Why do women go for losers?

[stinkynuts]

So, if you've been following my last post, the girl I liked rejected me, and now I find out she's going out with her ex-boyfriend.

He:

-Cheated on her numerous times, and dumped her
-Is very selfish
-Never pays when they go out
-Is an an acoholic
-Just lost his job

She was always complaining what an asshole and loser he is, and now I'm stunned to see that she's back with him. The guy just lost his job, and it's so fucking obvious that he's using her to pay his bills and for sex.

Why??????

Why do women go out with losers like him? I'd really like to know.

 

[RayFinkel]

I have never, ever made fun of you.
How dare you call me a loser

 

[a 1 player]

Because the sex is great and can overlook the rest because they know it will not be forever.

 

[torontoman_2007]

Because those girls are dumb & losers!

 

[ig-88]

Probably because he's confident (even arrogant) and not boring.

Chicks want someone to be a "man," and even one who's abusive is better than a total wuss. They don't want a guy who's always going to be walked over.

Yes, it makes no sense from the POV that we men think that women are looking for long-term stability and a good provider.

But these days, chicks feel that they can provide for themselves, so they're attracted to someone who exudes confidence and stands up for himself, even if it means he's arrogant and abusive.

Again, none of this makes sense, but women seldom do.

 

[alexmst]

Chemistry is a funny thing.

If the chick digs the guy, she will put up with just about anything from him.

If she doesn't dig the guy, she might date him in rationalization mode, saying "I don't have chemistry with him, but I SHOULD because he is a provider, is nice to me, a good guy, etc." So she might go out with him, but she'll still chase after dumb ass if she gets the chance because she digs him on a chemical level.

 

[Esco!]

I could never figure out why they go for me either

 

[papasmerf]

might be the oder.......was those nuts

 

[Dewalt]

Asn is right, stinky. Women want two types of men in their lives: one "girlfriend" man who will constantly pick up their shit and listen to their problems and the other a "stallion" that they can't control, who will be the cause of their shit.

I posted before that "women aren't that bright" - don't give them any more credit or leeway than you deserve. Drop the whole "nice guy" thing. If a chick wants to "talk at 2am about my asshole boyfriend" then that is a pretty good indication that you have been placed in the "girlfriend man" pile. Easiest way to fix that is say "hey, you asked me for my opinion and I told you he was no good. Next time when you actually take my advice then we can talk but right now it is 1am and I have to sleep - goodbye" then hang up the phone.

Try it, you have nothing else to lose at this point as you aren't fucking her but you are definatly getting fucked over.

 

[Keebler Elf]

Probably because he's confident (even arrogant) and not boring.

Chicks want someone to be a "man," and even one who's abusive is better than a total wuss. They don't want a guy who's always going to be walked over.

Bingo.

They want a guy they can't figure out in 3 seconds. They also want a guy whose a challenge and doesn't fawn over them (if they're hot) like every other guy.

 

[Back Burner]

Fuck I couldn't say it better myself in regards to the 3 last post.

Stop being the fucking doormat and check that bitch at the door. As soon as you start ignoring her she'll be interested.

Women are that complicated(in a fucked up sort of way) , it's you that has trouble adapting to what it takes to get this one.

What do you want from her Stinky? A relationship? Sex? Stop being the shoulder she cries on and be the man. Or plan B, alcohol!

 

[wonkyknee]

because she's invested so much time in him already.

 

[red]

So, if you've been following my last post, the girl I liked rejected me, and now I find out she's going out with her ex-boyfriend.

He:

-Cheated on her numerous times, and dumped her
-Is very selfish
-Never pays when they go out
-Is an an acoholic
-Just lost his job

She was always complaining what an asshole and loser he is, and now I'm stunned to see that she's back with him. The guy just lost his job, and it's so fucking obvious that he's using her to pay his bills and for sex.

Why??????

Why do women go out with losers like him? I'd really like to know.

because they wash their nuts.


listen give up the tramp and move on.

 

[Gyaos]

Why??????

Two reasons:

- The girl always hopes for the Cinderella effect that the Prince Charming of the past will change his ways and just be 100% in. It never happens, but ignorant "Laddi-da" women do go for that. She would need a long period away from the jerk to really be free of it.
- That guy got her clit to stand harder than anyone else.

I suggest to make her clit stand harder. That's the secret. Find her strategy and capitalize on it.

Gyaos Baltar.

 

[Esco!]

Or plan B, alcohol!

It works for me

 

[Questor]

1.) The sex is probably great.

2.) What ig-88 said - Probably because he's confident (even arrogant) and not boring.

3.) Sometimes people are attracted to people because these people resemble a parent. They seek approval from the person just as they would seek it from a parent. They do it on a subconscious level. People with alcoholic/abusive/dominating/submissive/<enter your own disfunctional characteristic here> parents will seek out the same in a partner and attempt to make the relationship healthy i.e. attempt to fix it, but to no avail. They pursue something they cannot have and try to make it right.

Stinky, you may want to consider why you continue to pursue a lady who treats you like a POS. What is at the root of this attraction? Aren't you doing exactly what you accuse the girl of doing...wanting/trying to be with someone who treats her/you with little respect? Please re-read #3 above and consider your own behavior.

 

[danibbler]

Stop spinning your wheels and just get out of there. Life is too short to play high-school mindgames.

 

[torontojohn]

Women definitely want a confident guy who can take over daddy's role, while they themselves take over the mommy role. That's a huge simplification, but a good guide nonetheless.

It's true to some degree even with women who have more masculine personalities. Even abnormally smart very successful aggressive women can end up in an abusive relationship because of this bit of psychology.

To you, it looks like they're going for a guy who treats them like shit, but to them, they're going for a guy who is strong and confident and powerful - even if he really isn't.

I wouldn't go near a woman who lacks the self-awareness to realize what she's doing and dump that kind of guy. One lousy ex, OK, she learned. Two - maybe she didn't catch on right away to the early signs. Three or more - or a repeat of any bad ex, and the women is a waste of your time.

 

[Sabiha]

you guys are wayyy overthinking it. the guy has a big dick and knows how to use it. he fucks her like a porn star in bed. bottom line.

in the words of alexyys k tylor, "dick will make you slap somebody!"

 

[torontojohn]

you guys are wayyy overthinking it. the guy has a big dick and knows how to use it. he fucks her like a porn star in bed. bottom line.

My last recommendation stands, even if that's true. Any woman who is willing to let herself be treated like crap for good sex - when there are plenty of men out there who would provide good sex without treating her like crap - isn't worth the trouble. Write her off.