WTF were you thinking........

[JEFF247]

Not in New York

If you are considering cohabitation then in the eyes of the law that is marriage so best you can consider is seeing someone that doesn't end up living with you.

I have been married for 12 years and there are a few negatives but there are a lot more positves for me. As far as I see it you have to go into marriage with realistic expectations. You don't get married so you have someone to fuck everyday. Marriage is a bond with your equal other and is more a friendship then a fuck buddy thing.

I forget the legal term, but in NY you are not considered "married". That's about the only reason to stay in NY!!

 

[james t kirk]

as to getting married and worrying about money.

You OWN all you have going into the marriage. A wife does not 'automatically' get half the moment you get married.

And if that is the original thought your best not to get married. Love and marriage is about sharing!

For those with a bundle already stashed....You get to leave a marriage with what you came into it with.

And if your thinking legalities....get a pre-nup!!

With the one exception being the "marital home"

You can own your house outright. No mortgage, no debt. Get married, she owns half. That's the law and there's no way around it. Not even a "pre-nup" which is called a Marriage Contract in Ontario.

 

[james t kirk]

In Ontario, cohabitating (living together) does not carry the same rights a privleges as marriage.

However, that said, it's best to have a "Cohabitation Agreement" there too.

 

[goldie335]

oh man, divorce. One of my greatest regrets in life was never getting married but one of my greatest achievements was never getting married lol.......

Yeah thats it. so you pay for sx instad because i gives more women a chance to have a tblow experience? nice.

 

[beenthere123]

Says the guy whose never met a blood sucking divorce lawyer before?

Second that

 

[trntndr]

I was married for 20 plus years. The first 10 were great, then it started to go downhill. Whose fault? What does it matter at this point - the reality is that both of us could and should have worked harder at it. The most difficult decision I ever had to make, but in retrospect absolutely the right one, was to leave the marriage. Yes it cost me a fortune but you only live once and I've learned that there is nothing to be gained in having regrets.

As others have said, the good that came out of the marriage was my children, and recently grandchildren. The good that came out of leaving the marriage was, most importantly my freedom once more to act independently in all areas of my life. It was absolutely the correct decision for me - and incidentally I have a great relationship with all of my kids (I've continued to work hard on that)

And by the way since I joined the "hobby" community I've met some incredibly beautiful, intelligent, sexy women with whom I've enjoyed some great times and with no strings attached. I have done and continue to do things that would have been

 

[trntndr]

I was married for 20 plus years. The first 10 were great, then it started to go downhill. Whose fault? What does it matter at this point? - the reality is that both of us could and should have worked harder at it. The most difficult decision I ever had to make, but in retrospect absolutely the right one, was to leave the marriage. Yes it cost me a fortune but you only live once and I've learned that there is nothing to be gained in having regrets.

As others have said, the good that came out of the marriage was my children, and recently grandchildren. The good that came out of leaving the marriage was, most importantly my freedom once more to act independently in all areas of my life. It was absolutely the correct decision for me - and incidentally I have a great relationship with all of my kids (I've continued to work hard on that)

And by the way since I joined the "hobby" community I've met some incredibly beautiful, intelligent, sexy women with whom I've enjoyed some great times and with no strings attached. I have done and continue to do things that would have been beyond my reach if I were still in the marriage.

Just my personal experience, for what it's worth. Sorry to have been so long winded

 

[themexi]

The following is all that needs to be said about our "justice" system:

As far as getting rid of a wife from a legal perspective you have an infinitely better chance of avoiding conviction for killing her than you do avoiding a crippling divorce settlement from the divorce & family court system.

If you catch your wife cheating you have a better chance of shooting her on the spot, getting rid of the body & taking your chances that you won't be convicted than you could Ever sanely expect to avoid getting assraped by divorce.

Sure, you have a pretty good chance of them convicting you, but if you're desperate enough & willing to gamble the odds are more in your favor than the almost absolute CERTAINTY a divorce court will destroy you.




How fucked up is that???? If you take the balance of probabilities of legal outcomes the law actually makes it EASIER to kill a wife than divorce her.

For this reason Alone the legal system needs to be not fixed, but eliminated & rebuilt from the ground up, law by law to be truly fair.




Now before all of you white knight assholes that will be screaming "it is never ok to hurt a woman" or "violence isnt ever the answer" or whatever slogans your trendy slogan book is opened to let me be perfectly, %100 clear:

I AGREE WITH YOU. IN FACT I AM BRINGING A VERY REAL ISSUE TO YOUR ATTENTION. You may want to stop droning on & actually LISTEN.





I am NOT advocating violence against ANYONE. All I am saying is that by being manifestly unfair to men AND that destruction in divorce court is so much more certain than conviction in a criminal one that Our LAWS are in fact encouraging violence.

Morals aside, make anyone disparate enough & make the choice to do something horrible a way more appealing option to escape & you have encouragement.