Why cant nice guys finish first !

[Alexis696969]

Why is it you find a guy who rocks in bed ..but then hes a arsehole outside of bed .
The nice guy sucks in bed ...but hes a dream come true outside of bed .

Is it possible for nice guys that suck in bed to do a 360..after they have been doing it one way for such a long time .

How do you tell a guy without killing his ego that you are into him but the bedroom part isnt mutual ?

I know theres nice guys that do have the total package but dam most of them are married already LOL

 

[dsoul69]

Its not about nice guys and bad guys. Its about what guy fits you like a glove.....inside and outside of bed.

 

[ThePunkPanther]

wellllllllllll

to mine eyes,

as a nice guy, [or so i tell myself sometimes] it is confusing as to why we find ourselves taking care of female friends who have just had some asshat abuse them horribly. [but the sex with the asshat is great, but he''ll change [and never does]].

we're just as confused as you are B6969.

when an answer comes clearly, please dear gods tell us what we're doing wrong.

 

[stang]

Small point, but a 360 puts you in the exact same direction.

 

[nautilus]

Its easier to alter the nice guy in bed. He can change, if you help him.
I'm cursed with being a nice guy, who had to be taught to be great in bed.

 

[MarkII]

It's easy when you aren't looking at forming a relationship to leave the pretentions behind and just "fuck".

But when you like a woman you tend to move forward somewhat slower.
Untill you get signs from the woman that the door is wide open!

M2

 

[frankcastle]

I think this just illustrates that finding the right person for anybody is difficult.

I've been out on a lot of dates where I wasn't interested in the person at all.

Depending on the stage of the relationship sex can play a major or minor role in terms of time spent engaging in sex so I think you have to consider the stuff outside of the bedroom, broom closet, washing machine, shower, backseat of the car etc.....

I agree with an earlier poster that it's easier to make someone a better lover than a better person.

The sheer odds that someone will be the perfect sexual lover is pretty slim given the fetishes/interests/past that each person might have.

 

[hunter001]

Nice guys have less practice. Nice guys spend time get to know working on the relationship.

The others are trying to track down as much tail as possible. Hence they have less pratice with social skills (other then bed hopping). They also have more confidence because they have been around a lot more.

I guess it is mostly come down to ones focus.

 

[MarkII]

It's awfully tough to find a person that is the perfect lover AND perfect mate.

I wonder if the two can actually co-exist?

M2

 

[skypilot]

Women are attracted to guys who are assholes, it is about the confidence the men project and it works its way into the bedroom too. I think nice guys come across as not having alot of self confidence, and not being much of a challenge.
I am a nice guy, but I have learned to treat my women like crap every now and then so they stay attracted to me. I find that when I do treat them poorly, the sex that day is alot wilder and more passionate than usual.

 

[Sexy Violet]

See it's easy: Nice Guys finish last simply because they are nice enough to let the girl finish first! See the thing is, if the guy finishes first, he's going to fall asleep (like most guys do after they come!) and the girl will be left hanging!

I like nice guys who finish last

 

[elmufdvr]

Here's the deal, man...

Unfortunately, many attractive women have VERY
low self-esteem.

Many (if not most) of the REALLY attractive
women that you see out on the town are really out
to get ATTENTION.

In other words, they're not looking to meet a
good guy... they're not looking to find someone
who will treat them well... they're not looking
for "love".

They're looking to fill an empty part of their
self-image.

Attention makes many women feel good. Some
women actually enjoy getting attention from guys,
then acting like they DON'T LIKE IT.

Hey, I never said women made sense.

Have you ever known a woman who wears low-cut
blouses, then complains because guys only look at
her breasts while talking to her?

DUH.

If a woman complains about something like this
to me, I'll say something like, "You know, now
that you mention it... are those REAL?".

lol... i have read this on line and wanted to share it... with you ... nice guys fish last because . .. women want Alfa male in the panties.. guy we all look for the cram of the crop when we look at ladies why should it be different for them... the one thing is you have to remember is that women get hit on 30-40 times a day... ever since they are 16 or 17 years old... ladies when some man holds the door for you open at the mall .. he is looking at you sweet ass when you walk past... remember that... ohhhh yea... that is a sweet ass... want some c@ck.. for that jiggle..hun..

 

[Coach]

Comes down to the difference between making love & having sex. If you really love them, then it isn't sex. It's making love, and that is a hundered times better than sex.
I laugh when I hear women complain about their husband/bf, they complain he's a jerk but he's hot! Give me a break. Besides if the guy is so bad in bed, maybe it's because you don't turn him on.

 

[dsoul69]

So basically. Nice guys jerk off a lot. Assholes, just like the quick bang!

 

[to-guy69]

It's not about finding the right mix...it's about being the right mix in order to attract it yourself.

 

[Svend]

Alexis, I think you need more than one guy.
Keep the asshole great lover for the bedroom, get a nice guy for hanging out with, maybe another one to cook and clean as well.

PM me.

 

[SPQR]

I dunno. I think this topic is a bit of a red herring. A bit of a Myth and/or stereotype.

I know of friends who have great boyfriends and they can't stop talking about how great they are in the sack. Then there are ones who say they suck in and out of bed.

The question is, what drives you to start a relationship with this person? If you're looking for the oustide first, then both of you can explore each and gather new learning experiences. If he is great outside as you think he is, then he should love to explore things with you.

If its in the sack first, roll the dice.

I just can't see people being lumped into categories, at least not at that minute level.

Just my two cents.

 

[Jade4u]

Just have to throw this in

Remember what your mother always told you. If he/it seems to good to be true, it/he usually is. You MAY be being played.

It is rare to find someone that is perfect in every sence of the word. Relationships usually are about sacrifice and accepting the others diffences. Learning to work together etc... in and out of bed. If a man seems to perfect in all aspects never seems to have short comings and always seems to know what to say and how to act. Beware, he may be an expert player.

 

[Shades]

I agree with the posts that make the difference between making love and having sex....all for the former and increasingly finding that I am getting tired of the latter.

When a woman says that you are really a nice guy, the next line is usually ...a nice guy and a good friend. Then they show great reluctance to go to bed with their "buddy" and change the nature of the friendship! So, the nice guy handle often results in very little in the way of experience!

Having said that...good love making is a skill...it can be learned...and it is always important to keep learning which happens with communication. Partners thru "hobby" contacts or other must have open communication...this works, that doesn't work, I like it when you do...etc. It helps when two people have oral communication and not just oral sex!

My two cents.

 

[MissCroft]

I dunno. I think this topic is a bit of a red herring. A bit of a Myth and/or stereotype.

I know of friends who have great boyfriends and they can't stop talking about how great they are in the sack. Then there are ones who say they suck in and out of bed.

The question is, what drives you to start a relationship with this person? If you're looking for the oustide first, then both of you can explore each and gather new learning experiences. If he is great outside as you think he is, then he should love to explore things with you.

If its in the sack first, roll the dice.

I just can't see people being lumped into categories, at least not at that minute level.

Just my two cents.

Ditto - I couldn't agree more.