Would you be miffed?

[Ryan1967]

I am curious on people’s thoughts on this one. Several months ago I book an hour with a very highly respected and well reviewed (on this site) SP. I book several days in advance, clear my schedule, confirm the day prior and on the day of, she cancels on me a couple of hours before our agreed to session. She feels badly and offers me a discount for our next encounter. The issue is this is the last day that she offers daytime incalls and I am exclusively a daytime hobbiest, so I am unable to take advantage of the offer. Several months go by and just this week I notice she is offering daytime appointments in an ad on the other board. I immediately email her to set something up and ask if I can use the discount she promised me (forwarding her the email where she offered it) and she says no, that it cannot be honoured any more. In her defence, it was 6 months later, but I simply had no chance of seeing her all of that time due to her only offering evening and weekend only availabilities. She also says “how do I know you have not already cashed in that discount”, which I found kind of puzzling...since I have never actually met her...

At any rate, should I be miffed that the promised discount expired? Would you expect an SP to honour a promised discount 6 months later, given the change in availability over the period?

I won’t name the SP here, since I have not met her and cannot comment on her services, but you can PM me to find out who I am referring to.

 

[John Gilbunni]

I thought that said 'would you be milfed'?

 

[marshman]

Suck it up

What's more important - seeing a lovely SP that you've been lusting for OR getting that "discount" ? Personally and only because I'm older and tend to forget things that happened 6 months ago, I'd be inclined to just go and enjoy myself. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Just sayin'

 

[cck]

SPs can increase their rates in less than 6 months. As Poolasaurus mentioned, its not like Costco. Just go see her and maybe she will give you a discount for a 2nd visit.

 

[KingofGirth]

Somewhat similar situation. Last year I won a monthly draw with a local MA/SP for a free MA session. After about 6 months I texted her to see if I could redeem, she said sorry it expired. I said no problem and that was that. Of course I'll never go to said MA/SP again, but it wasn't even worth getting upset over. Plenty more fish in the sea.

KoG

 

[Willow Samoan]

I personally apologize for doing this to you Ryan. I am now going to tell people that they have two months to cash in any discounts/refunds, I give out, so there's no confusion. As a business owner I have to be ever so careful about what I say as I can upset potential clients. I do thank you for pointing this problem out as I have never crossed this bridge or had this problem before. Sometimes I just don't think about situations until they arise.

I do not want to post this on my website as it's a person to person situation.

It is hard to keep track of refunds given out 6 months or later, as I don't have you fresh in my mind, know who you are, or know if you cashed in this refund. Yes, it's likely you have never meet me before but it was so long ago, I'm not reassured by you just telling me that. I have not been available during the day because I have been attending school and although it has been frustrating for some of my clients, they have understood. Perhaps, I should have taken a loss and given you the discount and started my new policies after... I'm not going to make excuses for myself, I made a mistake and I'm sorry.

 

[Coors]

Well said Peachy, and you handled it right. It is perfectly reasonable to assume the discount should be used in the immediate future, and if it isn't it should be forfeited.

You can't win them all

 

[thumper18474]

I personally apologize for doing this to you Ryan. I am now going to tell people that they have two months to cash in any discounts/refunds, I give out, so there's no confusion. As a business owner I have to be ever so careful about what I say as I can upset potential clients. I do thank you for pointing this problem out as I have never crossed this bridge or had this problem before. Sometimes I just don't think about situations until they arise.

I do not want to post this on my website as it's a person to person situation.

It is hard to keep track of refunds given out 6 months or later, as I don't have you fresh in my mind, know who you are, or know if you cashed in this refund. Yes, it's likely you have never meet me before but it was so long ago, I'm not reassured by you just telling me that. I have not been available during the day because I have been attending school and although it has been frustrating for some of my clients, they have understood. Perhaps, I should have taken a loss and given you the discount and started my new policies after... I'm not going to make excuses for myself, I made a mistake and I'm sorry.

Classy response....

 

[justfor]

I personally apologize for doing this to you Ryan. I am now going to tell people that they have two months to cash in any discounts/refunds, I give out, so there's no confusion. As a business owner I have to be ever so careful about what I say as I can upset potential clients. I do thank you for pointing this problem out as I have never crossed this bridge or had this problem before. Sometimes I just don't think about situations until they arise.

I do not want to post this on my website as it's a person to person situation.

It is hard to keep track of refunds given out 6 months or later, as I don't have you fresh in my mind, know who you are, or know if you cashed in this refund. Yes, it's likely you have never meet me before but it was so long ago, I'm not reassured by you just telling me that. I have not been available during the day because I have been attending school and although it has been frustrating for some of my clients, they have understood. Perhaps, I should have taken a loss and given you the discount and started my new policies after... I'm not going to make excuses for myself, I made a mistake and I'm sorry.

A classy response from a classy lady!

 

[wild4sex]

I would be miffed a little since things should not expire.

I once had set up a date with Dorinda while she was offering a discount. Unfortunately she got sick and we could go through with it. I finally got to meet her almost a year and half later. To her great credit she honored the discount at that time and we had a great session.
SPs should not be offering discounts if they don't intend to follow through.

 

[Ryan1967]

I accept your apology Peachy and good luck with your studies!

I personally apologize for doing this to you Ryan. I am now going to tell people that they have two months to cash in any discounts/refunds, I give out, so there's no confusion. As a business owner I have to be ever so careful about what I say as I can upset potential clients. I do thank you for pointing this problem out as I have never crossed this bridge or had this problem before. Sometimes I just don't think about situations until they arise.

I do not want to post this on my website as it's a person to person situation.

It is hard to keep track of refunds given out 6 months or later, as I don't have you fresh in my mind, know who you are, or know if you cashed in this refund. Yes, it's likely you have never meet me before but it was so long ago, I'm not reassured by you just telling me that. I have not been available during the day because I have been attending school and although it has been frustrating for some of my clients, they have understood. Perhaps, I should have taken a loss and given you the discount and started my new policies after... I'm not going to make excuses for myself, I made a mistake and I'm sorry.

 

[radius]

I am always annoyed at being cancelled on, but I feel Peachy went above and beyond when offering a discount in the first place, so I wouldn't hold it against her if she didn't honour it six months later since it is such a long time and you didn't have a prior personal relationship.

The weird thing is this thread has made it more likely that I would give consideration to visiting her haha.

 

[justfor]

I am always annoyed at being cancelled on, but I feel Peachy went above and beyond when offering a discount in the first place, so I wouldn't hold it against her if she didn't honour it six months later since it is such a long time and you didn't have a prior personal relationship.

The weird thing is this thread has made it more likely that I would give consideration to visiting her haha.

You would have done the "right" thing ( as opposed to weird) if you have considered visiting her. Peachy is such a sweetheart you won't go wrong with her. Trust me - I just saw her again this morning, and she has made my day, no.. make it week! :biggrin1:

Sorry, Ryan, for hijacking the thread.

 

[thumper18474]

I am always annoyed at being cancelled on, but I feel Peachy went above and beyond when offering a discount in the first place, so I wouldn't hold it against her if she didn't honour it six months later since it is such a long time and you didn't have a prior personal relationship.

The weird thing is this thread has made it more likely that I would give consideration to visiting her haha.

Classy ladies are alays intriguing. .and a breath of fresh air..

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

I am curious on people’s thoughts on this one. Several months ago I book an hour with a very highly respected and well reviewed (on this site) SP. I book several days in advance, clear my schedule, confirm the day prior and on the day of, she cancels on me a couple of hours before our agreed to session. She feels badly and offers me a discount for our next encounter. The issue is this is the last day that she offers daytime incalls and I am exclusively a daytime hobbiest, so I am unable to take advantage of the offer. Several months go by and just this week I notice she is offering daytime appointments in an ad on the other board. I immediately email her to set something up and ask if I can use the discount she promised me (forwarding her the email where she offered it) and she says no, that it cannot be honoured any more. In her defence, it was 6 months later, but I simply had no chance of seeing her all of that time due to her only offering evening and weekend only availabilities. She also says “how do I know you have not already cashed in that discount”, which I found kind of puzzling...since I have never actually met her...

At any rate, should I be miffed that the promised discount expired? Would you expect an SP to honour a promised discount 6 months later, given the change in availability over the period?

I won’t name the SP here, since I have not met her and cannot comment on her services, but you can PM me to find out who I am referring to.

You'll probably have a better time if you pay the full price rather than trying to cash in on a discount from 6 months ago. I mean she probably doesn't like the idea of making that offer and having to pay for a goodwill gesture so far down the road. She could be really busy now. There are so many guys out there who ask for discounts in some of the most repulsive and offensive ways. It's better to just avoid being associated, everytime someone asks me for a discount it reminds me of the real POS I have to deal with on a regular basis. Also, in the session that she gives you when your getting your discount she could miss out on someone willing to pay full price and tip well. That's my 2 cents. If she's a good SP, she's probably really busy.

 

[Ryan1967]

Perhaps I was not clear...a discount was offered due to a last minute cancellation...then retracted when I was finally able to book, which took 6 months due to a change in the SP's availability. Are you suggesting that no one should ever cash in a discount that is offered since it will align the requester with the POS that most SP's deal with? Really? Perhaps SP's should not offer them then?

You'll probably have a better time if you pay the full price rather than trying to cash in on a discount from 6 months ago. I mean she probably doesn't like the idea of making that offer and having to pay for a goodwill gesture so far down the road. She could be really busy now. There are so many guys out there who ask for discounts in some of the most repulsive and offensive ways. It's better to just avoid being associated, everytime someone asks me for a discount it reminds me of the real POS I have to deal with on a regular basis. Also, in the session that she gives you when your getting your discount she could miss out on someone willing to pay full price and tip well. That's my 2 cents. If she's a good SP, she's probably really busy.

 

[Catherine St.Claire]

Ryan, I think 6 months is a bit too long to wait to cash it in. Because of my retainer option, I have worked with guests who have a credit with me outstanding and unless you want your name listed in someones files for months on end, you should take advantage of the offering within a reasonable amount of time or let it go unless the time limit on the credit is agreed upon by both of you.

A similar situation I have had happen was an appointment from an out of town new guest who booked his appointment almost 3 months in advance. I had to cancel the day before due to a family emergency and offered him a substantial discount if he rescheduled. He graciously said it wasn't a problem but he was unable to reschedule during that trip. Fast forward a year, he books an appointment but I don't recognize the email. After he arrives, over a glass of wine he tells me how long he has been waiting to meet me. As he tells me the story I realize who he was but at this point, he has already put his envelop in the box. I then had to decide if I was going to give him back part of the consideration to honour my offer. If I did the refund it meant I wasn't going to make mortgage that month and if I didn't, I'd be unethical. Either way, I felt like shit. After playtime was over, he mentioned that he was in town the next evening as well which gave me the opportunity I needed to make the situation right. I invited him to come for a hot tub and massage the next evening to make up for my previous cancellation which he gladly took me up on. It was a win/win which he initiated by handling the booking of the second appointment with grace and dignity. I admired his tact and innate class he displayed and enjoyed his company so much that we have the same routine annually when he comes to town. He always puts a tip in an envelop for the second evening but I don't ask and wouldn't be disappointed if one year it wasn't there. If he had emailed me a year later asking for the discount, I would have thought "What a CHEAP TWATWAFFLE" but instead I now have a great guest that I actually look forward to seeing every June. Moral of the story is that when you give a little, you sometimes get a whole lot more back...

cat

 

[DB123]

Twatwaffle...:thumb:

My only problem with the apology from peachy, sans honouring the discount, is why bother? No one knew who he was talking about yet you go out of you way to apologize, all while glossing over the refund and saying that you now have a new policy.

I don't have an issue with the fact that it expired and frankly, unless its the next day, I wouldn't expect a discount even when offered, which has happened because last minute cancellations definitely occur from time to time.

Just seems to me, your apologists notwithstanding, if you're going to go to trouble of explaining yourself when there really isn't cause to do so, throw the kid (I'm guessing) a bone and take a few bucks off the rate. Call is a business expense, as he may then become a semi regular

 

[Ryan1967]

As usual Cat, your insights are always invaluable. What I take from your reply and other SP's who have chimed in...is that a discount offer is not really worth the virtual paper that it is printed on...that if you choose to exercise said discount you will look like a cheapskate or a POS...noted. That the purpose of such a gracious offer is to make the wrongly-done-by-client feel good about about the business acumen of the provider for offering to make things right.

Ryan, I think 6 months is a bit too long to wait to cash it in. Because of my retainer option, I have worked with guests who have a credit with me outstanding and unless you want your name listed in someones files for months on end, you should take advantage of the offering within a reasonable amount of time or let it go unless the time limit on the credit is agreed upon by both of you.

A similar situation I have had happen was an appointment from an out of town new guest who booked his appointment almost 3 months in advance. I had to cancel the day before due to a family emergency and offered him a substantial discount if he rescheduled. He graciously said it wasn't a problem but he was unable to reschedule during that trip. Fast forward a year, he books an appointment but I don't recognize the email. After he arrives, over a glass of wine he tells me how long he has been waiting to meet me. As he tells me the story I realize who he was but at this point, he has already put his envelop in the box. I then had to decide if I was going to give him back part of the consideration to honour my offer. If I did the refund it meant I wasn't going to make mortgage that month and if I didn't, I'd be unethical. Either way, I felt like shit. After playtime was over, he mentioned that he was in town the next evening as well which gave me the opportunity I needed to make the situation right. I invited him to come for a hot tub and massage the next evening to make up for my previous cancellation which he gladly took me up on. It was a win/win which he initiated by handling the booking of the second appointment with grace and dignity. I admired his tact and innate class he displayed and enjoyed his company so much that we have the same routine annually when he comes to town. He always puts a tip in an envelop for the second evening but I don't ask and wouldn't be disappointed if one year it wasn't there. If he had emailed me a year later asking for the discount, I would have thought "What a CHEAP TWATWAFFLE" but instead I now have a great guest that I actually look forward to seeing every June. Moral of the story is that when you give a little, you sometimes get a whole lot more back...

cat

 

[GlavaMan]

My only problem with the apology from peachy, sans honouring the discount, is why bother? No one knew who he was talking about yet you go out of you way to apologize, all while glossing over the refund and saying that you now have a new policy.

Even bad pub is better than no pub. Peachy's apology will likely result in some bookings.