It's like being stranded on a deserted island with your wife. At day you both eat what little food you can find, but then at night, when she goes to sleep, he sneaks off to eat some mangoes he found hidden behind a waterfall. There's nothing wrong with him eating mangoes, but it's deceitful for him to not tell her about the mangoes. She should be allowed to have mangoes too. But he's selfish.
This Divorce rate surprised me.
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It's not really the same. If you deprive her of mangoes, you are depriving her of sustenance that she needs to survive, and your actions have reduced her ability to meet her goals in life, whereas you had a duty to help her do even better. If you sneak off in the middle of the night to fuck the cute Island girl by the waterfall your wife isn't really deprived of anything. In fact, she probably slept better without your snoring waking her up..
She is deprived of something, if she ran into a cute island boy, but chose not to fuck him because "I'm married, and my husband would never do that to me." It's like she's sticking to eating only watermelons because she's committed to eating watermelon, but you have all the fruit in the world on your plate while letting her think you're only eating watermelon too.
She's eating at KFC because you agreed on eating at KFC and KFC only. But you're going out and eating at McDonald's, Burger King, and Subway without her knowing. I have many more food references Lol
You're a regular borgesmorg but you make a good point. I'd like to know how fuji would feel if his wife did the same to him.
Sexual relationships are inherently hypocritical. Sexual hypocrisy IS the human condition. You either accept that, and love being human, or you reject it, and hate life.
There are several different answers to the question this raises:
1. Suppress your desires, and live a life that is less full than it should be
2. Suppress your jealousy, and suffer a failure to engage emotionally as fully as you should.
3. Accept that this is life, and live it fully.
I chose #3. Those of you who say "I don't cheat" are choosing #1. Those of you who say "open relationship" are living #2. I have no qualms in saying my way is superior.
It's a straight answer. It just so happens that the truth is something you can't accept.
It's pretty simple. I said that when it comes to sex we are all fundamentally hypocritical. It's hard wired into us, and if you reject the hypocrisy inherent in sex, you reject yourself, meaning, you reject life.
There are two non-hypocritical conditions, and one human condition:
Non-hypocritical #1 - you suppress your desire to cheat, and live a less than full life
Non-hypocritical #2 - you suppress your jealousy over being cheated on, have an open relationship, and suffer a failure to connect emotionally to those around you
Hypocritical human condition - you cheat sexually, and get angry with anyone who cheats on you sexually
Only the last is worth living, the other two involve a rejection of the human condition.
I didn't think we'd get a straight answer and I was bang on. Exactly what did you just say? I don't for a second think I'm the only one on Terb who hasn't got a clue what you just wrote. Absolute clap trap.
It all depends on what you define as success. Would your marriage be over if your secret was exposed? If so.. is your marriage really successful or just living on borrowed time? It's also possible your wife knows but has decided she can live with it.... who know. The term success is very broad and vague. Most outwardly successful marriages are just a facade anyway.
That's why you're on Terb on the eve of a long weekend. Before you ask or slap the same comment on me, I'm working and getting paid, while I'm posting.
I agree with your analysis breaking it into the three categories, but not with your declaring your option superior. It may be better for you, but it is not universal. There are certainly people I respect who choose number one, they could not enjoy cheating, and they enjoy the challenge of not doing so. To me, that does not make them inferior. I choose the second option, I am just not a jealous person, so I save on guilt and deception, at no cost to me. I think it would be better if everyone could choose for themself, and not be so critical of the different choices of others.
Sounds like three cut and paste jobs and a waste. A different way of of saying, 'it's my life, get out of the way, and fuck you.' A narcissist of the first degree.
This thread has completely veered off track from an interesting thread about Divorce to the Fuji show.
Blackrock had it right in Post No. 5 of this thread.
Blackrock had it right in Post No. 5 of this thread.
