out, she may as well look like Chairman Mao for what I care
My friend is causasian. Does that really matter? I have known asians who do the same thing..
bruce
Chinese women are more calculating when it comes
to gullible white male who fancy Asian female as submissive housewives.
Within their own society Chinese women probably put more value in
marriage compared with western women.
asian or caucasian, no one pays for a woman who does not put out, unless you are married
There is some, but not huge amounts of truth to this at least in terms of women from Eastern Europe.
Yes, having a better life for themselves and their children plays into it, but so does the type man interested in them in the West as compared to at home - particularly so in the case of women with young children, and then there are a host of other factors.
So yes, if everything were the same most women would probably marry men from their own country and cutural etc. . . background. However, everything is not the same.
At the same time, there are indeed Golddigers out there and one needs to be aware of that.
I can understand him covering her expenses until she gets her foot in the door, but he should expect to be paid back. It's not like he's paying for dinner every now and then. He's providing rent, food, clothing, utilities, etc. But it sounds like he's not interested in being paid back. She's taking advantage of him, even if neither of them see it that way. I don't care if she was his girlfriend and she's his soul mate, paying all of her expenses is not something he should do without compensation. It's shows a lack of respect for each other.
My experience with girls from China is that they don’t date.
Most Chinese girls are looking for a prospective husband. They don’t casually date and they don’t sleep around. If a Chinese girl goes out with you, it’s because she’s considering you as a potential husband. If she sleeps with you it’s with the understanding that there will be a marriage proposal pending at some point.
This only applies to the more traditional Chinese girls. This doesn’t apply to the ones that have been westernized.
This girl’s obviously not a slut. She’s not putting out just to gain an advantage. If she’s a traditional college age, Chinese girl then I’ll bet that she’s still a virgin.
The reason that she’s not sleeping with your friend is because he didn’t commit to her.
I think there’s nothing wrong with the arrangement. I suspect that she’s probably a good girl and probably would make a great wife. If your friend really cares for her and is looking to settle down then maybe he’s found a good candidate for a wife.
My advice to your friend is to be honest with her. Don’t misrepresent his intentions just to get some pussy. If he misleads her, then expect a very negative response from her.
Most Chinese girls are looking for a prospective husband. They don’t casually date and they don’t sleep around. If a Chinese girl goes out with you, it’s because she’s considering you as a potential husband. If she sleeps with you it’s with the understanding that there will be a marriage proposal pending at some point.
This only applies to the more traditional Chinese girls. This doesn’t apply to the ones that have been westernized.
This girl’s obviously not a slut. She’s not putting out just to gain an advantage. If she’s a traditional college age, Chinese girl then I’ll bet that she’s still a virgin.
The reason that she’s not sleeping with your friend is because he didn’t commit to her.
I think there’s nothing wrong with the arrangement. I suspect that she’s probably a good girl and probably would make a great wife. If your friend really cares for her and is looking to settle down then maybe he’s found a good candidate for a wife.
My advice to your friend is to be honest with her. Don’t misrepresent his intentions just to get some pussy. If he misleads her, then expect a very negative response from her.
Cinema Face, you seem to have great perspective and insight on my friends situation. Somethings of note: 1) she has completed her degree in China, therefore she is not of "college age". 2) they have already been intimate during there 5 year on again off again courtship. 3) my friend is 15 years older than she.
bruce
Point well taken. However, from his perspective, she has made financial sacrifices coming to Canada. Not only did she pay her own tuition, but she quit her job in China, not to forget also leaving her family behind. Paying for her living expenses was his way of letting her know that she is not making all the sacrifices. Hope this makes sense.
bruce
No offence Bruce...but usually once the person gets "settled" into Canada...their family is not far behind.
I remember a guy who sponsored an Eastern European gal...he treated her like a queen...then one day about a year and a half after "settling in" she advised him that she was married and her husband was on his way over.
I guess the most important thing that can be said about all of this is...trust is the key. However, unfortunately in this day and age...what is trust?
I remember a guy who sponsored an Eastern European gal...he treated her like a queen...then one day about a year and a half after "settling in" she advised him that she was married and her husband was on his way over.
I guess the most important thing that can be said about all of this is...trust is the key. However, unfortunately in this day and age...what is trust?
Wow, that story reminds me of a girl that was dating a cuban guy. She made several visits to Cuba and one time met his family, they guy introduced his wife as his "sister". I guess you can imagine how the story ended. I think we all take for granted how people from around the world view our Canadian lifestyle.
