post questions, receive answers, reject the advice. Odd behaviour when a person consistently negates every point explaining why it doesn't apply to her.
Constant negativity, rejecting other people, on request, to me it would cause stress - stress, the cause of all illness.
It seems you're looking for confirmation of what you already believe. False pride; if you believe it, it should be good enough to act on.
It's tough to engineer a 100% solution, most scenarios turn out successful when the solution is good enough.
It seems just about every working girl here has a cat or dog, they manage diverse work scenarios, so can you. In the GTA 2 - 3 million people travel to and from work at least twice a day, so can you, maybe 2 - 3 times per week? Cats can easily survive 2 or three days by themselves, more, they're solitary animals.
When I was active, I found the hotel room scenario much preferable to condo or apartment. Hotels excel in discretion, apartments not at all, they're no different than a house on a neighbourhood watch street with the old Italian / Ukranian / Portuguese ladies watching everybodies' comings and goings.
Renting / leasing an apartment implies a contract, somewhat long term financial and legal obligations. Shared with another girls means you're obligated to her and to the lessor. In public anyway your track record of interpersonal skills isn't very good: a shared rental would definitely be contraindicated.
I had appointment in a hobby-only apartment 2 SP's shared in Mississauga. After 2 hour appointment she was rushing me and herself out as her partner was due for her appointment. Just a terrible ending; I never repeated.
I never felt comfortable enough in SP's apartment-home, too personal, detritus of real life is on display. Also, you'll eventually leave envelope, Dr's appointment slip, prescription label bottle, birthday card (I've seen them all) with your name in sight.
A hotel room you just walk away.
Anyway, of your two scenarios, I have less objection visiting woman in a hobby specific shared location, provided I can somehow know it's 2 only, not a 24 hour 20+ lady finishing house. But again, based on recent publicity, this would be a big mistake for you.