I am not convinced that this is so.
The sex the first woman is offering does have a price. You're not (usually) handing it over in an envelope but it's there.
See the thing is noir, is that sex is different for men and women. To a one, at the beginning of every LT relationship I had, her sexual needs met mine. Then that gradually diminished to the point where I always got tired of basically begging for some lovin'. IME at the beginning, women see sex as a way of growing closer to a guy, but once that closeness has been achieved, the need to copulate is no longer there (for them). Where for me, one of the reasons the relationship flourishes is partly due to our sex life. (being as it is 1/3 of the relationship). When that is gone, women typically expect us to change too but I have yet to meet a man whose sexual desire diminishes along with his partner's. In fact, I have NEVER heard of a civvie woman who wanted more sex than her partner and I have never heard ANY male complain that his SO wants more sex than he can provide.
Female high frequency sex maniacs DO exist...
exactly! Sex is only 1/3 of the relationship and if that goes, the other 2/3 better be unfuckingbelieveable. When you're able, the 1/3 that is sex ought to be great while it lasts. Unfortunately, as CG pointed out via his "female sex maniac" comment, civvie women often see sex differently than men. (hence why the "power of the pussy" attitude is so prevalent). WOmen who admit that they like sex probably make awesome partners outside of the bedroom too as they are probably more in tune with themselves than others. This is why I have a couple of friends who are ex sps, I just find SPs to be more progressive in their thinking, more in tune with themselves in just about all aspects of their lives, and more used to open communication than many civvie women.
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See, that's our point right there: if we want sex 3 times a week we "score high on the horny scale" where 3 times a week is average by many standards. I don't find 3 times a week at 50 to be "high", heck when I was in my 20's it was 3 times a day (or more).I was married for a long time, and most of my friends thought I was nuts to not care when my ex went to stripclubs. Most of them also shook their heads when I suggested they take 1/2 hour and just blow their husband for no reason. My ex and I saw SPs together, but it was not an open relationship, "together" was the operative word. I would've been really hurt if he'd fucked other women...but if he did, an SP would've been better than an emotional affair.
I often shake my head at the way some women deal with their husbands..."well-trained" is not attractive to me. One of my favorite things about my ex was that the man could not be pussy-whipped, I respected that about him.
I also often shake my head at the husbands, especially in households where there are young children. Some of them would find that taking some initiative and just doing the damn dishes (without announcing he is doing the dishes) might help in more ways than getting the dishes done. It's overwhelming, frustrating, mind-numbing and soul-crushing to feel that you are solely responsible for the running of a house and all of the childcare...especially if there is another adult in the house, making a mess and getting the kids riled up at bedtime.
Tboy, I know several women whose husband's stopped screwing them...it's not always the women who change the rules. Some people are just more sexual than others, it's not always a gender thing.
You guys who score high on the Horny scale find it incomprehensible that not all guys are like that.
You're "complicated" and we're "oversexed". We're not oversexed, we're "average" sexed and as men, don't see the need to deny ourselves something just because....no particular reason, just "because".
Because simulated intimacy is important to most people who don't get enough real intimacy? There is clearly a market for that. Just as there is clearly a market for NSA sex. To flip that around, what % of sexworkers could make a living providing a 'no release GFE'? Probably not many. There are affairs of the heart, and affairs of the loins. Not to diminish female sexuality in any way, but men are generally more prone to lead with the loins.
If a few folks from a selected group has that problem, then it would be a fair question to ask why??
I don't think you got a good answer to this question, so here goes my 2 cents. GFE is important for being treated like a king. Why men go to an SP or MPA its to have some luxury and be spoiled, as opposed to being dumped on (boss/wifey), nagged (wifey), and told or hinted what a loser they are (world). Chicks like their salons and spas to be fussed over and refreshed well guys like MPAs and SPs for the same reasons. GFE is better than cold, mechanical, or dead fish as it injects some friendliness into the event.
