Re: You are all so arbitrary
tweener said:
Tell me where the real harm is if I get a hotel room and my son plays quietly in his pack 'n play while I get intimate with a woman who takes money for sex. Yeah, my threshold may be in a different place than yours, but your morality is so arbitrary. Makes me laugh. I guess it would be wrong for me to have a pizza delivered too. Hell, I better not have any service people come over, especially the cable guy!
I will say this though, the point about putting my son in a dangerous situation is the only legitimate argument I've heard. That I would not do.
my clear headed response without value judgements:
sp's get odd requests all the time. it would be unlikely that any of the upscale sp's would entertain such a request unless they knew you already. i would imagine that most sp's would intitially think it was a crank call ... [you would be amazed at the stupid calls an sp receives on a daily basis ...]
it may be my biased perception of the sp's in the city [i have met many amazing women]... but i cannot really see calling one of the reputable escorts in the city as putting a child in a 'potentially dangerous situation'. fuck. quite frankly, i would be more worried leaving a child with a priest in a catholic church than with a reputable service provider ... opps!
what i am trying to say is that if the baby is sleeping, as a six month does quite often ... there is not a lot of risk of harm to the child, as i cannot see any sp 'harming' a child! nor do i think that a 400 llbs pimp named bubba willcome crashing down the door .. and i do not think that this guy was thinking off picking up someone off the streets ... soo .. i am unclear as to the potential dangers ...
as far as the child 'knowing what's going on' ... does that mean that the child will be emotionally scarred for life because they know that daddy is being unfaithful? ... does that mean the baby will be traumatized because they saw adults having sex ...? i don't think the guy is planning is screwing the sp with the baby in the bed! moreover, many new mothers and father actually save time and take baths with their children ... for shame! children are exposed to nudity at young ages!
my only words of wisdom ... babies have an uncanny sense of knowing when you want them to be sleeping ... and they somehow instinctively know when to start crying ... and crying ... and crying ...
by the way, i had a small number of clients who had older children who were in bed when they called ... sure. i would be a little worried that 'johnny' would wake up and discover me with 'daddy' ... but divorced dads with custody of children need sp's too ...
as far as the fact that this guy has a six month old ... it may have been ages since he has had sex with the wife. many women have uncomfortable pregnancies that make sex out of the question ... and add to the recovery time after giving birth ... i go nuts if i go a week without sex ... this may have been going on for over a year for this guy...! show some empathy, boys!
besides ... in reality, having children changes women emotionally and physically and biologically ... many new mother's do not lose the weight immediately (if ever) and feel self conscious about their bodies ... particularly if they are breast feeding ... there is hormonal madness going on that affects sex drive ... and sex may not be their number one priority. i know some new nother's that think it is a luxury to find enough time to wash their hair ... and track pants seem to be the outfit of choice ...
i am not a mother, but i can only guess that motherhood is a fucking exhausing endeavour ... and just maybe dear mommie does not want to light some candles, put on some sexy lingerie and make slow, sensual passionate love to daddy when baby has finally gone to sleep. so give the guy a break for looking elsewhere or risk looking like sanctimonious hypocrites!
and just maybe ... if daddy got his jollies elsewhere ... he would stop guilting or pressuring his wife into meeting her 'wifely obligations' till she was ready ...
in a perfect world, daddy would love mommie ... or at least daddy would get a sitter to allow him to misbehave ... which opens up a whole other can of worms ... when i was a babysitter, you have no idea the number of daddy's who would be more than 'friendly' on the drive home ... sigh ...
MEN!
other thoughts - some women like seeing a man with a child ... and some women actually like babies - even more when they are not their own.
recomendation: if you find the right sp - make sure she knows that she is responsible for the time specified only ... if the baby is awake and nothing 'exciting' happens ... not her problem.
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