Another reason to not get married is the wedding itself. It brings a year or two of worrying about shit like the colour of the invitations and how to word them to tastefully include all fourteen of the couples parents, step parents etc. Minutiae you don't, give a fuck about suddenly occupies your life, and puts you in debt.
^Spoken from someone who really really really never had kids... If you did you'd know kids strain more marriages than saves them. Once you have kids, then you truly feel trapped to stay in it just for the kids.
^Spoken from someone who really really really never had kids... If you did you'd know kids strain more marriages than saves them. Once you have kids, then you truly feel trapped to stay in it just for the kids.
I'v been married over 20 years. As I posted earlier this year I think it's an insane proposition. To commit to being attached to another person for life is just outrageous. Your both going to change over time and then what.
And just as a quality of life thing..... Who wants to have the same sex partner for life. How boring and un enlightened.
The reason I married was cause I admired my dad so much and he was such a great father and husband. Even when my mom gave him shit for no reason he took it and still provided for her and looked after all of us including her. That was my idea of normal and what a real man did.
Now heading into the second half of my life I've learner how to deal with my wife. When she's in the good zone it's most tolerable. But when she goes off on a tangent or buitches out it sucks. If I was loaded shed be gone. Thank goodness she's still got a nice rack and can be entertaining in bed once in a while.
Still I'd never do it again and would never recommend it.
Oh and for the record..... Most people I know married buitches. My uncle was an honest hard working guy who never raised his voice to his wife and adored her and she was a buitch to him. My grandfather was a great guy. Made lots of one. He is first wife died young and he married a second time. It was 30 year of terror for him. Many friends and family r honest faithful husbands and their wives treat them like garbage. One cousin is a surgeon. His princess wife is a high school graduate who acts all high and mighty and berates him all the time.
I'd never recommend marriage. Never never never!!!!!
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I'v been married over 20 years. As I posted earlier this year I think it's an insane proposition. To commit to being attached to another person for life is just outrageous. Your both going to change over time and then what.
And just as a quality of life thing..... Who wants to have the same sex partner for life. How boring and un enlightened.
The reason I married was cause I admired my dad so much and he was such a great father and husband. Even when my mom gave him shit for no reason he took it and still provided for her and looked after all of us including her. That was my idea of normal and what a real man did.
Now heading into the second half of my life I've learner how to deal with my wife. When she's in the good zone it's most tolerable. But when she goes off on a tangent or buitches out it sucks. If I was loaded shed be gone. Thank goodness she's still got a nice rack and can be entertaining in bed once in a while.
Still I'd never do it again and would never recommend it.
Oh and for the record..... Most people I know married buitches. My uncle was an honest hard working guy who never raised his voice to his wife and adored her and she was a buitch to him. My grandfather was a great guy. Made lots of one. He is first wife died young and he married a second time. It was 30 year of terror for him. Many friends and family r honest faithful husbands and their wives treat them like garbage. One cousin is a surgeon. His princess wife is a high school graduate who acts all high and mighty and berates him all the time.
I'd never recommend marriage. Never never never!!!!!
I certainly hope you change while married and while getting older. does anyone really thing being the same person 20 years down the road is a good thing. The point is to change together, developing a stronger bond.
Yes, but then it can be something you could do as well. I know a couple of guys who can't boil hot dogs and are useless when their wives take off for a couple of days. That's just sad.
It's not just the catch, it's also the match. A good match will more likely be a good catch
Your chances of a lasting marriage will improve if you find someone matches you in significant ways- intelligence, education, income, religion/philosophy, how money is handled, etc...
Think of a prenup like you would think of a shareholders agreement. It lays out the terms of the agreement and clear steps for exiting if someone wants out. It's not a dirty word.
So far, I've never made a claim on my home or car insurance because I stay current with maintenance and repairs on my home and car, and I drive safely.
Does this mean I am a fool for buying insurance? So call me a fool, or a cynic. I don't care. Insurance, shareholders agreements, prenups. It's better to have them and not need them rather then to need them and not have them.
And by the way, men and women, don't judge the gold diggers too harshly; because getting someone with money to marry you is the hardest work there is :biggrin1:.