y do i whack too much?

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anytime, i have the idea of going to see an SP/MP, I tend to watch a lot of porn beforehand. I end up whacking so much that by the time i'm finished, i'm too bruised and blue-balled to even see an SP/MP that I end up not doing it

kinda fustrating esp when i miss out on an awesome SP/MP

for the record, i have not employ any services SP/MP/SC for over the last year, mainly because of this.

if my jimmy is beaten down like a gummy bear, no point going cuz it be fustrating

sucks, eh?

P.S. i had a plan to see an SP this friday, but because i notice i was having erectile problem due to too much self-playing, i push it back to sat, was hoping for tues but now another week...

well, not book an appointment but plan to make a call and stuff...fustrating eh?
 
iamaguyunfortunately said:
anytime, i have the idea of going to see an SP/MP, I tend to watch a lot of porn beforehand. I end up whacking so much that by the time i'm finished, i'm too bruised and blue-balled to even see an SP/MP that I end up not doing it

kinda fustrating esp when i miss out on an awesome SP/MP

for the record, i have not employ any services SP/MP/SC for over the last year, mainly because of this.

if my jimmy is beaten down like a gummy bear, no point going cuz it be fustrating

sucks, eh?

P.S. i had a plan to see an SP this friday, but because i notice i was having erectile problem due to too much self-playing, i push it back to sat, was hoping for tues but now another week...

well, not book an appointment but plan to make a call and stuff...fustrating eh?

Funny stuff.

How many John's do the opposite? NOT jerk off for the days before seeing an SP to ensure they will get their money's worth?
 
My 2 cent analysis.

I could not sleep - so I reviewed your posting history. You have started threads concerned about LE, B & S with asian escort services and whether or not girls shower before your visit.

On a few posts you have stated, "oh well... at least I always have my hand".

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see you have to deal with your fears/insecurities about being arrested, getting a disease or getting the b & s routine by a less than reputable sp/mpa before you will follow through ...

Even your name "iamaguyunfortunately" indicates ... ahem ... issues.

I say this would be a perfect guy for Selina's phone sex service - as it will be 'safer' for him to interact. Or maybe find a girl into webcam fun.

Or perhaps you could book a session with an SP who will let you watch her shower at beginning of the session. You could start off slow ... meet a sp who will simply do a dance/performance for you while you jerk off in front of her. Once you get more comfortable around her - then move towards actual physical interaction. But take baby steps at first so you don't freak yourself out.

Or just accept that you are not ready to see a SP/MPA yet - and enjoy your porn guilt free.

Another issue that you seem to be facing is that you are turned on by what you see in Asian porn to such a degree that you are probably convinced that reality will never live up to your expectations. (Probably true ...)

And the last issue is that you have expressed interest in verbally degrading Asian women ("suck it deep, you ho" ...). You may have guilt issues surrounding why this is a turn on to you and if you could actually follow through with this roleplaying scenario. You may also have insecurities about instead of you taking control of your SP/MPA - that she will be the one who controls the session making you feel weak and inferior. More issues for you to work out ...

There are plenty of lurkers on TERB who share similar fears/issues so don't feel isolated. Some people just don't follow through on their desire to use the services provided in this industry. Fear of STDs and fear of getting caught by LE or significant other are main deterrents.

Syn
 
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If it works ...

I't safe sex, and it precludes having to deal with women - who are a leading cause of insanity:p
 
iamaguyunfortunately said:
anytime, i have the idea of going to see an SP/MP, I tend to watch a lot of porn beforehand. I end up whacking so much that by the time i'm finished, i'm too bruised and blue-balled to even see an SP/MP that I end up not doing it

kinda fustrating esp when i miss out on an awesome SP/MP

for the record, i have not employ any services SP/MP/SC for over the last year, mainly because of this.

if my jimmy is beaten down like a gummy bear, no point going cuz it be fustrating

sucks, eh?

P.S. i had a plan to see an SP this friday, but because i notice i was having erectile problem due to too much self-playing, i push it back to sat, was hoping for tues but now another week...

well, not book an appointment but plan to make a call and stuff...fustrating eh?
how can jerking off too much leads to erictile disfunction? I dont get it.
 
jazzpig said:
Maybe you're Scottish.

If it ain't scottish, It's crap! ;)
 
ya honestly...how many johns can hold off whacking for several days before seeing an SP to get their money's worth?

whenever i have the intention to, i end up whacking so much watching porn...

and yeah...the longer i'm away from porn, the more easily aroused i am, and the less intense the porn has to be for be to be turn on....

but yeah...the one time i was off porn for like 4-6 weeks, damn a girl in a bikini gave me a major hard-on but now... yeah...i can't even control myself

it's like porns much better than seeing an SP...


yes, the few times i saw a dancer/SP/MP , i was unaroused by it, oh yeah spend a total of about $1500 and in one session with an SP, only asked for a CBJ...yeah that's how i feel, pay a good $300 for it

i got issues alright ... prolly be that loser who gets rejected by SP/dancers
 
Tarkus said:
Funny stuff.

How many John's do the opposite? NOT jerk off for the days before seeing an SP to ensure they will get their money's worth?


Can you guys actually go days without an orgasm? I think I would go insane. As long as I cool my jets for 5-6 hours before sex I can pretty safely do it twice in an hour.
 
I dunno how you find the time and energy. I do max 1 per day since I was about 18. Anything more is ridiculous. And I usually only go to MPs if I haven't wacked it for a few days
 
nottyboi said:
Can you guys actually go days without an orgasm? I think I would go insane. As long as I cool my jets for 5-6 hours before sex I can pretty safely do it twice in an hour.

I can go 1 week easy if I'm with the wife (vacation and no internet lol!). The hardest part if getting through day 2, then it's a breeze. I think there was a stretch of about 10 days last year when I was traveling for a month.
 
zeebo said:
I dunno how you find the time and energy. I do max 1 per day since I was about 18. Anything more is ridiculous. And I usually only go to MPs if I haven't wacked it for a few days


I actually feel I have less energy when I come only once a day. Perhaps I am sex addicted. What to do?
 
syn said:
My 2 cent analysis.

I could not sleep - so I reviewed your posting history. You have started threads concerned about LE, B & S with asian escort services and whether or not girls shower before your visit.

On a few posts you have stated, "oh well... at least I always have my hand".

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see you have to deal with your fears/insecurities about being arrested, getting a disease or getting the b & s routine by a less than reputable sp/mpa before you will follow through ...

Even your name "iamaguyunfortunately" indicates ... ahem ... issues.

I say this would be a perfect guy for Selina's phone sex service - as it will be 'safer' for him to interact. Or maybe find a girl into webcam fun.

Or perhaps you could book a session with an SP who will let you watch her shower at beginning of the session. You could start off slow ... meet a sp who will simply do a dance/performance for you while you jerk off in front of her. Once you get more comfortable around her - then move towards actual physical interaction. But take baby steps at first so you don't freak yourself out.

Or just accept that you are not ready to see a SP/MPA yet - and enjoy your porn guilt free.

Another issue that you seem to be facing is that you are turned on by what you see in Asian porn to such a degree that you are probably convinced that reality will never live up to your expectations. (Probably true ...)

And the last issue is that you have expressed interest in verbally degrading Asian women ("suck it deep, you ho" ...). You may have guilt issues surrounding why this is a turn on to you and if you could actually follow through with this roleplaying scenario. You may also have insecurities about instead of you taking control of your SP/MPA - that she will be the one who controls the session making you feel weak and inferior. More issues for you to work out ...

There are plenty of lurkers on TERB who share similar fears/issues so don't feel isolated. Some people just don't follow through on their desire to use the services provided in this industry. Fear of STDs and fear of getting caught by LE or significant other are main deterrents.

Syn
well said you probably got him thinking
 
syn said:
My 2 cent analysis.

I could not sleep - so I reviewed your posting history. You have started threads concerned about LE, B & S with asian escort services and whether or not girls shower before your visit.

On a few posts you have stated, "oh well... at least I always have my hand".

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see you have to deal with your fears/insecurities about being arrested, getting a disease or getting the b & s routine by a less than reputable sp/mpa before you will follow through ...

Even your name "iamaguyunfortunately" indicates ... ahem ... issues.

I say this would be a perfect guy for Selina's phone sex service - as it will be 'safer' for him to interact. Or maybe find a girl into webcam fun.

Or perhaps you could book a session with an SP who will let you watch her shower at beginning of the session. You could start off slow ... meet a sp who will simply do a dance/performance for you while you jerk off in front of her. Once you get more comfortable around her - then move towards actual physical interaction. But take baby steps at first so you don't freak yourself out.

Or just accept that you are not ready to see a SP/MPA yet - and enjoy your porn guilt free.

Another issue that you seem to be facing is that you are turned on by what you see in Asian porn to such a degree that you are probably convinced that reality will never live up to your expectations. (Probably true ...)

And the last issue is that you have expressed interest in verbally degrading Asian women ("suck it deep, you ho" ...). You may have guilt issues surrounding why this is a turn on to you and if you could actually follow through with this roleplaying scenario. You may also have insecurities about instead of you taking control of your SP/MPA - that she will be the one who controls the session making you feel weak and inferior. More issues for you to work out ...

There are plenty of lurkers on TERB who share similar fears/issues so don't feel isolated. Some people just don't follow through on their desire to use the services provided in this industry. Fear of STDs and fear of getting caught by LE or significant other are main deterrents.

Syn

As good as my therapist would have done and a hell of a lot cheaper too.:p
 
Pornography vs reality

Porno is the same as any other media representation of reality. It's overly dramatic and dishonest. Even mainstream movies can be misleading. A Beautiful Mind was about a brilliant mathematician who went mad. I read the book after I saw the movie. The movie played very loose with the facts and failed to truly represent the man's life.

The constant viewing of porno to the exclusion of real experiences is a descent into hell. Sorry to be blunt, but that's about it.

It's easy to fall into the trap of satisfying one's needs by the quickest means possible. Sex can be a demanding master. Many years ago, I caved in and started with the old fashioned girl on the corner. Not the best way to break the ice, but the ice had to be broken. These days, you can do much better. I have not experienced the services of a true escort, but I am certain that a well paid SP would help oodles. A better choice might be a sexual surrogate. These women are professional therapists who ease the client into accepting their sexuality and get over their fears. I have no idea where you might find this service, but it is out there.

Spending one's life in a fantasy is a form of theft where you steal from yourself. Move one step at a time, but move on.

Good luck.