Is my friend in trouble??
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I must be missing something here.
Where's the upside for him?
He should also be thinking if she's using sex as a bargaining tool now you know that she going to pull the same crap down the line even if they do end up together.
Where's the upside for him?
He should also be thinking if she's using sex as a bargaining tool now you know that she going to pull the same crap down the line even if they do end up together.
she paid the tuition..cost her a small fortune due to foreign student status....
Okay, here is my friend's logic: If he had agreed to marry her, bring her to Canada, then she tell him to f... off, then he would have been pissed for being a chump.
On the other hand, if she gets to Canada by herself, they live together, things go well, and he feels that she is not using him, then he will take the next step towards commitment. If they don't get along, he tells her to f.....off, end of story...
bruce
How can I know what her motives are? Is she playing my friend? He tells me that they have been intimate. She played the sex card for leverage. He accepted the no sex part, which I think was stupid, but I couldn't tell him that. Like the rest of us single suckers looking for real and lasting relationships, he is no different. His non commital at this stage is to protect himself, if things go sour.
bruce
I'm just playing devil's advocate here. Maybe she feels like he just wants sex. Why else would he be in a relationship with someone for five years, ask them to relocate to another continent, take care of them, and not want to get married? Maybe she's with holding sex to see his true intentions.
My thoughts exactly.
He's paying simply to have a woman in his presence?
Yikes. This is heading into omega territory fast.
AFAIK, your divorce is governed by where it happens, not the laws of where you were married.
Your friend should speak to a lawyer specializing in asset protection. Being unaware of his financial situation I can't say what he has to protect, but if he's going to play this stupid game he should at least make sure it doesn't end up destroying his financial life. Anything that he would lament losing should be re-registered in the ownership of a holding Trust or some similar arrangement.
Immigration sponsorship can be rescinded. Common-law (or full-on marriage on dubious pretenses) cannot.
Immigration sponsorship can be rescinded. Common-law (or full-on marriage on dubious pretenses) cannot.
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One should always protect their assets regardless of what type of situation they're in. Marriage, employment, business partnership and so on.
Yes!!! If he does anything less, he is giving an open invitation to be taken for a ride.
A cautious and prudent person who is looking to the future will do this at least, to ensure that what he originally said he would give up (do) is the only thing he has to give up in the end. Until the terms change, as in marriage, they are the same and he should make sure they stay the same! He needs legal counsel to ensure that he is protected in this current circumstance.
Can't you see the obvious? The OP is "his friend"
I feel sorry for the him tho, since there isn't a relationship at all. The girl just wanted to get her Canadian citizenship and he is being used.
This is fine if they follow through and make a decision on which direction to go with their lives.
Is he currently resentful and feeling he made a bad deal? If not, don't put that thought into his head - support him.
He's not out much, she's living in his home so the expenses aren't so great.
As far as CRA goes, if you are living in a conjugal relationship for 12 months, then yes, they will consider you common-law. However, that is only for income tax purposes. Marriage is a provincial matter, and the conditions for a common-law relationship differ by province, and can require as long as three years.
I simply think the you friend is being made a SUCKER, by this cleaver chinese girl, she is getting very thing that a Chinese girl would dream off and in return she is giving your friend nothing at all! I think your friend is a bit not normal to do all these things for her for Zero Return, rather he can have a common law girl over here and bang her every night till she is with him at his house and sleep with her whenever they can find time to make adult love!
You really can't. The best that you can do (or any of us could do in your place) is to give sound neutral advice such as see a Lawyer and discuss asset protection, and be a sounding board for your friend. As I previously mentioned attempting to say you are making a mistake will in all likelyhood merely get him p.o.'d at you.
