Interesting thread...my sense is that apart from the actual 1:1 confrontation that actually ensues when a hobbyier just won't accept No! as an answer, there are actually other lingering ramifications....
Case in point...
Recently did a repeat with a lady that I find to be a very gracious and accomodating SP, she's reasonably new to the industry, and things had been going swimmingly until out of the blue she gets a really bad TERB review. When I see her, I ask, "how you doing honey, I know that stuff can be hard to take!?" when I can see she's unusually reserved this time around.
She says, y'know, I can take criticism when its warranted, but the reviewer created an issue by not accepting I don't offer Greek. A real scene. She de-escalated the issue mid-session, but clearly any chemistry that had existed was lost, hence bad session - bad review. She says " Every fucking guy that comes through the door and meets me for the first time becomes instantly obsessed with my bum! But my published services are clearly stated...why do I keep having to go through this difficult discussion each time, and always go home worrying that another "bad" review will result from my refusal of this particular fetish!?" Clearly the issue is stressing her out. In my opinion, its just not fair to treat the ladies like this...sex is supposed to be FUN. When it becomes oppressive, no wonder ladies wind up jaded or downright nasty, worse, lose what original passion for sensuality/sexuality they may have had when entering the industry in the first place.
What bugs me most is that this type of asshat behaviour is what makes women lose their basic respect for men. It's just not necessary, and creates havoc in the hobby world, if not everywhere else. Most men wouldn't put up with that shit in their work-a-day lives if they were being subjected to it constantly, so why do they expect its all good when they're dishing it in their secret hobby endeavours? Just boils down to simple abuse. Not cool.
Good advice - Listen AND Hear what the lady says. Listening is just NOT enough.
Just my 2 cents...
