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nmohan_101

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I have been unemployed for the past month and a half. I have nothing to do at home and I have no money. Yet I keep taking cash advances from my credit cards to see sp's. In the past month I have seen 10 sp's!!!

I am addicted what should I do to stop, before i ruin my self.........!!!!!!!!
 

fun-guy

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Get professional help quick, that is a recipe for disaster in your life.
 

Scarey

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Give your credit cards to someone you trust...a family member preferably....tell them you don't want to go into debt and have them give you the amount you need for food etc and that is it.When the urge strikes you....de stress anyway you need to....once you orgasm..trust me the urge goes away and you'll feel like a million bucks knowing you just did not blow 250$ you did not have.Make THAT your new adrenaline drug.That's what this is about....an adrenaline rush..nothing more.Pm me if you wish.Cheers
 

HG Hunter

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Proof positive of the old saying - Idle hands are the devil's workshop.
Good luck getting things under control.
 

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I have been unemployed for the past month and a half. I have nothing to do at home and I have no money. Yet I keep taking cash advances from my credit cards to see sp's. In the past month I have seen 10 sp's!!!

I am addicted what should I do to stop, before i ruin my self.........!!!!!!!!
Join Lavalife and meet gals that want to fuck for free before you go broke brother.
 

freestuff

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Join Lavalife and meet gals that want to fuck for free before you go broke brother.
OP doesn't have $$$ to join a dating service.
Acknowledging that you have a problem is the first step but are you ready to do something about it? It's easy to talk about what you should do but it's another thing to do it. Get help. We're all horny dudes but we can satisfy ourselves without having to see a SP. So why can't you? Find the answer and get help for that. As for your financial situation, well, you can always file for bankruptcy. But figure out why you need to see SPs so you won't fall for that again (after you file for bankruptcy).
 

freestuff

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Sounds like it's time for you to open up your own agency. That will solve two problems at once: you'll have a job, and you'll be able to bang your employees for free (at least, that's what I've heard). Go for it.
You don't shit where you eat.
 
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My advice is to keep yourself very busy with hobbies (not this hobby) or things to do...lots of things don't require much money like a monthly gym membership or free courses...goto the library...read...take walks...upgrade your skills to find another job...sit in a university lecture...whatever. Just keep yourself busy so that you do not get the urge to blow money that you don't have. And yes, going with what Scarey says...masterbate at home to Internet porn (which most of it is free by the way) so it stops you from seeing SPs.

Discipline man...discipline.
 

Moraff

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Spend more time job-hunting perhaps.

Cut up your credit cards.... obviously you cannot control your budget.

When you feel the urge to go see an SP... whack off. Problem solved. Plenty of free porn on the internet.
 

Questor

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Cut up credit cards. Jerk off at home before you get the urge to go to SP. Find a Sex Addicts Anonymous group. Its free. You will gain insight into your own behavior.
 

HetroGuy

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I hope this isn't too radical but ... how about getting a girlfriend to hold you over until you get a job ?
 

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I hope this isn't too radical but ... how about getting a girlfriend to hold you over until you get a job ?
funny, HetroGuy.

I liked the suggestion of joining a dating site, not all are pay sites; try pof.

In addition, taking the edge off with internet porn is a good idea, as is giving your credit cards to someone you trust. You could also freeze them in a tupperware container full of water; by the time you get them unstuck to use, the urge will probably have passed. Either way, make your credit less accessible.

All of these are just band aid solutions unless the true cause of the problem is addressed. CAMH is free and can direct you to services that are also free, or at least geared to income. When I was fifteen years old and having a hard time, I saw a counselor who charged me 2.00$ per session (geared to income, and since I had NO income, that was her rate).

I would give her my twonie, she would give me my receipt, and my therapy in return. Seek out something like this.
 

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Serious answer:

It sounds like you have a real problem. You NEED help. Treat it like alcoholism, or any other addiction. Look into the sorts of things that have worked for others breaking an addiction.

I am guessing that your personal hardship is making this even worse: You turn to SP's for comfort when you feel bad, your personal situation is bad, you turn to SP's to feel better but that just pushes you further into debt and creates further problems, which makes you feel worse, and on it goes in a downward spiral. You need to break out of that.

Try and find someone in your personal life that you can confide in. Someone you can call and talk to when you think you might be on the verge of doing something stupid. Meanwhile rip up your credit cards and do your best to put your money beyond reach--put it into a savings account that requires a day or two's notice to get it out and destroy your credit cards.

Try and stop cold turkey. Try and develop a feeling of pride when you overcome your urges, learn to feel that it shows you are in control of your life.

Most importantly find a substitute activity. People have been suggesting a girlfriend but that's not right--you aren't seeing SP's like this just because you need the company of a woman. You may feel you are, but you likely have deeper issues around your self image. Try and make new friends, join a club, create opportunities in your life to feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction that have nothing to do with women. Don't NOT get a girlfriend, but don't make another person outside yourself the solution to YOUR problems.

I'm not going to say that using prostitutes is wrong and that you should never do it again in your life, but you are letting it take control, and you are using it as a substitute for something more fundamental. Some people drink responsibly, and some people use alcohol as a substitute for solving the real problems in their lives. Same with sex for money: Some people use prostitutes responsibly, and some people use it as a crutch, and become addicted to it. At the very least you need to straighten out your life before you get anywhere near an SP again, and maybe if your behavior is destructive enough you should call it quits for life. I don't know, only you do.

In the meantime look at what alcoholics do to cope with their addiction, all addictions are fundamentally similar.

Take it one day at a time.
 
Serious answer:

It sounds like you have a real problem. You NEED help. Treat it like alcoholism, or any other addiction. Look into the sorts of things that have worked for others breaking an addiction.

I am guessing that your personal hardship is making this even worse: You turn to SP's for comfort when you feel bad, your personal situation is bad, you turn to SP's to feel better but that just pushes you further into debt and creates further problems, which makes you feel worse, and on it goes in a downward spiral. You need to break out of that.

Try and find someone in your personal life that you can confide in. Someone you can call and talk to when you think you might be on the verge of doing something stupid. Meanwhile rip up your credit cards and do your best to put your money beyond reach--put it into a savings account that requires a day or two's notice to get it out and destroy your credit cards.

Try and stop cold turkey. Try and develop a feeling of pride when you overcome your urges, learn to feel that it shows you are in control of your life.

Most importantly find a substitute activity. People have been suggesting a girlfriend but that's not right--you aren't seeing SP's like this just because you need the company of a woman. You may feel you are, but you likely have deeper issues around your self image. Try and make new friends, join a club, create opportunities in your life to feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction that have nothing to do with women. Don't NOT get a girlfriend, but don't make another person outside yourself the solution to YOUR problems.

I'm not going to say that using prostitutes is wrong and that you should never do it again in your life, but you are letting it take control, and you are using it as a substitute for something more fundamental. Some people drink responsibly, and some people use alcohol as a substitute for solving the real problems in their lives. Same with sex for money: Some people use prostitutes responsibly, and some people use it as a crutch, and become addicted to it. At the very least you need to straighten out your life before you get anywhere near an SP again, and maybe if your behavior is destructive enough you should call it quits for life. I don't know, only you do.

In the meantime look at what alcoholics do to cope with their addiction, all addictions are fundamentally similar.

Take it one day at a time.
Exactly. And I also stress the finding something else to do... Take up a sport like running or biking and just keep yourself too busy to be able to see an SP
 

nmohan_101

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I hope this isn't too radical but ... how about getting a girlfriend to hold you over until you get a job ?
Yeh thats easy! I cant belive I didnt think of that, I'll just head on down that to my local Girlfriend-Mart and pick one up!
 
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