Would you reccomend marriage??

[Dewalt]

When I got married I did it for altruistic reasons, telling my friends "I can make her life better". Little did I know that "making her life better" would include her taking all my shit when we divorced. No matter how hot she is when you meet her, no matter how charming she is when you first meet her, when it is time to split, she will suddenly develop the "whats your's is mine and what is mine is mine". And the law will back her up.

It is cheaper in the long run to not be married and still have kids. You get off lighter in the eyes of the law just being a babydaddy or absentee father rather than a husband. I know that is a shitty way to look at it but that is the corner feminazis have painted us into.

 

[Omega 600]

Marriage is not necessarily 2 people who agree on everything. If you both agree on everything all the time, one of you isn't needed.

Finding one who compliments you and fills the holes in your life is sometimes a long and arduous journey, but well worth it if it happens. Had that in the past, hope to find it again sometime.

 

[freedom3]

I'm starting to regret not settling down.

Why not get married now? As men get older, there are more and more women looking to sign a guy up. I don't know how old you are, but if you are around 40, then you will have no trouble finding a 40 year old woman. You can experience all that marriage has to offer.

 

[Keanu]

Chris Rock's take: " You can be married and bored, or single and lonely. Ain't no happiness nowhere"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6X0Qqxx3f0

Marriage is all about loyalty. Definately not as exciting as the single years but can be much more rewarding. Chris is pretty accurate here.

 

[69Shooter]

Marriage is all about loyalty. Definately not as exciting as the single years but can be much more rewarding. Chris is pretty accurate here.

No he's not! You're happy when you decide to be happy and unhappy when you decide not to be.

 

[Dewalt]

I dunno, 69Shooter. I see my brother trapped between a bitchy wife and three kids. His most interesting and exciting thing that has happened in his life is when he got $300 off a big screen tv a few years ago. He still tells that story like it was a trophy or something.

I would rather have an interesting and spontaneous life. Thank you very much. I get a chance to travel and bang models...who would trade that?

 

[69Shooter]

I dunno, 69Shooter. I see my brother trapped between a bitchy wife and three kids. His most interesting and exciting thing that has happened in his life is when he got $300 off a big screen tv a few years ago. He still tells that story like it was a trophy or something.

I would rather have an interesting and spontaneous life. Thank you very much. I get a chance to travel and bang models...who would trade that?

My point was that real happiness generates from within not from without. We can either choose to be happy or we can choose to be unhappy. It may not always be easy, as life's circumstances change, but it is within each person to make the choice.

 

[HetroGuy]

Trust me - as a person who has experienced marriage - in the long run, hookers are much cheaper.

 

[afterhours]

Why not get married now? As men get older, there are more and more women looking to sign a guy up. I don't know how old you are, but if you are around 40, then you will have no trouble finding a 40 year old woman. You can experience all that marriage has to offer.

but who needs a 40yo woman? when you are 45 you are way better off if you are happily divorsed with kids.

If you don't want kids, marriage is the dumbest mistake in life.

If you have a business that you can run on your own, you don't want to invite a partner who can take a lion share and walk away with it

 

[JEFF247]

I have never been married and don't expect to ever marry. There are to many really shitty relationships out there. Seems as though the ONLY reason MOST people get married is because it's next on the list. 1) Go to school 2) graduate 3) Marry the girl your with no matter how much you argue and can't stand being around most of the time.

 

[blackrock13]

I have never been married and don't expect to ever marry. There are to many really shitty relationships out there. Seems as though the ONLY reason MOST people get married is because it's next on the list. 1) Go to school 2) graduate 3) Marry the girl your with no matter how much you argue and can't stand being around most of the time.

You would be more correct by saying a lot as opposed to most; a lot, a lot, a lot. Yup, if the girls you describe is the one you marry, maybe you get what you asked for.

 

[friendlysmile]

From my experience with marriage, it better left a lone LOL
I rather hook up with an SP at least I know what I getting mostly in some cases.
Beside I am probably saving money not being married!
One thing’s for sure I do not have to be concerned about someone throwing a frying pan at my head LOL

 

[oldstud47]

If I had to do it over again "NO WAY"!!!. Not because of lack of sex but its a full time job. I love my kids I care for my wife but to me its like having another job and I have enough trouble keeping 1 job and I don't get paid for the second one.

 

[wazup]

Yes, absolutely.

The notion that you can replace a marriage with a lot of sex is wrong. The sex is replaceable but it's only a small part of what the marriage offers.

I should say I don't see that much difference between getting married and living with a girlfriend for years--I have some "unmarried" friends who in fact have lives identical to mine just without the piece of paper and that seems to work well too. Either way they've got that core relationship going which I think is pretty critical to a happy life.

This notion that the purpose of a marriage is to provide sex is just stupid, also stupid is the notion that if you have good sex in your marriage you wouldn't want it anywhere else. Both ideas are wrong, and basically miss the point.

Things that are irreplaceable:

-- Waking up in the middle of the night and having a conversation with someone who really understands what you're about

-- Coming home after a long day and sitting around relaxing with a person who knows you really well

-- All the family dramas that you think you hate but somehow wind up being such an interesting part of life

That just scratches the surface--you can't replace that stuff with SP's and you can't replace that stuff with random girlfriends unless they actually live with you and aren't much different than a wife.

This is what concerns me because I've had all the paid sex I can handle, the companionship part is missing. Handing over money for sex gets old and like a routine. For the first time in my life I think I could actually be happily monogomous.

 

[afterhours]

This is what concerns me because I've had all the paid sex I can handle, the companionship part is missing. Handing over money for sex gets old and like a routine. For the first time in my life I think I could actually be happily monogomous.

I hear you bro but the only reason to do it is kids
companionship is like partnership in business - sometimes it's good to have a partner, but if you can manage on your own you don't need a partner

 

[friendlysmile]

This is what concerns me because I've had all the paid sex I can handle, the companionship part is missing. Handing over money for sex gets old and like a routine. For the first time in my life I think I could actually be happily monogomous.

Monogamy – hell no….been there done that. Got blue balls, and the feelings of suffocation applied.
Each has there own experiences….beside I do not like someone making me feel like I am lost in no where land… I would need a very special kind of woman to meet to ever consider that again….She have to like to sit and talk, be open about her feeling and thought…like to kiss and all that nice stuff, I am a cuddle by heart ….LOL

All I ever found/ come across is women who were selfish and self absorb, even left me as a single dad LOL fuck that shit….. rather just keep it simple LOL

Besides I go to the round church so the devil cannot corner me lol

 

[jetfuel]

This is what concerns me because I've had all the paid sex I can handle, the companionship part is missing. Handing over money for sex gets old and like a routine. For the first time in my life I think I could actually be happily monogomous.

I think I am in the same boat as you, I would love a child but not the wife. Of course I would like to do it the "traditional" way but I am not sold on marriage. The pro-marriage arguments here seem weak to me and the thought of marrying a North American woman seems like committing suicide.
As a single guy there is alot of freedom which I would find hard to give it up. I mean at the drop of a hat I can go anywhere and meet some new lady for a liason.
I guess other than my parents, I do not know any people in there 40's that are truly happy in marriage.

 

[wazup]

I think I am in the same boat as you, I would love a child but not the wife. Of course I would like to do it the "traditional" way but I am not sold on marriage. The pro-marriage arguments here seem weak to me and the thought of marrying a North American woman seems like committing suicide.
As a single guy there is alot of freedom which I would find hard to give it up. I mean at the drop of a hat I can go anywhere and meet some new lady for a liason.
I guess other than my parents, I do not know any people in there 40's that are truly happy in marriage.

If your parents are in their 40's you must be fairly young, early mid 20's, few people want to get married at that point. I'm 40 and past much of the partying and wonder what the hell do I do for the rest of my life. Plus by the time I meet someone and have a kid, it'll be at least 2 years, do I want to start a family at that age.

My pickings are slim, divorcees or a younger girl who I might not have much in common with. I've thought of working like a prick til I'm 50, move to the Phillipines, meet a girl, have a kid and still have some freedom. Hang out at the beach, buy a boat, come home for a few months if I want to.

 

[oldstud47]

Monogamy – hell no….been there done that. Got blue balls, and the feelings of suffocation applied.
Each has there own experiences….beside I do not like someone making me feel like I am lost in no where land… I would need a very special kind of woman to meet to ever consider that again….She have to like to sit and talk, be open about her feeling and thought…like to kiss and all that nice stuff, I am a cuddle by heart ….LOL

All I ever found/ come across is women who were selfish and self absorb, even left me as a single dad LOL fuck that shit….. rather just keep it simple LOL

Besides I go to the round church so the devil cannot corner me lol

I love that quote well said

 

[afterhours]

I've thought of working like a prick til I'm 50, move to the Phillipines, meet a girl, have a kid and still have some freedom. Hang out at the beach, buy a boat, come home for a few months if I want to.

I was thinking about it too...but is it the kind of a future that you want to give to a kid?

i mean, if you were a kid, wouldn't you rather grow up in Canada? especially if you are a girl?